The Secrets Of Female Sexuality (5 page)

Imagine if she could meet a man who met all of her needs. A man who made her feel appreciated, a man who evokes a deep powerful emotional connection with her, a man who makes her feel feminine and womanly and sexy, a man who gives her hot passionate sex. It's the kind of thing women dream about.

Through her life experiences she begins to understand what she must have in a man. Some look for it in handsome men, some in popular men. She must have that feeling. But through a process of trial and error, including disappointment and despair, she begins to understand what she doesn't want in a man. Like that guy who cheated on her, or that guy who was too much of a marshmallow.

If she meets a man who is exciting, she finds that he is reckless. So she looks for a man who is considerate, but he becomes boring. So she goes with a man who is macho, but he ends up being uninteresting. So she seeks a man who is intelligent, but he is sexually bland. So she takes a man who is dominant, but he is in every way demanding.

If she could only meet a man who had all the things that could make her feel what she needed to feel. A man who is exciting without being reckless, considerate without being boring, macho without being uninteresting, intelligent without being bland, and dominant without being demanding. That sounds like a contradiction. But it's not. A man does not have to be reckless to be exciting, and he does not have to be boring to be considerate. But most men don't understand that. Which is why women say....

So, when I talk to women, they light up when I talk about this. I will say to her, “I have asked women what they look for in a man, and what they tell me is...” (And I hold out my left hand to the side) “On one hand, they find a man who is exciting, but he is reckless and inconsiderate.” (And I hold out my right hand to the side.) “And on the other hand, they find a man who is considerate, but he is boring.” (And then I point both of my hands to myself.) “If there could be just one man who has both, who is exciting AND considerate.” They love that. And it all gets linked to me!

It is obvious why it is important that all four things be there. A woman is most fulfilled when she is with a man that she has everything with. But here is the extremely important aspect of all four things being there:

That is when she is with a man that she is wildly crazy about. That is when she can allow herself to become completely naked to him in every way. That is the pinnacle. That is when she is with a Masterful Lover.

Women live a life of dichotomies. They need dichotomy in their lives.

During the day, she is that proper educated professional woman with a career. But at night, in the bedroom, she wants to express her sexuality like a slut. (Without being a slut. Big difference.)

During the day, she wants to be in control of her life and her destiny. But at night, in the bedroom, she wants to be submissive and told what she will do sexually.

A woman wants to be known by most of the people in her life as being innocent. But with her man, she wants to be naughty.

On Sunday mornings, she teaches Sunday school. On Saturday nights, she is slutty.

Certainly, every woman is different. Each woman has preferences, norms, and extremes unique to her.

A woman is attracted to the dichotomy in her man. Her man must be sensitive, yet strong. Caring, yet dominant. Sweet, yet able to tell her what she will do sexually.

A woman is attracted to a man who is serious and focused about his career during the day, but at night can be light-hearted and people- oriented.

A woman is attracted to a man who is confident (Not cocky. Big difference) but who also does not take himself too seriously.

With the right man, a woman can allow herself to act dirty. (Without being dirty. Big difference.)

In the living room, a woman expects her man to use proper anatomical terms, like penis and vagina. In the bedroom, she expects him to use slang terms, like cock and pussy. If he uses slang in the living room, she sees him as inappropriate. If he uses proper terms in the bedroom, she just laughs.

When a woman feels secure, cared about, and special, then she can be turned on about being someone's horny bitch. She can be turned

on about being fucked doggy up the ass while having her hair pulled and ass slapped. She can be turned on about watching her man fuck another woman. She can be turned on about being double penetrated by her man and his buddy.

All of the above assumes a mentally healthy woman with a good sense of deservedness. It is true that there are mentally screwed up women with a bad sense of deservedness, and practicing the above is more of an affirmation to her, rather than a healthy expression of her sexuality. (Very big difference.)

And another thing... Some men blame society, or religion, or strict upbringings, for repressing female sexual expressiveness. We know very well that women don't want to be sluts, but the reality is that they get slutty for us all the time. We hear women say they would never do a one night stand, but the reality is that they do it anyway!

Society does not impose anything upon women, at least in Western cultures. Women choose it that way themselves. Women are social creatures. They want all that social establishments have to offer. If there weren't a societal structure, women would create one.

Women are social creatures. They prefer it that way. They want to know if the man is a social creature. They want to know if he can work within the social rules. They will run him through all their social tests, and when he passes, they fuck him silly. Simple really.

Women will continue to sustain the social norms and enjoy being on the arm of a proper gentleman, and women will continue to surrender to him when he fucks them hard like the very naughty sluts that they love to be. Stop worrying about society, or religion, or strict upbringings; instead, embrace the dichotomy of woman-kind.

Women don’t want to be seen as sluts, but in the context of sexual intimacy with the man they trust, they love to be slutty.

In her everyday life, a woman does not like to be told what to do. But in the context of sexuality with the man she trusts, she responds very powerfully to being told exactly what to do.

Women are repulsed when strange men send her pictures of their erect penis. But in the context of sexual intimacy, they find it a huge turn-on when their man gets an erection.

Women are repulsed when strange men masturbate while fantasizing about her. But she finds it very exciting when her man masturbates while fantasizing about her.

Women do not like it when men are possessive, relationship-wise.

But in the context of sexuality, she loves to be “owned.”

Women do not want to be objectified. But in the context of sexuality with her trusted lover, she loves to be treated like a piece of property.

Women are repulsed by the idea of being sexual with their father.

But in the context of sexuality, she loves to call her lover “Daddy.”

Females have the biological imperative to reproduce. Natural selection has weeded out the ones who are not driven to have sex.

The female orgasm serves two purposes. First, since it feels so good, she will want to do it often. Secondly, it serves to create muscle contractions that pull the sperm into the uterus.

The female orgasm is very much a subconscious thing. She cannot consciously will it to happen. Similarly, if her subconscious objects to having an orgasm, for whatever reason, it will not happen.

Men have the biological imperative to reproduce. We are all very familiar with that. Men are also subconsciously driven to please women because it gives our sperm a better chance of making it to the egg. So it is completely understandable that we want our woman to have an orgasm.

The most important lesson I learned from my phone sex period is that female sexuality is all mental. That is where the real power is.

I had become very good at giving women amazing phone sex using very descriptive narrative of what I would do if I were there. So I thought I'd push things even further.

I'd see if my voice alone could give her an orgasm. No stimulation whatsoever.

I would ask the woman which hand she was holding the phone with. Then I’d tell her to place her other hand behind her head and keep it there.

Then I would go into my usual narrative, but I would go into much more detail, excruciating detail.

I would start slowly and softly and sensually. That would go for about 5 minutes. Then I’d build it up a bit louder and a bit faster and more sexual for about 4 minutes. Then I’d go with very fast and loud vulgar description for about another 2 minutes.

Then they would have an orgasm!

An orgasm created by only the brain. No physical stimulation whatsoever.

Of course, they would be flabbergasted. And they loved it.

This happened with many other women. It was always very consistent.

I later learned hypnosis, and things REALLY started to take off.

Since I could give a woman a mental orgasm, I wondered if I could give a woman an INSTANT orgasm, by simply telling her to come.

After I made her come mentally, I’d let her rest for a while, and then I’d hypnotize her. This worked both over the phone and in person.

While under hypnosis, I’d simply tell her that when I say the words “come now” she will instantly have an orgasm.

Then I’d say, “Come NOW!” And she’d INSTANTLY have an orgasm!

After her orgasm subsided, I’d let her rest for only a few seconds and then I’d say, “Come NOW!”

And she’d instantly have ANOTHER orgasm!

I would repeat the exercise enough times to make it permanently reliable.

Then, even after hypnosis, or even on another day, I’d fire it off as many times as I wanted! Fun stuff.

This has also been very consistent across women.

The female orgasm has always fascinated me. It usually lasts for about 20 seconds. I wondered if I could extend it out further.

I learned from my phone sex period that I could extend a woman's orgasm out another 20 or 30 seconds by telling her right when she starts to come that I am about to come. Women love it when their man comes, and they want to come at the same time.

When she started coming I’d enthusiastically tell her that I am going to come. I’d tell her to keep coming because I am about to come.

After her orgasm had gone for about 20 seconds, I'd grunt deeply like I was coming and I'd tell her to keep coming. I’d make it very vocal and lasting for about 20 seconds. By doing this, I could get her orgasm to extend out to a minute.

I wondered if I could extend it out for as much as 5 minutes!

But I wouldn't be able to do it by continually telling her that I was about to come.

Since I had mastered the female orgasm through mental, I figured I could leverage that.

I'd cause a mental orgasm. Then with hypnosis I'd create an instant orgasm. Then another.

I would work her up to such an orgasmic frenzy that she was totally lost in it all.

Then I'd create one more instant orgasm and I'd simply TELL her that she was coming so hard that she couldn't even stop coming until I tell her to.

She would keep coming!

I would continue the intense vulgar narrative to keep her going. This went on way beyond 5 minutes! It went on indefinitely!

I would get women to come for an entire HOUR!

Knowing what I learned from hypnosis, I decided to try doing it without any hypnosis. I got it to work!

I would not have to hypnotize a woman after all. And it was very consistent across women. They could all do it.

Orgasms are the convincer. When she is having wild screaming orgasms beyond anything she has ever experienced, or even imagined, she is convinced that her man has a powerful sexual power over her.

Orgasms are addictive. A woman will become so addicted to the extended incredible feelings and the neurotransmitters, that she will HAVE to keep getting them! And it causes her to become VERY bonded to her man.

Do it to your woman, and she will be CONVINCED. She will KNOW that you are her MASTER!

At least in the bedroom that is. Which is the way she prefers it.

All women have wondered what it would be like to have a penis.

For men, it is all about penetration. Women have no concept of that. But they have all wondered... what would it be like...

I learned hypnosis in March of 2000. The first thing I did with hypnosis when I returned home was to hypnotize my girlfriend.

I made it her reality that she had a penis!

It was real for her. I made her jack it off (it was wild watching her crank away like a pro) and she had an orgasm! It was a real orgasm!

Since then, I have done that with a number of women. It was real for them. They actually had penile orgasms.

They described the orgasm as “external.” No surprise there.

Interestingly, they all bragged about how big they were and how far they shot. Ha ha

Asked what they would like to do with their new penis, the requests were among one of the following three:

1. fuck a beautiful woman;
   

2. get a blow job (from a man and woman); and
   

3. fuck her boyfriend hard up the ass like the dirty dog that he is. So, with hypnosis, I made that real for them too.
   

The bizarre phenomenon that appeared is that they each felt a sense of “power” in having a penis, and they each felt “possessive” of what they fucked. Traits that are generally typical of men.

Make something real for a woman, and all the associated traits become real.

And then I worked it so that I could do it without hypnosis. And that worked consistently too!