Symptoms of SHD
In the next chapter, I’m going to walk you through some powerful steps to getting your heart to a place of complete healing and wholeness, but before we get to the prescription, we need to take some time on the examining table. If you recognize yourself in any (or all) of the descriptions below, do not be discouraged. In the very next chapter, we’ll talk about how to start the journey of healing the broken parts of your heart.
Here are some ways to identify the symptoms of a broken and diseased spiritual heart.
1. Your heart feels bruised.
When you have a serious bruise, you tend to protect that area of your body. With even the slightest poke, you can feel sharp pains shooting throughout the entire area, so you do everything you can to keep it covered. This is the same way with a bruised heart. You’re sensitive, you’re defensive, and you get nervous around people because you don’t want them to hurt you. Your heart has already been hurt enough; you don’t need anyone new coming and poking around in there. You feel like you can’t really do what you want to do in life because of the pain you feel on the inside.
Many of us have bruised hearts along with very valid reasons why we are hurting: the domineering spouse who tore you down; the bosses who belittled and ignored you; the parents who called you stupid and no good; the rape, the incest, or the physical and emotional abuse. Many of us were victims in a very unfortunate environment, and then many of us went on with life and made some terrible choices that only caused more bruising.
As long as your heart stays bruised, you will live your life small—even if you possess a big vision inside of you. Remember, your heart is the canvas upon which the vision of your life is painted. If it is ragged and torn, your vision will be, too. But the wonderful blessing of being a Christian is we have God’s power within us to bring about the healing we need; all we need to do is embrace His promises.
2. Your heart is angry.
Whenever something doesn’t go quite the way you planned, you get mad. You’re mad because you have the wrong job; you’re mad because the person in front of you isn’t going fast enough; you’re mad because your pants didn’t fit this morning; you’re mad because you broke a nail. You try to manage your anger, to control your outbursts, and to be nice and sweet, but the moment something goes awry, you’re yelling four-letter words and kicking the cat.
Probably the worst thing about losing your cool is how terrible you feel afterward. As soon as you simmer down, the guilt and condemnation begin to flood in, and you feel like a failure. You apologize for the millionth time to your spouse, or your kids, or the boss, or your friend, and you wonder if you will be able to ever get out of this crazy cycle.
You
can
stop reacting with anger if you will come to a place of realization that the problem lies within your heart. Remember we read in Proverbs 4:23 that all the issues of life spring forth from the heart. Yours is broken with anger, and unless you purposefully work to build new habits and thought patterns, you will never start to turn your life around toward a more peaceable existence. It’s not everybody else’s fault; it’s not that anyone is out to get you; it’s simply somewhere along the road of life you have been hurt and anger is the only way you know how to release it. Nothing is impossible for you when God is working through you. You
can
learn to live without anger.
3. Your heart is afraid.
You’re afraid of getting hurt. You’re afraid of what people might say. You’re up at night worrying about what might happen. Fear is a torment of the devil that tries to rob you of the joys from everyday life. When fear is always in your life, your heart is broken. You will pull back the borders of your life in order to avoid those things that you fear. Because of fear, so many people will not step out into the vision they have inside, and instead they settle for a mediocre life, experiencing only a shadow of what they know they could become.
According to 2 Timothy 1:7, “God did not give you a spirit of fear, but one of power, love, and a sound mind.” If you are a Christian and you are united with Christ, you have the power within you to withstand the temptation to live in fear. Sometimes you need to grab hold of the Word of God and do whatever you know God wants you to do even if you are terrified! That is better than sitting on the sidelines of life waiting for the feelings of fear to subside. The only way to get rid of fear is to face it. I always say, “Fear pounded on the door, faith opened it—and nothing was there!” Fear is scared. If you will just stand up to it, it will flee from you.
If this is an area you struggle with, take some time to reread and reread again the first section on faith. Faith is the opposite of fear, and much, much more powerful.
4. Your heart is pessimistic.
“That probably won’t work.” “It’ll never happen.” “I’d never be able to do that.” “It works for them, but it would never work for me.” Do you hear yourself saying these kinds of phrases? Do you see the world as good or as bad? In terms of how you embrace life, do you often see possibilities or impossibilities? Do you wake up in the morning and think, “Something good is going to happen to me today!” Or do you say with resignation, “Dear God, I wonder what’s going to happen today . . .”
A pessimistic heart is a broken heart and will always find excuses about why life is so difficult and how things will never get better. You will never be able to live in the abundance God has provided for you if you are caught in these types of beliefs.
Everything
about a life with God is going from glory to glory and living from blessing to even more blessings. If you are a pessimist, how can you possibly receive His plans and purposes for you?
If you find you often tend to believe the negative, it’s time to heal that broken heart. In addition, you’ve probably never allowed yourself to establish a positive and prosperous vision for your life. Remember, Jesus came so that we—and that includes
you
—would experience an abundant overflowing-with-blessings life (John 10:10). No matter how many years you have dwelt in pessimism, you
can
learn to be the one who sees the glass as half full.
God cares about the condition of our hearts. He is concerned about what is in and what is coming out of our hearts, because that determines the quality of our lives and our ability to see our visions come to pass. God is for you, and He wants you to succeed, maybe even more than you do. He needs His kids to be a reflection of His goodness, mercy, love, and prosperity so the world will be drawn to know Jesus. Let’s get our hearts whole so we can be those bright lights shining in our neighborhoods, in our workplaces, and in our cities.