Crystal Lies (2 page)

Six months earlier

“I will
not go
to Al-Anon,” Geoffrey informed me in no uncertain terms.

Jacob had been missing for several days by then, and racked with worry, I had desperately phoned an anonymous help line and sobbed out my greatest fears. Unfortunately, the phone counselor had been trained to give support to actual drug addicts, not distressed and slightly hysterical mothers.

“I’m sorry, ma’am,” said a young female voice. “But maybe you should try going to Al-Anon.”

“Al-Anon?” I echoed. “But I’m not an alcoholic.”

“It’s not for alcoholics,” the girl assured me. “It’s a support group for loved ones. Like people who are related to addicts or alcoholics, you know?”

“I know,” I said, although I really had no idea. Then she gave me the local phone number, and still feeling frantic and no longer caring who knew, I gave the number a call. Although I did manage to sound a bit more controlled on the second phone call.

“We meet at St. John’s Presbyterian Church on Thursdays at seven,” the man informed me.

“And this is for parents of teenagers who struggle with, uh…” I still had difficulty using the word
addict back
then. Addicts were criminals or homeless people or second-rate actors in a movie of the week. “Drug problems?” I finally finished.

“Yes. It’s basically a support group for family and friends. But we also have special guests who come and enlighten us regarding some of the problems that come with addiction’

“Thursday at seven?”

“Yes. And if you’re married, I encourage you to bring your husband along as well.”

“Oh, I don’t know…” Suddenly I was thankful I hadn’t given him my name yet. Stafford is a relatively small town. Oh, not so small that you couldn’t hide, but a lot of people knew the name of Geoffrey Harmon, city attorney.

“It can be very helpful for the afflicted person to have the full support of the entire family,” the man told me.

“I’m sure that’s true, but my husbands a busy man.”

“And you probably know that parenting a child with an addiction problem can be quite stressful on marriage relationships.”

“Yes, I know.”

“We also encourage siblings to attend. They have their own set of problems, you know.”

“Yes, I’m sure that’s true.” I felt like I was reciting the same line again and again, and all I wanted was to get off the phone. What if these people had caller ID? I thanked the kind man and hung up. My heart was racing, and I was breathing hard. Still, I felt he was probably right. Perhaps it would be better if the whole family showed their support for Jacob and his recovery by going to Al-Anon. Except I had no idea how I could possibly talk my husband into attending. And even though I waited until after dinner and after I felt certain he was feeling somewhat relaxed, it still blew up in my face.

“But the man I spoke with said it would help Jacob to have us both attend,” I tried after my first attempt failed. “He said Jacob needs the support of his entire family.”

“Jacob had the support of his entire family when he decided to become a junkie. It didn’t make a difference then, and it won’t make a difference now.”

“How can you know that?”

“Because, Glennis,”—he was using his placating tone with me now—“I know that the only one who can change an addict is the addict himself.”

“But that’s not what the Al-Anon man said.”

“Look, if you feel the need to go to a meeting like that, then just go. But don’t think you need to drag me into it with you.”

“But what if it could help—”

“Jacob needs to help himself.” Geoffrey picked up a folder of papers, his sign that this conversation was over.

So I went alone. And I must admit to feeling a bit foolish and self-conscious as I perched on a metal folding chair along with a bunch of complete strangers. Most of them turned out to be spouses or significant others. And most were there because of drinking problems, although one woman was there because her boyfriend was a cocaine addict. Even so, I did derive a small sense of comfort from hearing their hard-luck stories. But when my turn to share came up, I froze. Suddenly I was eight years old and being called upon to spell the word
rhinoceros
. I just couldn’t do it.

That’s when I realized I had no desire to spill my sorrows in front of total strangers, or anyone for that matter. And as I looked around at the faces that were watching me, intently waiting for me to say something, I knew that Geoffrey would call these people “losers.” And, despite my attempt to remain nonjudgmental, I suppose that was how I saw them too. I ended up saying very little and leaving early. Then, as if to spite my efforts at getting some much-needed help, I came home to discover Jacob sitting on the sofa in the family room, eating a bowl of Rocky Road ice cream and watching a rerun of
The Simpsons
. His hair was wet, from either a shower or a swim, and he looked tan and healthy and was just
sitting there laughing at Homer Simpson’s stupidity and acting as if everything were perfectly normal. I suppose it was, for him.

“Where have you been?” I demanded as I threw my purse onto a chair.

“Sorry, Mom.” Jacob tossed me that old smile, the one that used to work when he wanted something simple like cookies hot from the oven or “just one more” video game before dinner.

“Do you know how worried I’ve been?”

“Yeah, Dad filled me in.” He rolled his eyes.

“You’ve already talked to Dad?”

He scowled. “No, as usual Dad talked to
me
. Like you could call it that. It was more of a sermon or lecture. We all know that he never listens to anyone.”

“Well, he was worried too.”

Jacob laughed in a cynical way “Yeah, you bet, Mom. Believe whatever you like.”

I sat down in the chair across from him now. “He
is
worried, Jake. We’re both worried. We know you have a… a problem. We know you need help.”

“I’m”
fine.
His eyes narrowed now. “I just need people to be a little more understanding is all. I’m going through some stuff. And I’m trying to sort it all out. I needed some time and space to just think about it.”

“But you’ve been gone since Friday.” I shook my head, forcing myself to remember exactly what had happened, even wondering why I’d been so upset and worried. One thing I knew by then was how my son had become an expert at changing the subject or throwing up smoke screens. “I’ve called your friends—”

“Who did you call?” he demanded.

I listed off a few kids who had been good friends before Jacob had started to change.

“They aren’t my friends,” Jacob said quickly.

“Well, those were the only numbers I knew to call.” I sighed. “You won’t even say who your friends are anymore. You hardly talk to us at all.”

“Because you’re always putting me through this kind of crap. It’s either a lecture or the Spanish Inquisition.” Then he cursed.

“Please, don’t use those kinds of words in this house.” I gave him my automatic response to his occasional use of unacceptable language.

“It’s just a stupid word, Mom.”

I took in a deep breath and closed my eyes. What had we just been talking about? Oh, yes, my missing son. “But this is the deal, Jacob. You’ve been gone since Friday.” I used my fingers to count. “That’s four days. And since today is Monday and you obviously missed school—”

“I did
not miss
school,” he roared back.

I blinked. “You went to school today?”

“Yeah. I knew I’d better not get another unexcused absence if I want to graduate this spring.”

Well, that was something, I told myself. At least he still cared about graduating. Although it was hard to understand exactly why he cared since he’d given up sports last year and had begun attending an alternative school during his senior year. That was only after the school counselor convinced all of us that Jacob might “perform better away from the restrictions of the more traditional campus.” Whatever was that supposed to mean? Was it simply their way of getting him out of their hair? Was it a mistake for us to agree to it? After all, everyone in town knew what the alternative school was all about.

I could still remember the day I ran into Margie Smyth at the grocery store. Or rather got cornered by her in the produce section. I’d already noticed her getting some carrots, and I’d tried to appear consumed in my search for the best-looking cucumbers.

“Oh, Glennis,” she’d called out. I greeted her and attempted to make small talk as I selected another lovely cucumber.

“Todd told me that Jacobs not playing basketball this year,” she said in a troubled voice. “I hope nothings wrong.”

I just shrugged as I reached for another cucumber. I already had far more than I needed. “He was tired of sports,” I told her, which was exactly what he had told us. “And then he took up the guitar.” I attempted to make a move back toward my cart. “He actually seems to be quite musical.”

She nodded. “Well, that’s understandable. Basketball is fine while you’re a teenager, but music is something you can take with you throughout your lifetime.” She smiled now. “Then I guess it’s not true that he’s going to that
alternative
school.” She lowered her voice and glanced over her shoulder. “Todd says that’s for losers and users.’” She laughed as if she’d said something funny.

I wish I could say that I looked her straight in the eye and told her that Jacob was indeed going to the alternative school, but instead I told her I was in a hurry and went straight from the produce section to the checkout counter.

“Making pickles?” the cashier asked after I set my bag of cucumbers and nothing else before her.

“Yes,” I snapped at the poor woman. “That’s right.”

But I’d eventually adjusted to the idea of alternative school and had even been fairly impressed with their curriculum. “Well, I’m glad you went to school today, Jacob,” I said, trying to start all over again. “But that still doesn’t take care of everything. Your dad and I both suspect you’ve been using drugs again.”

He took in a deep breath then and just held it as if he was waiting for me to finish. But his eyes were still on the TV.

“Okay, we’re not even sure what kind of drugs, or maybe it’s alcohol, but we know you’re doing
something
. Maybe it’s pot, but that’s still a serious—”

“Pot?” He laughed. “Is that what you guys called it back in your day?”

“Well, marijuana, grass, weed…” I shook my head. “I don’t know what the popular term is right now. But we’re concerned—”

“I’ve already had the lecture, Mom.”

“I’m not lecturing you, Jacob. I’m worried that you might have an, well, an addiction problem, and your father and I would like to see you get some—”

“Mom!” He exploded now. “You just don’t get it. I am
not an
addict.” He stood up and began pacing, pounding his fist into his palm as if he really wanted to hit something or perhaps even someone. “You people are all alike. You think
everything is
about drugs.” He turned and glared at me. “Well, it’s not. Some people just have problems, you know? But does anyone want to listen and help them out?” Then he began to stomp from the room.

“Wait, Jacob,” I called after him. “I
want
to listen. Just give me a chance.” But it was too late. He was already bolting up the stairs. The banging of his bedroom door still rang in my ears as I collapsed onto the sofa and stared at Marge Simpson’s big blue hair. Where had I gone wrong? I wondered. Besides everywhere, that is.

“I see how that Al-Anon meeting of yours really helped you deal with your son.” Geoffrey poked his head into the family room. “Makes me really wish I’d gone too.”

I wanted to throw something at my husband right then, but instead I just shrugged. “One meeting isn’t going to change anything,” I replied.

“Obviously.”

Just the same, I didn’t go back after that. I decided it might be better to just play Geoffrey’s game—pretending as if nothing were wrong. Well, most of the time anyway. But like a kettle that has been left on the stove too long, Geoffrey would also boil over on occasion. And his rages didn’t help matters. If anything, I think they gave Jacob another excuse to go out and get stoned, or high, or whatever the popular terminology of the day was.

Afterward Geoffrey would be sorry, and I know he felt guilty, although he never actually admitted as much. I remember the time I saw him looking at a photograph right after one of these blowups. He didn’t see me watching him, but I could tell he was staring at Jacob’s soccer picture from seventh grade. It was the year Geoffrey had helped coach, and their team had gone all the way to the finals. But I’m sure I saw tears in his eyes that day. I almost said something to him, but I knew it would’ve embarrassed him and made him uncomfortable.

Geoffrey had always made it clear to me that he felt it was a sign of weakness for men to show emotion. Early in our marriage I’d assumed this was simply because he was an attorney, but over the years I began to suspect it was more than that. I think he’d learned to shut down his feelings as a child. Maybe it was because of this suppression that he was prone to his little rages. Occasionally I’d worry that the neighbors would hear him ranting and call the authorities. And sometimes I even reminded him of this possibility, which was always a sure way to quiet him. There was no way he, the respected city attorney, wanted a police car showing up in
his
driveway.