Understanding Sexual Attraction (5 page)

Chapter 8: Attraction Characteristics that Will Differ from Girl to Girl

Women are all different, so there will always be exceptions. There will be things that some girls will find more attractive than other girls. I will go through some of these things with you to help you understand what these things are and why they are different.

Cultural
- In different cultures people have very different upbringings, so you can't expect all triggers of attraction to be the same. Some triggers of attraction are created psychologically after years and years of social conditioning.

For example, there are women that have been socially conditioned by family, friends, and culture not to be attracted to a certain race. This isn't natural as human beings are naturally attracted to other human beings, regardless of race. So
sometimes you will have to take factors like this into account. To find out how you can use this to your advantage read any of my books The White Guys Travel Guide on Where to Go to Get Girls, The Asian Guys Travel Guide on Where to Go to Get Girls, or The Black Guys Travel guide on Where to Go to Get Girls.

Location
- Location plays a big role in changing what women find attractive. This is usually because in that area, when a certain feature is rare, it is either very sought after or the complete opposite. For example, in South America if you have blonde hair and blue eyes, these features will be seen as very attractive. Those features are very attractive down there because they are so rare. However, in the United States these features are looked at with indifference, because they are not rare.

You have a characteristic of her first love, first boyfriend or father
- When you have one of these characteristics it becomes a psychological anchor. When she witnesses it, it connects her to those happy feelings that she had with previous men in her life that she cared deeply for.

You have a skill that she values
- Some people come from sports families, others, musical families. If you are a good athlete, and you meet a girl who grew up in an environment where sports are number one, it will cause a lot of attraction. If you are a musician and you meet a girl from a musical family the same thing will happen. If you meet a single mom, and show her you are good with kids, again it will be a very strong attraction trigger.

You have a skill or characteristic she wants in herself
– Some women will see a characteristic in you that they want and admire. This is very common with the personality attribute of being fearless, because most people have very strong fears. Another way this could happen is if a girl who is very insecure about how shy she is, sees an extraverted guy. She will hope it will rub off on her and subconsciously she will believe that her kids will be more extraverted if coupled with an extraverts DNA.

You have a physical feature that corresponds with her
- When a girl is very tall it makes it harder for her to find a guy who she won't emasculate by being with. Because of this, when she does see a taller guy, it will make her much more attracted to him. She will see him as rare, and a good match for her.

Another example of this is penis size. There are girls who really like their guys large downstairs. This isn't by choice. Most these women have larger genetics when it comes to their vaginas. Their vaginas are bigger so if the guy is small it won't feel as good. If one of these girls
notices that you are big it will be a very big attraction switch because it will subconsciously signal more pleasure.

On the other hand there are girl
s that are genetically very small down there. They cannot have sex with a bigger guy without a lot of pain. These girls will prefer smaller guys. If you weren't born gifted down there, don't let it be a game changer, girls care as much about penis size as we do about how tight they are.

You are in a position of power
- When a man is set up in a position of power, women are going to feel attraction for him. You may have noticed that many supermodels end up in relationships with their photographers. The photographers are in a position of power all day long, and it makes the girls more attracted to them.

One of the reasons that it is so unethical for a teacher to sleep with his student is because he is in a position of power. This will make the girl feel an attraction for the teacher that she would not normally feel.

Chapter 9: The Sexual Attraction Value Quiz

This is a test to see what your sexual value is to an average girl. This is not an exact science, so understand that this will be a bit vague, but it will give you a good idea of where you stand and where you need to improve.

Take out a piece of paper and tally all the points that you personally gain from attraction and how many points you lose. Honestly answer every question. Don't share these results with anyone. These are only for you. Keep in mind that the average guy brings out only 0 to 5 percent of total Base Attraction in a woman. While selecting which point category you fall under, 0 will usually mean average.

1) Looks- 38
% (
first thing a girl will notice)

Facial

-5 to 5 points for face, 0 is average

Ove
rall Body
(don't count height)

-5 to 5 points for body, 0 is average

Height

6'2 to 6'4: + 3 Points

6'5 to 6'7: + 2 Points

6' to 6'1: + 2 Points

5'11: + 1 Point

6'8 to 7': 0 Points

5'9 to 5'10: 0 Points

5'7 to 5'8: - 1 Points

5'5 to 5'7: - 2 Points

Under 5'4: - 3 Points

Age
(strictly adheres to the age of your target girls)

3 to 5 years older
:  2 Points

0 to 2 years older:   1 Points

6 to 8 years older:   1 Point

9 to 10 years older: 0 Points

1 to 3 years younger: 0 Points

11 to 20 years older: - 2 Points

4 to 10 years younger: - 2 Points

20 to 30 years older: - 4 Points

Note* Scale won't work on cougars

Health

-5 to 1 points for health (1 for looking completely healthy)

Style

-2 to 2 points for style

Hygiene

-5 to 1 point(s) for hygiene

Range: -30 to 20

2) Money and Status - 30%

Money
(Annual Income, American Dollars)

1 million or more: 5 Points

300,000 to 999,999: 4 Points

100,000 to 299,999: 3 Points

70,000 to 99,999: 2 Points

50,000 to 69,999: 1 Point

30,000 to 49,999: 0 Point

20,000 to 29,000: -1 Point

10,000 to 20,000: -2 Points

5,000 to 9,999: -3 Points

0 to 4,999: -5 Points

*Note if you are a student
, give yourself 0 Points

Status or Fame

You are famous to most the people in your country: 5 Points

You are famous to most the people in your city: 4 Points

You are renowned in your profession: 3 Points

You have a prestigious career i.e. Doctor:  2 Points

You have a semi prestigious career
i.e. Lawyer: 1 Point

You are not known: 0 Points

You are known as a child predator: -5 Points

Accomplishments

0 to 3 Points

Social

You hang out among famous people:  3 Points

The Mayor comes to your birthday party: 2 Points

You have a large network of medium to high status friends:  1 Point

You have a network of normal status friends: 0 Points

You have a network of low status friends: -1 Point

You have only one or two
low status friends: -2 Points

You have no friends: -3 Points

Add +1 If you show obvious
potential for Money or Status.

Range: -13 to 16

3) Personality Attributes - 32%

Confidence

-3 to 3 Points

Desired by women

-2 to 2 Points

Intelligence

-1 to 1 Points

Identity

-1 to 1 Points

Leader

0 to 1 Points

Dangerous

-1 to 1 Points

Mysterious

-1 to 1 Points

Adventurous

-1 to 1 Points

Fearless

-1 to 1 Points

Protector, Dominant

-1 to 1 Points

Passionate

-1 to 1 Points

Charming, Charismatic

-1 to 1 Points

Aloof
(opposite is needy)

-1 to 1 Points

Fun

-1 to 1 Points

Range: -16 to 17

Add up your points and see where you stand. The perfect score is 53, but there isn't one person on the planet with that score. 0
to 5 attraction score is the average person.

Take a look at your score and note
the things that you are able to improve about yourself, then look at the time it will take you to improve them. It might be smarter to make yourself very fun, aloof, charismatic, passionate, and adventurous instead of dedicating your entire life to making millions, and ending up with a woman feeling the same amount of attraction for you.  If you are not the best looking or tallest guy, why not counteract that by spending some time at the gym and getting back more points that way? This is only meant to show you what women will find attractive and what priority you should set to each attribute. You may be able to raise your score a lot easier than you thought.

Total Range: -59 to 53

Average: 0 to 5 Points

30-50 Your sexual magnetism is so high no scale can judge you.

25-30 You are considered a 10.

20-25 You are considered a 9.

15-20 You are considered an 8.

10-15 You are considered a 7.

5-10 You are considered a 6.

0-5 You are considered a 5.

Less than 0: The best that will be attracted to you are 5's. There are many ways to improve yourself so that you get a positive ranking. Work on them one at a time and you will find yourself attracting more and more women.

Fun Score: I calculated Brad Pitt’s score at age 30. He had a 45.
That means he hit 85% of attraction triggers on the average woman. Wow! I believe it is one of the highest attraction scores ever.

IMPORTANT!

Body Language +20 or -20

Body language is special because you can show most of the attractive characteristics without even opening your mouth. You can also show negative characteristics in your body language so it is an important aspect to work on.  I will be covering more about body language in my next book.

Attraction Tricks +10

You can raise your value by using the attraction tricks from the book. Sometimes it will only be for the moment, sometimes for more time. This is a very important part of attraction, but it is another book entirely. Inner game should be focused on first. Not the tricks, those tricks will only help you in the moment, and the attraction will wear off quickly. So focus more on developing the right types of personality attributes first.

Final Chapter

As a man you should be actively trying to make yourself more attractive to the opposite sex. Whether you are in a relationship or single, the more attractive you are to women, the happier they will be with you. Now that you have a clear understanding of what it is women are attracted to, you can start developing and improving yourself in the right areas. Don't get discouraged. Remember, life is about self-improvement and the way we can continue to be happy is if we continue improving ourselves.

Make sure to check out
my next book on Body Language, and look for more news about it on my website
https://njworld.wordpress.com/
. To learn how to tell if a
girl is interested in you, read my previous book on body language. Sexual Body Language: 120 Body Language Signals That She Likes You
http://www.amazon.com/Sexual-Body-Language-Signals-ebook/dp/B007RZBML2/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1350821835&sr=8-1&keywords=120+body+language
.