The Douchebag Bible (61 page)

the line between consensual sexual activities and the

violent act of rape. He’s amazingly self-centered; he

complains bitterly about the limits on his desires to

put his penis where ever he wants as an awful

example of feminism controlling his sexuality,

completely oblivious to the fact that what he

ultimately wants to do is control other people’s

sexuality, putting it in service to his fantasies.”

What PZ Myers obviously is unaware of is that

I am a submissive who places the pleasure of my

wife/owner far above my own. Well, actually, it's

more accurate to say that giving her pleasure is what

gives me pleasure. But who I actually am is of no

consequence—feminists like PZ Myers would rather

debate a straw man than address my actual

arguments. Is this because they're stupid cowards?

Yes. Yes, it is.

Am I biased here? Perhaps I am. But my

experience has been that every feminist I’ve ever

spoken to has wanted me to make concessions that

I’m uncomfortable with—not because I don't like

their implications, but because the foundation of the

arguments that they are predicated upon seem weak

to me.

For instance, have you ever noticed that rape is

one of those issues where we’re discouraged from

looking at multi-faceted answers?

Don’t get me wrong, blaming a girl's flirtatious

nature or revealing outfit for her rape is repugnant

and, worse, inaccurate. However, just declaring,

“rapists are evil,” and never examining anything

beyond that assumption seems equally ignorant.

We know that rates of rape are different from

society to society. We know that what constitutes

rape is different from society to society. We know

that attitudes towards victims of rape are different

from society to society. So why can’t we have a frank

discussion concerning the anthropology of rape, the

sociology of rape, the sociobiology of rape, the

psychology of rape, etc.?

Why do we have to settle for easy answers and

applaud the safe, morally-delineated-to-the-

maximum-degree pablum of the feminists?

To be fair to the feminist point of view,

accountability does, at the end of the day, rest on the

shoulders of the rapist. But we’re in denial if we

think

that

environmental

factors,

genetic

abnormalities, mental illnesses, societal attitudes,

belief systems, legal systems, particular subcultures,

etc., don’t have an impact. If they didn’t, you’d see

far greater parity in the rates of rape from one place

to another.

There's no way to stop rape effectively and

permanently if we refuse to take a sober look at the

phenomena and what actually causes it. And the first

step is to demythologize the rapist; to look at rapists

as human beings being driven by impulses rather

than monsters powered by evil.

A rational society would give those with these

urges a place to go to talk address their feelings with

professional help—instead the very feelings that

cause rape are taboo. Those who experience said

feelings are treated as pariahs if they give voice to

their feelings. Doesn't this only put them at risk of

offending? Doesn't this current attitude remove the

very societal constraints that might have stopped

our hypothetical rapist from raping? If you are a

monster just for wanting to do it—then why not go

ahead and do it?

We can't continue treating people like

monsters and then wondering why they have so few

reservations about doing monstrous things.

One of the frequently brought up feminists

arguments when this topic is broached pertains to

childhood victims of rape and sexual abuse. Surely I

don’t blame children for getting raped? No. Nor do I

blame adult victims of rape for being raped. The

entire notion that I, or any reasonable person,

blames rape victims for their rapes is a giant straw

man that emerges solely from the inability of certain

people to allow any nuance into this issue

whatsoever.

The feminist have created a dogma—and part

of that dogma is the following absolute: the victim is

totally blameless in all ways, at all times and under

all circumstances. Failure to accept this premise

unquestioningly and without reservation or

exception makes you a “victim-blamer” in the eyes

of certain segments of the feminist community.

Children are, of course, entirely blameless in

their victimization because they lack power,

experience and autonomy. If mommy or daddy

decides to sneak into his or her child's bedroom,

what recourse does said child have at its disposal to

prevent the rape they are about to endure? What

preventative measures could the child have taken?

What ability did the child have to even recognize or

understand the threat? No one could conceivably

pin any responsibility for a sexual assault on a child

victim. That would be absurd.

Adults are not similarly powerless, however.

There are preventative measures that they can take.

• Take classes in basic defensive techniques

• Carry a weapon

• Avoid walking home alone, especially in

certain areas.

• Make sure someone always knows where you

are

I’ve heard women (and men, to a lesser degree)