Instant Orgasm: Excitement at First Touch (6 page)

Y How Is Instant Orgasm Different from Z

Extended Massive Orgasm?

In our books on extended massive orgasm (EMO) we included information on how to start orgasming on or before the first stroke. However, this infor-

mation got somewhat lost in the perhaps more sensational details of orgasm- ing for many minutes, or even for hours. We believe that the data about being instantly orgasmic is far too valuable to be missed, which is what compelled us to write this book. We want to make sure that this vitally important point is fully grasped by everyone. Until you understand and are able to experience orgasmic pleasure on or before the first stroke, you will not have a real EMO. We want you to be able to extend your orgasm so that it can be initiated at the beginning, the start, the commencement of the sensual experience. The abil- ity to sustain an orgasm and the ability to feel orgasmic pleasure from the be- ginning are interrelated. To sustain the orgasm one has to be focused in the present moment, just as one has to be focused in the present moment to feel the first stroke.

The focus of this book is on the beginning, on that first stroke, on our abil- ity as human beings to be present to a heck of a lot more pleasure than we have been led to believe we could experience. Subsequently, each stroke that comes after the first can be experienced with the same grand attention and apprecia- tion, which is one of the key issues we will discuss. We will also delve deeper than ever before into how to keep the orgasm going. So even if you have read our earlier books on extended massive orgasm, there is additional informa- tion here to help you perfect your skills.

How, then, do we go about getting this instant orgasm? We read this book and say, “Wow, that would be great.” We believe—we have faith—that it is possible. We practice, and we prioritize pleasure. We enjoy and savor every step.

Y Language and Orgasm Z

We would like for people to eventually consider changing the name of “in- stant orgasm” to simply “orgasm.” Then the old kind of orgasm can be called just that—“the old kind of orgasm” (which we also affectionately refer to as a “crotch sneeze”). Why do this? We believe that you do not have to give up hav- ing the crotch-sneeze type of orgasm; we only suggest adding this new kind of pleasure to your repertoire. We call it a “crotch sneeze” more to get your at- tention than to demean it. It is comparable to a sneeze because it is over so

quickly, but of course it can be very enjoyable. We also believe that when you practice this newer way of being orgasmic—that is, when you are instantly orgasmic and then experience wave after wave of orgasmic sensation—you will tend to prefer it, and you may or may not want to experience the old kind of orgasm any longer. However, the option will always be available. The phenomenon we’re describing is analogous to the replacement of tube televi- sions with the high-definition, flat-screen variety. The picture is much more intense, and after a while the old TV may seem inferior—though it may be fun to see a black-and-white show once in a while. One day we will not have to use the adjective “HD” to describe TVs, just like we won’t have to describe an or- gasm as “extended massive” or “instant.” It will simply be an “orgasm.”

Language is likely the most important reason for our success as a species. Early on, it enabled us to hunt and gather food as a team, and to pass on knowl- edge that we gained through experiences. We do not have to go back to square one with each new generation; rather, through spoken and written language we can pass down many of our ideas and discoveries. However, when we have sex or create pleasure with someone, we are conditioned by our society to do it in the dark, using as little language as possible. Chapter 3 presents ways to talk with your partner that will enhance the experience.

Y New Thinking Z

Webster’s
defines “orgasm” as the climax of sexual tension, and this is the way most people understand the phenomenon. This definition means that you have to reach some threshold in order to have an orgasm. It also means that

orgasm lasts for a very short time—a few seconds—and then ends. What if this concept itself is what is stopping us from experiencing a much fuller or- gasm—waves of sensation that begin with the first stroke or even before, and last until the final stroke or even after?

What if our natural state is to be in orgasm all the time, and it is only when we move our attention to some other function or task that we do not experi- ence these sensual feelings? Surviving in our world requires us to focus on different priorities at different times. We cannot sit around 24/7 getting off, being totally addicted to pleasure. We have other things to do. When a saber-

toothed tiger was chasing our ancestors around the jungle it would not have been in their best interest to place all of their attention on orgasmic pleasures. When we are pounding a nail with a hammer it is best to focus on that nail— not on getting nailed. As the Bible says, there is a time and place for every- thing. The time and place for pleasure is whenever you want it and wherever it is in your best interest to have it.

Our puritanical heritage and religious conditioning, whether Christian or other, are largely responsible for keeping us from realizing that pleasure is an important part of life that is readily available and will not ruin our moral character. We are walking around with these glorious bodies and fantastically creative minds, and yet there is a culturally implanted V-chip that somehow prevents us from receiving the pleasure channel that is being sent to us at no charge from Mother Nature herself.

So the question becomes, how do we plug into that orgasmic channel? The answer, as you may have guessed, is by placing our attention on it. When our attention is on the pleasure of our genitals—on the wonderful sensations that titillate our largest organs, that is, our skin and our brains—when we can lower our defensive shields and raise our pleasure-sensing antennae, we will feel unadulterated pleasure. Likewise, when our attention is on the wrongness of pleasure or on the sinfulness of orgasmic bliss, we fail to feel the pleasure that is readily available to all of us in our natural state.

Our teacher, Dr. Vic Baranco, used to say that the whole world is in orgasm and all you have to do is plug into it. That sounds easy, yet it is an oversimpli- fication, as there is no outlet like there is for plugging in your toaster. We have to intentionally create our connection with the cosmic orgasm by placing our focus on our pleasure centers and on not becoming distracted by judging our- selves based on how we compare or how we think we should feel. We cannot be pissed off at our partners and still have enough space in our consciousness for great fun. We are limited beings in that we can only confront and be aware of a small part of our universe at one time. It is either pleasure or something else, and our society gives us plenty of reasons why it is best to focus on some- thing else.

So one of the first steps on this blissful journey is to realize that we have been brainwashed not to feel as much as we can—that we have been taught

to avoid experiencing orgasmic sensations from birth onward. It is also im- portant to realize that there is hope that we can experience this ecstasy, which Vera and I believe is every human’s birthright. Our bodies can and do work wonderfully, given just a little mental adjustment and a little practice to re- store what has lain dormant due to negative cultural conditioning from par- ents, peers, clergy, teachers, and others.

When a person realizes that they can feel ecstasy whenever they feel like it—that to achieve an orgasm they do not need to be in some ideal setting, or to wait for the perfect time, or to be inebriated—they are freed and their minds are opened.

This blissful journey is not a difficult one; it is a continually fascinating and creative passage with no destination, as such. It is ongoing, and it be- comes part of who we are. This does not mean that we cannot or will not at- tempt other endeavors or that we will become so addicted to pleasure that we forget the rest of our lives. No—in fact, tuning in to pleasure will expand one’s creativity in all aspects of being. It is a form of enlightenment, and as the Zen Buddhists say, “Before enlightenment, chop wood and carry water; after en- lightenment, chop wood and carry water.” Those daily tasks will just become that much more enjoyable.

The ability to be instantly orgasmic, especially for women, actually frees up a person’s time and thoughts. One no longer has to be concerned about their sexual aptitude, as they have already passed the test. This does not mean that one’s capacity for pleasure will not grow or get better, but it does signify that the tiger is no longer being swung by its tail. Now the tail is being moved when and if the tiger so desires. This is very freeing to women who have been kept in the dark for so long about their sexual aptitude and fulfillment. Once a woman knows she can get off whenever and for however long she desires, there is no further need for her to be concerned about her orgasmic ability. She can focus her energy and creativity on other endeavors without entertain- ing this nagging doubt. And when a man learns how to produce this pleasure for a woman, he is also freed. He becomes more confident and self-assured and can concentrate on other things, again without any doubt about his sex- ual skills nagging at him and blurring his focus.

Y Women and Men Differ in Response Z

We teach a class called the DEMO, which stands for Demonstration of an Ex- tended Massive Orgasm. In it we demonstrate a manually induced, hour-long orgasm on a woman. This live presentation is given in front of a mixed audi- ence of men and women. Everyone can see the woman’s intense orgasm, and many students are even allowed to come to the front of the room so they can touch her leg or stomach. Many of the women in the class can feel orgasmic sensations in their own genitals while they view the demonstration. They re- port getting wet and having contractions (i.e., being orgasmic) without any genital contact. Although the men can observe the sensations that are occur- ring in the woman demonstrator, their bodies do not respond in the same manner as those of the female students.

As mentioned, we believe that women are the source of turn-on, and that a heterosexual man can and will respond to a woman who is using her turn- on to stimulate him via her thoughts, pheromones, or whatever (the actual means have not yet been scientifically determined). The men in our classes who are in a room of turned-on women are not yet turned on themselves as there is no female energy directed specifically at them. The women in the room turn themselves on; this is one of the innate functions they possess that men lack. On occasion, a woman, sometimes one of the teachers but usually one of the students, will have a sexual thought or fantasy about a man or men in general, and many of the men (and also most of the women) will feel this as pleasure in their genitals, usually in the form of erectile activity in their pe- nises. Women are therefore the source of pleasure for themselves and for men, and sometimes for other women.

Although women seem to have a greater capacity for self-created plea- sure and for influencing men to think about pleasure, this in no way means that men must wait for the influence of some feminine charm before they can experience pleasure. A man can have a wet dream without any penile stimu- lation. He can fantasize, through either thoughts or pictures. He can touch himself and feel pleasure. The amount of pleasure he can experience on the first stroke depends on how much attention he’s placing on what he is feel- ing, and also upon what kind of expectations and views he entertains about

orgasm. Is he touching himself in a relaxed way, or is he just doing it to relieve himself of sexual tension? When a woman turns her dial up and lasers it to- ward a man, he can feel very intense pleasure; we can call this an instant or- gasm. It is somewhat out of his control, yet his ability to focus on his pleasure can amplify her signals or dampen them if he remains unconscious of them.

So there seem to be some differences as well as some similarities between how men and women experience sensual pleasure, specifically instant or- gasm.

Y The Old Kind of Orgasm Z

When most people think of orgasm they think of the graph created by Masters and Johnsonshowingfourdistinctpartsofthesensualexperience: excitement, plateau (arousal), orgasm, and resolution. These occur in the old paradigm wherein a person remains tensed up while being stimulated because they are waiting for the end goal of orgasm. But we ask, what really separates excite- ment and arousal from orgasm? This is key to the concept of instant orgasm. As we see it, people’s sexual response is completely subject to what they be- lieve about it—that is, how they view the experience based on what they have been taught and what they have seen others do. Most of what people, both men and women, have seen is actually the male orgasm. He tenses up, tenses up, tenses up, and then squirts, squirts, squirts, and then he can go no farther. How many women have ever seen another woman have an orgasm? Women base their own idea of what they think their orgasms should be like on the or- gasms had by the males they have been in bed with or have seen in movies or