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Malinowski, Bronislaw,
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Munro, Alice,
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abandonment, fear of

absence

of mother

abstinence
see
celibacy and chastity

abstinence movements

abuse, child

Adams, Abigail

Adams, John

addiction, sex

adolescence

father-daughter relationship

friendship in

sexuality in

adultery

the Bible and

Christian Church and

in cinema

Code Napoléon and

death and

discovery and

as help for relationship

in literature

lover/mistress

in mythology

punishment for

reasons for

secrecy and

transgressive nature of

truth and lies

Victorian hypocrisy over

websites for

advertising industry

advice industry

Aeschylus,
Agamemnon

Agape

age, physical

cross-generational unions

see also
older people

aggression

Aids

Albee, Edward,
Who’s Afraid of Virginia Woolf

Allen, Woody

Alliott, Catherine,
Rosie Meadows Regrets

Amis, Martin

Anderson, Hephzibah,
Chastened: No More Sex in the City

anorexia

anthropology

anxiety

of choice

motherhood and

sexual

Aphrodite (Venus)

Apollodorus

Appignanesi, Lisa

brother of

childhood of

children of

father of

Mad, Bad and Sad

mother of

Ariès, Phillipe,
Centuries of Childhood

Aristotle

Arnim, Bettina von

Arnim, Elizabeth von

arranged marriages

Arthurian legend

attachment theory

‘attention deficit hyperactivity disorder’

Atwood, Margaret,
Cat’s Eye

Augustine, Saint,
Confessions

Austen, Jane

Emma

Love and Friendship

Mansfield Park

Pride and Prejudice

babies

see also
infancy

baby-boomer generation

Bacon, Francis (philosopher)

Badinter, Élisabeth

Balint, Enid

Balzac, Honoré de

Physiology of Marriage

Bancroft, Anne

Baron-Cohen, Simon,
The Essential Difference

Barthes, Roland,
A Lover’s Discourse

Bauman, Zygmunt

the Beatles

beauty and look

Beck, Ulrich

Beck-Gernsheim, Elisabeth

Berger, John

Bergman, Ingmar,
Scenes from a Marriage

Berliet, Melanie

Bernardin de Saint-Pierre

Paul et Virginie

Bethlem (asylum)

betrayal

in literature

see also
adultery

the Bible

New Testament

bigamy

Birkenhead, Earl of

birth rates

1880-1920 period

contemporary

Blackstone, Sir William

Blake, William

Bloomsbury circle

Bohemian lifestyles

Boots (chemist)

Boucicault, Dion,
London Assurance

Bowie, Malcolm

Bowlby, John

breast feeding

Bridget Jones’s Diary
(Helen Fielding)

Brief Encounter
(film)

Brontë, Charlotte

Jane Eyre

Brontë, Emily,
Wuthering Heights

brotherly love

Browning, Elizabeth Barrett

Browning, Robert

Burke, Edmund

‘Butterfly Lovers’ (Chinese legend)

Byatt, Antonia,
The Children’s Book

Byron, Lord

Caird, Mona

Canadian Institute of Advanced Research

Capellanus, Andreas,
The Art of Courtly Love

Capello, Fabio

capitalism

Carlile, Richard

Carpenter, Edward

Carrington, Dora

Casanova

castration, fear of

Catholic Church

contraception and

in France

marriage and

Cave, Nick

Cavell, Stanley

Cities of Words

Cavendish, Lucy

celebrity culture

celibacy and chastity

Christianity and

as transgressive

Chaucer, Geoffrey,
Canterbury Tales

Cheever, John

‘chick lit’

childbirth

death in

childhood

adult sexuality and

boarding schools

bullying

child abuse

children as vehicles of parental hopes

corporal punishment

deprivation

divorce and

friendship in

imaginary friends

play therapy

pre-twentieth-century

romantic tradition of

sexual knowledge

sexuality

shaping trajectory of

specialness of child

symbiotic love for mother

in twentieth-century

welfare provision

China

chivalry

Chivers, Meredith

choice

anxiety of

marriage and

shaping of in infancy

Christianity

celibacy and chastity and

contemporary puritanism

family nucleus and

friendship and

marriage and

sensuality and

‘to know’ verb in Bible

see also
Catholic Church

Cicero

Cinderella story

cinema

civil partnerships

Civil War, English

Clean Air Act (1956)

Clinton, Bill

Close, Glenn

cognitive science

cohabitation

in pre-eighteenth-century England

settling down/finding partner

Cohen, Leonard

Coleridge, Samuel Taylor

Colette, Sidonie-Gabrielle

commitment-phobia

Comstock Act (USA, 1875)

concubinage

Condorcet, Nicolas de

confessional culture

consumerism

contraception

the pill

corporal punishment

coup de foudre

couples therapy

courtly love

courtship

Criminal Law Amendment Act (1885)

Dante,
The Divine Comedy

Darwin, Charles

dating agencies

internet

David, Jacques-Louis

Davis, Katherine B.

Day, Doris

de Beauvoir, Simone

Memoirs of a Dutiful Daughter

The Second Sex

de Bérulle, Pierre

de Clérambault, Gaëtan Gatian

de Gouges, Olympe

de Grouchy, Sophie

de Lafayette, Madame,
La Princesse de Clèves