The Secrets Of Female Sexuality (7 page)

But when she's with you, because you drive like a man, you are dominant; simply tell her that she is being naughty. In that context, nothing is taboo.

And be sure to tell her that it turns you on! That will be her justification.

I cannot tell you how very important and how powerful this is. Your most powerful tool in the bedroom is not your tool; it is your voice. It is by far the most powerful tool.

A lot of men have trouble doing that. They are concerned that she will take it wrong, or that she will be offended or insulted, or that it would make her a slut.

Women don't want to be a slut, but they love to be slutty. In the right context, with her man that she trusts and respects, in privacy, under his care and direction and watchful eye, she loves to be slutty.

Start things slowly. Build the sexual arousal. Then begin introducing the dirty talk. Let the sexual arousal increase. Be sure to do it with absolute conviction. It must be believable.

As the sexual arousal increases, the context changes. Everything you say in heightened sexual arousal is taken in a completely different context. She will not take it wrong, because:

It is all mental stimulation.

Phone sex is dirty talk on steroids.

In phone sex, you can get very raunchy, and she can respond powerfully to you. You start off easy and then slowly ramp it up to be extremely explicit and crude and rude.

You can get away with things in phone sex that you have not yet been able to get away with in person. Some day they may be possible.

In phone sex, you bring her through experiences mentally. Once she has experienced it in her imagination, once she has made it real in her mind, and it is associated with heightened sexual arousal, she can later experience it in person.

Because it is phone sex, it is just a fantasy, and so she can go along with it. But once she experiences it in her mind, it has become real for her subconscious. And thus, it can later become true.

Orgasms are the convincer! Without wild screaming orgasms, nothing will work.

Give her new orgasms in new ways.

If she's never had an orgasm, give her her first orgasm. If she's never had a vaginal orgasm, give her a vaginal orgasm. If she's never had an anal orgasm, give her an anal orgasm. If she's never had a nipple orgasm, give her a nipple orgasm. If she's never had an instant orgasm on command, give her an instant orgasm on command.

Bring her through these new experiences. They are powerful convincers that increase her responsiveness to you.

But it’s not just that you give her orgasms, it’s that you have a lot to say about when and how long she has an orgasm. Be dominant!

Lawyers have a saying, “A lawyer never asks a question in court that he does not already know the answer to.” I would add to that, “A

true lover never asks a question in bed that he does not already know the answer to be ‘Yes.’”

Get her sequentially saying yes. “You love it when I do this.” “Yes.”

“It feels so good when I do this.” “Yes.”

“This makes you so excited, doesn’t it?” “Yes.”

“You want me to

.” “Yes.”

This sets up a pattern for her following your lead.

Get to know her fantasies. Describe them back to her as you masturbate her.

Make up some fantasies. Lead her mentally through those fantasies as you masturbate her.

Introduce new fantasies using phone sex.

Use Role-play to act out fantasies. Since it’s just “make believe” she can feel much more comfortable about playing the part.

Once she has played the part, it has become real for her in her mind, and she is much more apt to actually do it for real.

With you, she's going to do all those things she dreamed about experiencing, and even some she never dreamed about.

You are going to lead her through these experiences, such that you and her are going to experience these things together in real life.

You are always pushing the envelope just a little bit. Little baby steps at a time.

All of these things that you bring her through continue to open her up, continue to release that massive sexual potential.

It is a bad thing to be possessive of your woman from a relationship standpoint. It demonstrates fear and weakness.

But in the context of heightened sexual arousal, it is a very powerful thing to be possessive of your woman.

“Who’s naughty little slut are you?” “Yours, Daddy.”

And for the really advanced level (brace yourself) treat her like a piece of property.

Bring her to a fetish party and pull her around by a collar and leash.

Make her wear lingerie and heels around the house as you ignore her.

After doing this for an appropriate amount of time, you then take her and use her to get off.

Apply with a thick coating of dirty talk.

Get her to the point of total surrender, making her completely naked to you in every way; physically, emotionally, and spiritually.

After an emotionally powerful sexual experience, you MUST ground her again. You must make her feel close to you and secure

with you. You must demonstrate to her how very important she is to you and how much you appreciate her. You must re-establish that emotional connection and intimacy.

This prevents her from later feeling sleazy and cheap, it makes her become even closer to you, and it makes her look forward to the next episode even more.

You love women. You are fascinated by women. You adore everything that defines a woman as woman. You derive no greater pleasure than giving a woman the most powerful long-lasting pleasure of her entire life.

A woman is most fulfilled when she is wildly crazy about her man. When she feels beautiful and feminine and sexy. When she feels naughty. When she is aroused beyond description. When she can't get enough.

You appreciate the massive pent-up sexual potential in a woman, and you bring that out in her, until she surrenders herself completely to you, allowing herself to become totally naked to you in every way.

A woman's pleasure is very cerebral. Her mind is the most important factor. You drive her wild with desire.

You understand that women are highly sexual creatures that crave intimacy, and you are comfortable with her sexuality. Women are far more sexual than men. Women have elaborate intricate fantasies beyond anything men can imagine. For women, it is largely mental and emotional, and about being swept away.

Being a Masterful Lover is about being personally and sensually powerful.

Being personally powerful is about empowering beliefs, self- reliance, a sense of deservedness, and Being The Man.

Being sensually powerful is about enabling her to enjoy everything that comes with being a woman, by expanding her envelop of sexual experiences, and bringing out in her that ruthlessly expressive natural woman.

Everything you need to completely fulfill a woman is already within her. You bring it all out in her because you command respect, you earn trust, and you lead her.

Too many men see women as an obstacle to get around to get to the sex. Such men are just masturbating inside an object.

What you are seeking so relentlessly is nothing that comes from outside of you; it's something you already have.

The key to having what you want is not getting what you want, but being the person for whom getting what you want is a mere byproduct of the reality you create simply by the way you live life.

It builds a foundation of belief that is very real and a relationship with reality that is very empowering.

It is about two people celebrating being human beings. She is the feminine complement to your masculinity. You are the masculine complement to her femininity.

She knows that you can make her think powerful thoughts and feel powerful emotions. She becomes ultra-responsive to you.

There is nothing more natural than a man and a woman being together.

Stop thinking about getting sex from women. Think about giving women really good sex. Women are highly sexual creatures, and you're the man who's going to oblige her needs!

You are the man who's going to leverage her emotional soul to connect with her, her romantic heart to entice her, her innate sensuality to excite her, and her downright horniness to satiate her, and then do it again, and then again, until she is delirious with pleasure, ecstatic about being a woman, totally loving life, and wildly crazy about you!

In my “David Shade's Masterful Lover Foundations,” I write about the correct knowledge and beliefs to being a Masterful Lover. This includes sexual techniques for giving women incredible pleasure, being comfortable with her sexuality, and developing the enabling beliefs for sexual confidence.

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In my audio CDs, I tell you “one step at a time” how you can use a woman's fantasies to lead her to become a ruthlessly expressive sexual being; “How To Set The Foundation For A Wild Sexual Relationship.” And I tell you how to use sexy dirty talk to drive her wild with excitement; “The Art of Sexy Dirty Talk.”

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In my “David Shade's Masterful Lover Manual,” I write about what it means to ‘Be The Man’ that women desire and respond to. This also includes the really advanced far out stuff for giving women indescribable pleasure.

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In review: Start out with “Foundations.” Get good at the sexual techniques and develop your sexual confidence. Then move to the audio CDs. Get good at using sexy dirty talk. Then get into the really advanced stuff with the “Manual.”

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All this and more can be found at my site for developing yourself into a personally and sensually powerful man.

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Give women incredible pleasure, David Shade

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