Understanding Sexual Attraction (3 page)

To become adventurous take some trips around the world to some exotic locations. Not only will telling her about your trips hit her attraction trigger for
the adventurous attribute, but it will turn you into more of an adventurous person by nature. Remember the key word here is adventure.

Fearless

Fear is the number one thing that holds
us back from what we want to do. When you show a woman that you have conquered it, she will feel a very strong sexual attraction for you. Fearless is not really being fearless, it is more conquering fear. It means being brave at all times. Bravery is something that has been revered for thousands of years. Bravery is something that is needed to face many challenges and obstacles. As a man being brave will make you more successful in everything you do.

A bold
man, who is not afraid to take risks, is usually a successful man. Risk is part of life. A fearless man accepts that and embraces it.

Becoming fearless is as simple as facing your fears. If you are afraid of something
, you must face it or else it will control you. Eleanor Roosevelt once said "Do one thing every day that scares you." She understood the value in overcoming your fears. Do that for a year, and you will be a changed person. However, use common sense as well. The purpose for us as human beings having fear is to keep us safe.

The other thing that will make us fearless is und
erstanding. We fear the unknown, and when we understand the unknown that fear goes away. If you fear women, it's because you don't truly understand them. Understanding will help with a lot of your fears.

To show to women that you are fearless, maybe you could break an obvious social r
ule in a funny way. For example, while spending time with a girl you could walk up to a complete stranger and ask where you can find lingerie. This may sound ridiculous, but you will come off as fun, and most importantly, fearless.

Protector and Dominant

All women want a man who can
protect them. They also want a man who embraces man's natural role. This is a large reason a man who has very little muscle and is weak willed is not considered attractive. You want to come off as a person who can take care of himself and others. You never want to let other people walk all over you.

To become this type of person you could start taking martial arts
classes. Knowing that you can take care of yourself physically will make you come off as a protector. Also, hitting the gym and putting on muscle will cause you to seem more like a protector and more dominant. Understand that you are entitled to whatever you want in this life. Body language will also improve this personality attribute greatly.

An example of ho
w you could show this trait is: while you are driving, and you have to break really fast, move your arm over as to protect the girl sitting in the seat next to you from flying through the windshield. It will hit a very strong attraction switch. Or if you are walking down the street together and a shady looking guy is walking towards you from the other direction, put her on the other side of you and keep yourself between the shady looking guy and her. She will notice this.

The reason women want this is because a dominant man who can protect her can also protect her children. These days that isn't needed as much, but a thousand years ago this was almost a necessity. That hardwired attraction for a man like that won't be w
eeded out after a couple thousand years of policed societies.

Passionate

Passion is something all women find attractive. A relationship filled with passion is exciting. A passionate man is
someone that enjoys life, not somebody that lives a droll, boring, nine-to-five life. When somebody is passionate about something it helps others around them to see what is good about the world.

To become more passionate you need to look at life with vigor and
fire. You are lucky to be alive and life is short, so live it to the fullest. You need to enjoy every moment of your life. If she asks about work you don’t have to say "Oh I'm just a construction worker." You can say "I go to work and I get to create something new every day with these hands; I help make some of the biggest structures in the world." It sounds a bit ridiculous, but if you say it like you mean it, it will be the sexiest explanation of a job that you can give.

Charming and Charismatic

People are
n’t born with charm and charisma, people have to learn it. Whether they start learning when they are three years old or thirty, charm is something that people have to obtain themselves. It's what can turn a boring story into an exciting adventure. You can use charm and charisma to get yourself out of any tight spot. They are very powerful tools, and not only for creating attraction with women. Charm and charisma are mostly shown with body language, which I will touch upon later.

To become more charming and charismatic, the best thing I can tell you to do is to watch people who are
charming and charismatic. Watch them over and over again. Imitate how they talk, how they smile, and how they move. Go out and practice speaking with people, but don't just talk, focus on being charming. Focus on saying what you want to say in a smooth and eloquent way. Before you know it you will master this tool that has single handedly turned so many guys into ladies men.

Aloof

Being aloof is an attraction trigger because it is the opposite of needy. An aloof man doesn't need anybody. Girls find this very sexy. It is the opposite of most men, who come to women needing validation and attention. It is a breath of fresh air, and a very strong attraction trigger.

An aloof man doesn't let outer things affect his inner calm. When she sees a man who acts unaffected by a woman's beauty, he must have been around a lot of women. It will help hit the Desired by Women attraction trigger. A man who acts unaffected by a dangerous situation must deal with danger all the time. It will hit the Dangerous attraction trigger.

If you look at James Bond from the movies, you will see that he is the definition of aloof. He is unaffected by even very extreme events. He keeps himself calm, cool and collected at all times. He does and says things with no regard to how
others will react. He is aloof in every way.

The first step in becoming aloof is understanding what an aloof man acts like. Maybe rent all the 007 movies for a study marathon. It will help you see the way an aloof man acts, and how he holds himself. You must think of yourself as calm, cool, and collected at all times. You don't need any one girl, because there are many girls who are attracted to you. You are aloof.

However one thing to be careful of is that you become too aloof. If you are too aloof you won't pursue women, and you won't live life to the fullest.

Fun

Being fun isn't as much of an attraction switch as most people think. After all look at most comedians. They aren't known for being ladies men. However
, this attribute is something every man should have today because of the way our society is set up. It is the most socially acceptable attribute, and can be used almost anywhere or anytime.

The reason fun isn't as big of an attraction switch as people think is because for thousands of years being fun meant very little to whether you would survive or reproduce. It is only recently that this attribute has become so valuable.

To become fun you can surround yourself with fun people. You can start watching more comedies. Adopt the mindset that life isn't to be taken too serious. Look for the fun and humor in every situation.

Remember that even though being fun is only 2% of total Base Attraction, that it is much more socially acceptable than other attributes. You can't show how dangerous and fearless you are all the time, but you can show how fun you are. Every person should try to become more fu
n.

Famous Figures and Types with These Attributes

Types

Let's take a look at some ladies men types and see what positive personality attributes they usually have:

The Badboy - Confident, Identity, Dangerous, Fearless, Protector, Dominant, Aloof

The Jock - Confident, Desired by Women, Identity, Leader, Protector, Dominant, Passionate

The Adventurer - Confident, Identity, Adventurous, Fearless, Passionate, Fun

The Artist - Intelligent, Identity, Mysterious, Passionate

Charming Businessman - Confident, Identity, Passionate, Charming, Charismatic, Fun

The Womanizer - Confident, Desired by Women, Identity, Passionate, Charming, Charismatic, Aloof, Fun

As you can see, all the typical types that get women have a significant amount of attributes. There are specific people that will even add on more attributes, to cause even more attraction in women. I could have added on Desired by Women to every one of these as well because these types usually have that reputation.

One thing you may have noticed is that all of the above have confidence and identity. They know who they are and they are confident. Those two things are very important in developing into a person women find very sexually attractive.

Famous Figures

People will sometimes look at famous people and think to themselves. Well, women only love them because of their money, fame, and looks. While that is a big part of women's attraction toward them, it is not all of it.

Let’s take a look at the types of attributes of the characters that Brad Pitt usually plays:

Brad Pitt
- Confident(always), Desired by Women(always), Identity(always), Intelligent(Oceans 11) Leader(Troy, Fight Club, etc.), Dangerous(Troy, Fight Club, Mr. and Mrs. Smith, etc.), Mysterious(Meet Joe Black, Interview with a Vampire, etc.),  Adventurous (Most his movies), Fearless(Troy, Fight Club, A River Runs Through It, Legends of the Fall, etc.), Protector(Troy), Dominant(Troy, Fight Club, Legends of the Fall, most his movies), Passionate (Troy), Charming (Always), Charismatic (Always), Aloof (Meet Joe Black), Fun(Oceans 11)

These are just a few of the movies. In his roles he uses every single positive personality attribute. There is a reason he's considered one of the most handsome men to ever live. It isn't only his looks.

Now we will take a look at an actor that women love. We won't look at his roles, but how he acts normally and in interviews.

George Clooney
- Confident, Desired by Women, Intelligent, Identity, Leader, Adventurous, Passionate, Charming, Charismatic, Aloof, Fun.

Again as a person George Clooney displays many of the attractive personality attributes. It is not just his looks and fame that
make women swoon over this guy.

Here is a fictional character played by three different actors from the popular 007 films:

James Bond
- Confident, Desired by Women, Identity, Leader, Dangerous, Mysterious, Adventurous, Fearless, Protector, Dominant, Passionate, Charming, Charismatic, and Aloof.

The only characteristic that he doesn't display is Fun. If you are hitting all those attraction triggers it is already overkill. Every woman will
want a piece of you.

Here is another fictional character. He is a different type of personality, but still very attraction to women.

Van Wilder
- Confident, Desired by Women, Identity, Leader, Adventurous, Fearless, Passionate, Charming, Charismatic, Aloof, and most of all Fun.

He is not your typical
‘ladies’ man’ type, but he still kills it with the ladies. He does it a slightly different way than the previous, but still very effectively.

The Dark Triad

There is a dark side to the personality types that women are naturally attracted to. This dark side is called The Dark Triad. It is three personality types that are considered negative, which women are naturally very attracted to, even after all the flaws that these personalities have.

Narcissism - The narcissist
believes the world revolves around him. He feels entitled to all things. He has a large ego and is only thinking of himself.

The reason the narcissist is so attractive to women is because his confidence is sky high.
Confidence doesn't get much higher than it will with a narcissist. He is so selfish that he is always aloof. In his mind he doesn't NEED anybody else, because he has himself.

Machiavellianism - The machiavellist is always trying to manipulate others to do exactly what he wants. He has no regard for others.

The reason a machiavellist is attractive is because he will have charm and charisma. He is always thinking of ways to make others do his bidding, and this will help him to develop excellent charm and charisma.

Psychopathy - The psychopath seeks thrills impulsively. He is completely selfish and superficially charming.

The reason a psychopath can be attractive to women is because of his danger and fearlessness. They are also aloof and can be charming.

Anti-heartbreak Characteristics

When you ask a woman what she likes in a man, you won't get exactly
the characteristics that really are attractive to her. Most likely you will get the Anti-heartbreak Characteristics. Nearly every woman has had her heart broken before; because of this women will be wary of certain things.

No matter how attracted a woman is to you, she needs to know that you really like her. The reason for this is some guy in the past that didn't care about her caus
ed her pain. Women will look to see if you feel attraction for them, before letting themselves open up to you. Another thing is that she has to know that she can obtain you. Or else her letting herself feel that attraction will only end in heartbreak.

A common thing a girl
will check before letting herself feel too much for you is if you are a player or not. It is one thing to be desired by women, but it is another to constantly be breaking their hearts. The most common way for a woman to do this is to accuse you of being a player playfully. Even though she seems like she is joking, she is judging you, taking your reaction very seriously. She is worried about being hurt.

Honesty is another one of these characteristics that become so important to a girl after she has been hurt.
It is not an attraction trigger. Learning whether you are honest is a way to prevent you from hurting her.

Only show
anti-heart breaker characteristics after she is very clearly attracted to you. To know if she is attracted to you, check out my book: 120 Body Language Signals That She Likes You.