Sun Sign Secrets (20 page)

The lesson for Scorpios to learn is that there is an important reason that their life does not provide them with as many peak experiences as they would like. They have come into this world with the astrological sign Scorpio because they want to learn how to develop their ability to work their powerful will on the world. The sign Scorpio rules magic, and Scorpios want to make big changes in their lives, the kinds that appear to other people as almost magical transformations.

Recognizing a Scorpio

People who exhibit the physical characteristics distinctive of the sign of Scorpio have strong features, attractive looks, thick hair and eyebrows, and eyes with an almost hypnotic intensity. A Scorpio is inclined to point his head down. Even in repose, Scorpio's expression remains intense. When looking directly at a person, a Scorpio makes his subject feel penetrated. A Scorpio, even when slender, can have a rather thick waist.

Scorpio's Typical Behavior and Personality Traits

• is loyal to family and home
  
• is intensely loyal to friends
  
• is passionate about beliefs
  
• never forgives or forgets
  
• is relentless about winning
  
• flirts only when seriously interested
  
• has very high standards
  
• can be a saint or a sinner
  
• has to maintain his dignity
  
• is a force to be reckoned with
  
• is very brave under adversity
  
• gives ruthlessly honest advice
  
• pursues interests with great zeal
  
• can be quite secretive
  
• will work behind the scenes
  

What Makes a Scorpio Tick?

Scorpios are keen students of psychology and always want to know what makes people do the things they do. Compulsions and strange behavior do not faze a Scorpio one bit. In fact, her curiosity is piqued. Undeveloped Scorpios have a tendency to use their intimate understanding of human motivations for ruthless manipulation cunningly designed to attain selfish goals. While Scorpios are constantly trying to uncover the secrets of others, they guard their own privacy with almost manic intensity.

The Scorpio Personality Expressed Positively

It is in the nature of Scorpio to pursue an interest or endeavor to its limit, regardless of personal cost or effort. That is how a Scorpio best fulfills his destiny. This is a Sun sign of extremes, and Scorpio often takes his desire for secrecy very seriously, resulting in cordial yet careful relationships.

On a Positive Note

Scorpios displaying the positive characteristics associated with their sign also tend to be:

• protective of loved ones
  
• magnetic and dynamic
  
• compassionate and emotional
  
• tenacious and probing
  
• safety conscious
  
• passionate
  
• intense concentrators
  
• sensual
  
• intuitive
  

The Scorpio Personality Expressed Negatively

A frustrated Scorpio can be a difficult and angry person. Usually this is the result of feeling as if she has a lack of power or a sense that her life is not progressing in the way she hoped. Since it can be hard for an unhappy Scorpio to admit any fault, she has a tendency to blame others for her failures.

Negative Traits

Scorpios displaying the negative characteristics associated with their sign also tend to be:

• ruthless and vindictive
  
• jealous and possessive
  
• suspicious
  
• self-destructive
  
• intolerant and sarcastic
  
• obstinate
  
• secretive
  
• moody
  
• insulting
  

Ask a Scorpio If...

Ask a Scorpio if you want to get to the bottom of a mystery. Their penetrating intelligence and ability to put clues together are a tremendous help. Scorpios also have strong powers of intuition, which helps them to discover truths both minor and major. They are also great judges of character, so it is very hard to fool them in any way. If a Scorpio has advice to give, it is best to listen. They aren't gossips and aren't the sort who spread idle rumors. A Scorpio can carry a secret to his deathbed.

Scorpios As Friends

When Scorpios focus their energies on controlling their friends, they find in the end that they, themselves, end up being under the control of others. However, when they turn their efforts towards self-control, the influence they have on both their friends and the world around them seems to be without bounds. It is as if the best way for them to control a situation is to be in control of themselves.

In general, Scorpio likes a friend who recognizes Scorpio's magnetic and intense personality and appreciates that she is deeply caring and emotionally involved. Scorpio chooses only a few friends and expects loyalty from them. Scorpio keeps close friends for many years.

Scorpios have good memories and enjoy telling jokes. They are generous and hospitable toward friends, and also make strangers welcome when they call for help or advice.

Looking for Love

Despite their passionate nature and need to feel as if they are the center of someone's world, Scorpios do not fall in and out of love easily or often. Individuals born under the sign of Scorpio are very careful about the people they choose to become romantically involved with because they want a relationship that lasts. It is hard for them to be casual about any relationship. Scorpios set very high standards, and although they are not looking for perfection, they demand honesty, passion, and commitment.

Scorpios are known for being deeply sexual, but because they are often driven to extremes, a Scorpio may, for her own reasons, be celibate for long periods of time. Even though she is happiest when in a satisfying sexual relationship, she prefers being alone to having a series of one-night stands or short-term relationships.

When Scorpio does find the right person, she moves quickly. It may often seem to the people who know her that Scorpio moves too fast in a relationship, but this is very much in her nature. Scorpio is happiest when power, control, and passion all come together. For this reason she is likely to fall in love with someone whose temperament matches hers. This allows the power in a relationship to be balanced, and Scorpio will not be tempted to be the one who runs the relationship.

Finding That Special Someone

Surprisingly, Scorpios may not make a concerted effort to look for a soul mate. Although this sounds unlikely, it relates to their intuitive sense. They have a tendency to believe that true love and attraction are based on destiny, and that if they are meant to meet their true “other half,” they will. For them, such meetings may happen at a library, bookstore, planetarium, charity event, or church.

First Dates

Scorpios prefer quiet, intimate venues, especially for something as important as a first date. Yet, because they are not particularly talkative, they may enjoy an atmosphere that is relaxing but does not demand constant conversation. The best choice is to surround them with music at a jazz club, rock concert, opera, or even a musical at a dinner theater. Scorpios' deep emotions are stirred by music in ways that words cannot touch. They are a Water sign, so an evening walk on the beach, or a sunset stroll by the lake puts them at ease.

Scorpio in Love

Scorpios are deeply attached to their loved ones. They can be possessive and dominating, but they are also very faithful when they are in love. They believe that fidelity is one of the most important elements in a relationship.

Scorpios aspire to a level of purity that is hard for the other Sun signs to even imagine. Scorpios attract their loved ones like a magnet, and have an almost psychic insight into the motives and secrets of their mates. Anyone who dislikes someone knowing their secrets should stay away from Scorpios.

Undying Love

They may be known as the sexiest sign, but there is absolutely nothing trivial or superficial about the way Scorpios approach love. They believe in sincerity and honesty. However, there is also a negative side to their intensity, which can sometimes lead them to be obsessed by their love for someone. Separation from the one she loves isn't only unpleasant; it is actually painful. It can be hard for a Scorpio to keep from being wildly jealous if she feels that someone is trying to steal the affections of the one she loves.

Expectations in Love

Scorpio expects passion and intensity and absolute faithfulness in her relationships. Although her love life may take on the appearance of a romance novel, this is how Scorpio likes it. She is very demonstrative, and makes her lover feel very special. She expects complete loyalty, and can be the most tender and passionate mate if she feels secure.

Scorpios often rush into having a sexual relationship before they have any other kind of relationship. This dangerous habit it is usually the result of a desire for approval. Because emotional intimacy is so important to them, they sometimes make themselves believe that physical intimacy will suffice.

Scorpios usually keep their feelings and thoughts to themselves, for they are too deep for mere words. However, they do not hesitate to make the perfect comment at the perfect time, especially if it will deflate someone's pompous ego. Scorpios must avoid their tendency to test their lovers against the most extreme of hypothetical circumstances. That can distract them from listening to advice that can help them become more powerful individuals.

What Scorpios Look For

Seriousness and wisdom are two traits that appeal to Scorpios. They like someone with sexual appeal, yet their taste is not likely to reflect the stereotypical image of good looks and sexiness. A quirky sense of humor and a unique perspective on life appeal to them. A Scorpio may often be attracted to someone whom they may feel they have known and loved in a previous lifetime.

If Scorpios Only Knew

If Scorpios only knew that they were not being judged as harshly as they sometimes judge others, they would relax more and not put so much stress on themselves to succeed in everything they do. Scorpios work very hard to impress other people with their efforts, but the one they want most to impress is themselves. This is complicated by the fact that they feel they are being graded, perhaps unable to achieve the high standards they, and others, expect. They should know that it is no sin to take a day off once in a while to rest and regroup.

Marriage

Scorpio is loyal to his partner and does anything for her. But the person who marries a typical Scorpio must realize that Scorpio expects to dominate the partnership. The Scorpio has to feel proud of his partner and her skills, and he goes to great ends to enable his partner to achieve her ambitions, too. Scorpio shrewdness is a vital asset in any partnership.

A Scorpio who accepts orders from a partner does so for a particular reason. For example, if money or future progress is the reward, Scorpio acquiesces. Scorpio waits for as long as it takes to achieve the results he wants. It is unlikely for Scorpio and his partner to have a marriage without extreme ups and downs, and intense highs and lows.

Scorpio's Opposite Sign

Taurus is Scorpio's complementary sign, and even though the two share the virtues of loyalty, determination, and passion, they are very different in other ways. Taurus has the temerity to bring Scorpio down to earth with her own commonsense approach to living, and although Taurus is attracted to Scorpio's mysterious charm, she isn't overwhelmed by it. Scorpio is able to bring out the spiritual potential in Taurus' earthy nature, while Taurus teaches Scorpio how to be patient and sociable.

Pairing Up

In general, if people display the characteristics typical of their sign, intimate relationships between a Scorpio and another individual can be described as follows:

If Things Don't Work Out

Scorpio has been known to harbor anger, resentment, and even revenge fantasies when a relationship ends. It can be very hard for Scorpio to see her own part in a romantic or marital failure, and even harder for her to move past the bad feelings it creates. However, a spiritually evolved Scorpio comes to understand that she must forgive herself and her partner for whatever went wrong in the relationship if she wishes to move on to better things.