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Social Anxiety: Symptoms, Treatments, and Ways to Overcome Social Phobia.
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2 - The Cause and Effect of Social Anxiety
5 - The Self-Help Guide to Social Phobia Treatment
A Brief Look at Anxiety
Most people regularly go through the bothersome feeling of common worry or a bit of fear whenever they have to face something taxing. Challenges such as job interview, public speaking, performance, or examination often generates this feeling of apprehension. All these feelings are quite normal and within acceptable reasons. There will always be uneasiness when someone is about to face the different and the unpredictable.
Disorders that may cause worry, nervousness, dread, and fear are associated with the term anxiety. This seemingly quiet chaos is a type of disease that happens inside the mind, but can affect a person’s behavior, outlook in life, and can even have real physical symptoms.
Anxiety can go from mild to severe. Mild anxiety can render the person disturbed and uncomfortable for hours, a day, or several days, while severe anxiety can tremendously incapacitate a person’s daily life. It is a serious and compelling disease that should not be dismissed easily.
Sometimes, it can affect a person’s ability to communicate with others, disturb their resting hours, or feel agitated most of the time. Anxiety generally happens when something unplanned happens and triggers an avalanche of painful emotions.
Anxiety order can be classified into definite types. The most common of these anxieties is the Generalized Anxiety Disorder. This generates a chronic feeling of worry over vague things like life, love or work. People suffering from GAD cannot point a specific thing that makes them worry. They have reservations and concern about the people around them and their life in general. Their fears are always generated from blowing situations out of proportions. GAD can interfere with their social and work life.
Panic disorder is a type of anxiety that can manifest itself through physical symptoms. Sufferers often go through a drastic and sudden feeling of extreme fear and worry that is made noticeable by rapid nausea, lightheadedness, shaking, and difficulty in breathing. These attacks can occur from few minutes and can stretch to several hours. They are physically and emotionally stressful to the sufferer when it happens for numerous times.
Phobia can also be classifies as anxiety. Though there are different and specific phobia triggers, it draws out the same irrational and deemed unnecessary and uncontrollable fears of a person.
Obsessive- Compulsive Disorder is a type of anxiety that brings out the unreasonable thoughts of a person manifested through repetitive and intrusive actions. Sufferers are usually aware that their fears are irrational but they have difficulty controlling their impulses.
Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder is usually a result of a traumatic experience such as an accident, a crime, a disaster, or war. This is a type of anxiety usually infecting combat veteran soldiers. Evidences are usually violent changes in behavior or flashbacks to the harrowing experience.
Separation Anxiety is typically apparent in small children but it can also affect adults. The feeling of uneasiness is triggered when the person is separated from someone or something that symbolizes safety and sanctuary.
That Thing Called Social Anxiety
Social anxiety disorder, which is sometimes called social phobia, is a type of anxiety portrayed by extreme fear of embarrassment and judgment by others in a social situation. The invoked feelings are fear of any intimacy, fright in any public place, uneasiness in human contact, and fear of humiliation.
Some people suffering from social anxiety are so frightened of their predicted failures that they tend to avoid social contacts and make any resemblance of a normal, public life impossible. Sometimes, they go to great lengths just to avoid any type of social meeting or action. Instead of shopping in a grocery store, they’d rather order online and have it delivered to their home. Even facing the delivery man is difficult so they’d leave money on their doorstep instead of paying personally.
The fear of being mortified and scrutinized in public is extreme. Most of them know that these feelings are at times overblown, but the feeling of being measured will still creep up. Severe self-consciousness, inferiority, inadequacy, self-blame, and embarrassment are often the result of this. They would rather be left alone than suffer the awkwardness and dread of shame.
It is a common mental problem in the United States. Social anxiety disorder is actually the third largest mental health care problem and millions around the world are suffering from this debilitating condition. This disorder ranks close to alcoholism and depression.
There are a few groups of sufferer whose fear anchors on a specific type of situation like speaking only in public, at work or facing an authority figure. A number still suffers discomfort from general social situations.
Every day is a constant struggle against fear, humiliation, and pain. Did you say something wrong? Did you do things right? Did you talk too much or did you talk too little? What do they think of you? It’s a daily fight from rejection, disapproval and being out of place. It’s a regular challenge of trying to join a conversation but you just can’t say anything.
Social anxiety makes you raise your defensive walls to protect yourself. Even telling your friends and family about your anxiety is difficult because of the fear of being misunderstood and being treated differently. You just don’t want anyone to know that you’re afraid. It’s a persistent and overwhelming feeling that’s not easy to shake off and undoubtedly painful. Every day and all day, this is how living with social anxiety is like. It’s a quiet, but a disastrous endurance of pain and feeling of being an outcast.
Factors of Social Anxiety
There is no specific cause for social anxiety, but like most mental health state, it could have risen from the interwoven environmental and internal factors. Stress will always add to these factors and anxiety is its response. Most likely, anxiety is born from continuously reminding yourself of the worst case scenarios in every situation.
Still, the factors that may contribute largely to social anxiety could be one of the following:
Factors
. Anxiety is developed when you have observed a situation that could possibly happen to you. You may have seen somebody made fun of because of the manner they are dressed or the way they talk. Fear of facing a similar situation is ingrained into your consciousness.
Psychological Factors.
The disorder may also be a result of a traumatic event in their lives such as death, natural disaster, or abuse. The stress of relationships, finances, school, or money can be major reasons for social anxiety to develop. Anxiety can also stem from a humiliating experience in the past such as bullying.
Medical Factors.
Substance abuse is one of the foremost runners in social anxiety. Illicit drugs and alcohol abuse can cloud a person’s rationalizing ability and can bring to surface the irrational fears. Medical factors like heart conditions can cause anxiety because of the stress, the symptoms that came with the disease, or the side effects of their medications.
Genetic Factors.
A person who came from a family with a history of anxiety disorder may most likely develop the same fate if not treated earlier. The exact link between anxiety and genetics are not that established, but most of cases tend to run inside a family history.
Inherited Factors
. People with social anxiety have a tendency to describe their parents as overprotective, constant over criticism, lack of affection, exaggeration of any situation especially in public places, and overemphasis on good manners and physical appearance. Children who were overprotected by their parents may have restricted their social skills and anxious in dealing with a new situation. When they are thrown into an environment or situation that they cannot control, their limited coping ability is shown through anxiety. Social anxiety becomes a learned behavior.
Biological factors
. Scientists state that people who suffer from anxiety were shown to have abnormal levels of neurotransmitters in their brain. The circuit in the brain responsible for regulating the “fight or flight” response neuron and emotion is not functioning properly. When your internal system collapses, your brain will react inappropriately to a normal situation.
The interlacing of these factors may be the cause of social anxiety but what situations can trigger it? Even these may vary but some may include one, two, or more of the following: public speaking, being watched closely, performing, meeting new people, suddenly being the center of everyone’s attention, talking to authority, making phone calls, using public facilities, dining in public, being criticized, being teased, being called out in class or by a boss, going on dates, or attending social events. There is no specific trigger but they are all nerve-racking and complicated to the sufferer.
How Social Anxiety Changes a Life
If social anxiety is not treated properly, it can run and ruin your life. It can interfere with almost all of your relationships and destroy the life that you want to live. There are certain emotions that are evoked by social anxiety and may overtake your life.
The feeling of living a restricted life that’s different from a normal one is prevalent. There is a sense of vulnerability and being trapped because you feel like you can’t fit in and do common, daily activities. Anxiety sets a boundary and shortens your life options. To be trapped in a cruel cycle of irrationality daily is a reality for sufferers. It is extremely daunting to change your habits because you just don’t know how.
Social anxiety will not let you taste that macchiato because it meant rehearsing and delivering a new sentence to the barista. You just perfected your “Black with two sugar, please.” It took you weeks before you could say it smoothly. This is what anxiety does, it restricts your choices.
Isolation and alienation from loved ones are prevailing emotions of people afflicted with social anxiety. Because you can’t fit in, you can’t be understood. This disease will cripple your brain and make you feel like your future is doomed. You finally want to have a boyfriend or a girlfriend but you can’t because they might not be able to handle your worst day.
There is no one that can seem to understand your emotions, not even your therapist. It’s unfortunate that this anxiety is still misunderstood even by some experts. Therapy groups are limited and medicating it is not a regular walk in the park for psychotherapists.
Lack of confidence and low self-esteem is a pretty common feeling even with those who are not suffering from social anxiety. Those who do, however, have a heightened sensitivity different from the common man. Uncertainties in life give birth to an intense fear of judgment, rejection, and criticism.
The fear is so strong that you can’t expand your life experiences. You want to be promoted but you can’t push yourself to move. If you do, you may be promoted but you have to manage people. What if they don’t listen to you? What if you fail them? What if you get hurt by their criticism? Is that the kind of leader they want? Social anxiety will presumably misinterpret situations.
Any failure you may have committed in the past will just keep on playing over and over in your head. The certainty that others remember it and that they can see your anxiety will be so overwhelming that you are only left with the feeling of defeat. Because of the past mistake, you can’t live through a similar situation again.
Did you have a bad date before? You can’t go on another one again. Did you faint on stage before? You can’t put yourself on a spotlight again. You build mountains and mountains of worry because of your past experiences.
Self-consciousness is the mother of all these emotions. Social anxiety will make you too aware and too sensitive to every sound, every sight, and every feeling. You pay way too much attention to yourself and what others think of you. You can’t exercise and run in your favorite park because people will see you and think you run in a funny way. Why is everyone’s eye on you? You tend to obsess over everything and you can’t live in the moment.
