Cut Cords of Attachment (5 page)

Chapter 3
Create a Sacred Space

12 Steps to Cut Cords of Attachment

Step 1. Create a Sacred Space

Sanctify the Room

Set an Intention

To help clients:
Request an Intention

To help clients:
Refine the Intention

To help clients:
Avoid Promising

To help clients:
Avoid the Cosmic Excuse.

Step 2. Make an Energy Sandwich

Step 3. Activate the Aura

Step 4. Choose Which Cord to Cut

Step 5. Locate the Cord

Step 6. Give Permission

Step 7. Remove the Cord

Step 8. Bandage to Rebalance

Step 9. Write the Dialogue Box

Step 10. Discuss the Client’s Logical Consequences with the Cordee

Step 11. Discuss the Client’s Logical Consequences for Other Relationships

Step 12. Assign Homework

Like following a recipe or solving a Sudoku, Rosetree Energy Spirituality flows best when you patiently work it one step at a time. As we move into our first Step of the sequence, let’s start with some practical tips.

Throughout this book, I’ll describe each Step as if you were working with a client. Of course, that “client” could be you. Whoever is being healed during your session, your success at cord cutting depends upon your desire to honor and empower your client.

Explore what I have to teach you before you start tinkering with it. Otherwise, you are not really learning these 12 Steps, so you will never find out what they can do.

Quick reminder, the level of training in this book is the best I can give you for starting out. But full professional credentials come with personal training in depth. Do not represent yourself as having full skills at Rosetree Energy Spirituality, or accept paying clients of any kind, until you have graduated from my Mentoring Program in Rosetree Energy Spirituality.

More common sense: It is your responsibility to seek out legal advice before doing sessions for anyone, even a friend. Every locality has legal requirements that healers must fulfill. Check with the government’s requirements for healing in your locality. Will you need a minister’s credentials? If so, one possible resource is a mail order degree from
The Universal Life Church
.

Even if you only cut cords for yourself, this powerful skill set can be life-changing for you, with
indirect
benefits for those close to you, i.e., You change, they benefit. But please, claim to help, not to cure. Don’t practice medicine unless you have a license!

Teaming up with spiritual Source, or a Divine Being, plus using tested skill sets, you can facilitate permanent healing on the level of someone’s energy field, or aura.

Create a Sacred Space

Physically and energetically, a spiritual healer must set the conditions for a session to take place. Rosetree Energy Spirituality requires a sacred space.

TECHNIQUE: Sanctify the Room

1. Find an appropriate room.

2. Use words to create a sacred space.

3. Activate your Deeper Perception to appreciate what happens during the 12 Steps to Cut Cords of Attachment.

What Will You Need?

To cut cords of attachment, here’s what you
don’t
need:

• Designer furniture
  
• Museum-quality crystals
  
• Bells and smells
  
• Perfect silence
  
• Beautiful music
  

You
do
need:

• A room with a door you can close
  
• No animals present
  
• Comfortable chairs for yourself and your client
  
• A recording device, should you wish to make a CD or tape of the session
  
• Notepads for yourself and your client.
  

Of course you will want to make your session room physically comfortable with little things like ventilation, adequate heating or cooling, and the absence of really weird smells.

Also, please move any pets into a different room. Although your pet’s influence is probably magnificent, it can also be unpredictable. Who needs a wild card? Trust me. Things will become wild enough when you do the 12 Steps.

What if your environment isn’t as perfect as you like? Either cry or go ahead and do the best session you can.

TALE: Howling Cats

In 1971, as a teacher of Transcendental Meditation. I was doing the most important teaching session of my career so far. In Miami, Florida, a colleague and I had interested public school officials in offering an accredited course based on TM. At this critical point in our negotiations, I had to personally initiate the Superintendent of Schools and High School Principal.

As a traveling teacher, I used to rely on volunteers to make their homes available for instruction.

After arriving on this particular Saturday morning, I learned that my host had recently acquired two cats. There is no polite way to put this. The house simply stank.

Moreover, the only room with a door was the bedroom where I would be teaching. (Oh, yes, it was the 70s.)

So I had to send the cats outside. Rain poured. The cats howled.

At such times, denial comes in handy. I stopped thinking about the high stakes for today’s initiations. As for the lack of litter box hygiene, forget it. I focused on my sacred role, to teach each student.

Both guys learned just fine, along with the rest of the class, and we did succeed in establishing that TM-based course at Miami-Dade High School. It became the first program of its kind in America, and in the long run that mattered far more than a little nasal distress.

How Can Words Create a Sacred Space?

If you were selling furniture, words alone couldn’t create what you needed: “Ladies and gentlemen, here we have a gorgeous Lay-Z-Boy recliner that will cost you only $5,000.” Abracadabra, and here comes your sale.

But vibrations of energy are free, and whatever you request spiritually will come into the room by decree. Here’s a simple way to start off:

“God, please be here actively, now and throughout this session of healing. Fill this room with a sparkling new white light of healing. Add violet flames to clean up stale or negative energy.

“Seal this room and, also, the outer edge of my aura (and my client’s aura) with gold and silver light. This symbolizes your protection, so that only energies of the highest vibration may enter at any time.”

Can you just think these words?

Words in your head will create a fine energy space … in your head. But don’t you want that energy right in the room, where it can help with cord cutting?

Besides, if your client is so squeamish that words like these horrify him, better to have him flee now. Get it over with early, so you won’t waste half an hour doing your session and then have him run out screaming.

Fortunately, I’ve never had a client end a session early, screaming. Chances are you won’t either.

TECHNIQUE: Set an Intention as the Healer

Cutting a cord of attachment is not an intention. It is a technique, the means to an end. An
intention
is a powerful statement of purpose, made aloud. When you set an intention, you gain Divine support. You also prepare your subconscious mind for changes. So don’t be shy and don’t ask small.

Before you start working with a client, set your own intention as a healer. (If you are going to be your own client, skip this step.)

1. Say out loud one intention for this session, e.g., “To help my client.”

2. Trust that this intention, once expressed, will manifest—either precisely what you have requested or something even better.

TECHNIQUE: Request a Client’s Intention

Your client’s intention matters enormously. She will decide on the goal, not you. Still, she may need prompting to make a clear statement of intention that would be appropriate for the skill set of cord cutting.

1. Ask your client, “What is your intention for this healing session?”

2. Let your client speak for a while. (Most clients will want to talk a bit.)

3. Guide your client to set a specific intention, a purpose for the time being spent together.

Won’t that intention usually be “To cut a cord of attachment”? That’s like saying “I would like to travel over a bridge.”

A bridge to where? With no specific destination in mind, how will you know when you get there? Unless she sets a clear intention, your client won’t have a context for appreciating the results of a healing session.

Examples of intention are “More self-confidence,” “More effective communication.”

The rest of the techniques and concepts in Step 1 are useful for working with clients, but they might help you for self-healing, too.

Turn Complaints into Positive Intention

Friends or not, some of the clients who come to you will be in enormous pain. Having suffered so much, they can’t imagine a positive outcome. As you listen compassionately, the client’s most hopeful intention may sound to you like wailing and gnashing of teeth.

Listening is one thing, aiming another. Take a leadership role and help your client to upgrade that intention. You are the healer, right?

TECHNIQUE: Refine Intention

This technique requires you to use clarity and communication to refine intention for a session of emotional and spiritual healing.

1. Alternate listening to your client’s ideas with your own questions.

2. For each request your client makes, guide him to find a positive element.

3. Keep refining until your client can choose at least one positive intention for this session.

What does your client want most? Surely, it can’t just be to complain. For instance, perhaps a client tells you, “I’m unhappy in my marriage.” After you listen to him, ask questions to find out what he wants, not just what he doesn’t want.

Your client may not have thought much about this. Ironically, he’s unlikely to overcome the unhappiness until he can choose a more positive goal. This could be:

• More clarity for choosing what to do about the marriage.
  
• To summon the strength to get a divorce.
  
• To improve the relationship with his wife.
  

What if your client’s version is still negative, like, “To stop feeling like I have no freedom” or “To find out why I lack strength” or “To learn why my life is fated to be miserable”?

Well, you are halfway there. Help your client to rephrase that goal into something more positive, such as “So, could we say that your intention is to feel better?”

But which is it then, to feel better while staying married or feel better by not being married anymore?

Feeling confused? Just imagine your client’s confusion. Wait, don’t sit there imagining! Ask follow-up questions, like “To clarify your intention for now, do you aim for X or Y?”

Sometimes the opposite happens. Your client supplies an impossibly huge list of problems to solve?

Help your client to choose just one for this particular healing session.

Admittedly, if a client is in crisis, it can seem as though there are a zillion problems, all of which must be solved right now:

• I hate my life.
  
• I’m bored.
  
• My boss is a monster.
  
• My boyfriend doesn’t appreciate me enough.
  
• The upstairs neighbor makes too much noise.
  
• I’m too fat.
  
• My hair is too fat, etc.
  

Everyone has been in that crisis mentality. Sometimes the client needs to dump out that long list before she can hear a word you say. So just listen.

Avoid Promising

Listening doesn’t mean that you promise to solve all your client’s complaints. Deep down, both of you know that you are one human being, just one. And this is only one healing session. (Each of mine usually lasts 55 minutes.) Making a lifetime commitment to solve every smidge of difficulty isn’t in your job description, is it?

Eventually, your client will reach the end of her list, however exhaustive. If that list is really, really long, I might say calmly, “That’s all?”

A client must be pretty far gone not to laugh.

And, certainly, ask your client, “If you were going to choose, which would be the single most important area for us to focus on helping today?”

Friend or Not, Be Clear

Sure, that “client” receiving your help is a friend. Sure, you are doing a favor.

Nevertheless, you still can be clear about intention. For you, it’s important ethically. For your client, it’s important as well. Unrealistic expectations can sour your client on all your good work.

While discussing intention with your client, make sure he understands that an intention is different from a promise. You cannot promise results, not ever.

Watch your language throughout every session. Avoid claiming to bring particular results. If you need examples of carefully chosen language, let politicians inspire you! Watch their interviews on TV for role modeling.

As a spiritual healer you can have the purest intentions in the world, even more pristine than the apparently selfless, saintly people who run for public office. Even for practiced politicians, promising can be done unintentionally.

It’s fine to say you will do a particular action, like cutting a cord of attachment to somebody’s spouse. And it’s better to agree on an intention like “To gain clarity about whether or not to stay in this marriage.” That means gain clarity eventually, not in the next hour.

And it would be way inappropriate to promise that, as a result of your session, your client will have the happiest marriage in all the world.

Unrealistic expectations aside, make sure your client knows from the outset that certain problems cannot be solved simply by cutting a cord of attachment.

If a medical problem is involved, recommend that your client see a doctor. Make it clear that this session is not meant as a substitute. Clinical depression, for instance, can require medical intervention or help with a licensed mental health practitioner. Alternative healing, such as cutting cords of attachment, makes a poor substitute for common sense.