Rules of the Game (47 page)
Authors: Neil Strauss
After saying this, most often she'll sidle up to you and reinitiate contact. If not, you can work or watch TV for a little bit, then just say, “Come here,” and continue again. Often, if you simply say, “Lift your arms” or “Take off your shirt,” she'll be more comfortable doing so now
.
Despite all of the above, the best thing to do, besides making sure never to make her feel like a slut or like she's being used for your gratification, is to be really good in bed. Not like a porn star
â
those films are made to fulfill men's fantasies
â
but like a character from a romance novel, who intuitively understands both a woman's body and her feelings. If you can teach her something new about her own body and help her feel pleasure she's never experienced before, she will want to be with you just for the learning experience. Read books such as
The Guide to Getting it On
or Mantak Chia's
The Multi-Orgasmic Couple,
and if you're able to demonstrate authority over a woman's body without ever seeming desperate or needy, she'll be the one seducing you
.
Type of Routine:
Physical Connection
Difficulty Level:
6/10
Success Rate:
100%
Saturation:
0%
Comments:
“I had my first threesome ever thanks to this. And I'd never even been with the second girl before. When they came over, I had Nancy Friday's book on my desk and I started talking about different fantasies. Then I left the room. When I came back in, they were making out. I got on the bed and said, âThis isn't fair. Come here.' I kissed one girl, then the other girl. Ten minutes later, they were blowing me on the airbed and I was thinking, âI hope this bed doesn't pop.' It was honestly the most amazing thing ever.”âHype
Origin:
In
The Game
, I wrote about using the Dual Induction Massage to initiate a threesome. But once I realized how amenable many women are to a threesome if it seems to happen comfortably and spontaneously, I found I could be slightly more overt. So I started using the general methodology below. It's designed to bring together two women you're sleeping with on a nonexclusive basis.
  1. | When you're both alone, ask Woman #1, “Have you ever kissed a girl before?” |
  2. | On a separate occasion, ask Woman #2 the same question. |
  3. | If both have either had an experience they didn't regret with a woman or are curious about it, proceed with the rest of this routine. |
  4. | Make sure you never bring up the subject of wanting a threesome with either woman at any time. After asking the question above, avoid mentioning it again. |
  5. | Make plans with both women for the same night. Tell each separately, “Let's meet at my house, then maybe we'll join some friends for a drink later.” If one of the women has a stronger relationship with you or is a little possessive, invite her over half an hour earlier than the other woman. Don't mention to either that anyone else will be at the house. They should assume they're coming over to sleep with you one-on-one. |
  6. | Call each woman as she is en route to your house. Tell her, “I'm inviting a little plaything over here for us. I think you'll enjoy her.” |
  7. | Chances are that the woman won't say yes. But she most likely won't say no either. Rather than waiting for a yes answer, as soon as the idea has registered with her and she seems to have assented nonexplicitly (often by saying something cute and noncommittal), change the subject and talk about something else. Here's an example of one such dialogue with a more skeptical woman: |
YOU
: I've invited a little plaything over for us tonight.
HER
: What do you mean? A toy or a person?
YOU
: A person. Her name's [
name
].
HER
: [
long pause
]
YOU
: Remember, we keep talking about wanting to do something new and adventurous, but we never end up doing it. So I thought it was time we did.
HER
: A friend of mine told me that bringing a third person in can really ruin a relationship.
YOU
: Well, there's no obligation to do anything with this other person. It doesn't really matter what happens. We can all hang out and, if it doesn't seem right, we don't need to do anything with her. It's only if we're both comfortable and it seems right. Otherwise, we can just have her leave.
HER
: I'm not sure I'm comfortable with another woman in bed with us.
ME
: That makes sense, because how these things go all depends on how the guy behaves. If he makes it all about him, no one has fun. It's lame and uncool. But if he makes it about the girl's pleasure and her experience, then it can be a great, comfortable thing.
HER
: [
silence
]
YOU
: [
changing the subject
] Oh my God, I'm sitting outside right now and it's so beautiful. It's like the perfect temperatureânot hot, not cold. How far away are you?
HER
: About fifteen minutes.
YOU
: Great. See you soon.
  8. | When both women come over, instantly engage them in an entertaining, nonsexual activity, such as playing a female-friendly video game, doing one of your value demonstrations, or helping you go through your closet to find clothes to throw out. |
  9. | Offer them a drinkânot to get them drunk or even tipsy, but just to create a romantic, transgressive mood. |
10. | At some point in the first fifteen minutes, excuse yourself to go to the bathroom or make a phone call. It's important to leave the women alone for a few minutes to get acquainted. |
11. | Shortly after you return, bring them to your bed for a nonsexual activity (such as showing them pictures or videos on your computer). Rather than positioning yourself between the women, let the woman who is more likely to be possessive (Woman #1) be in the middle. |
12. | At this point, the women will know what's going to happen, and will most likely begin to initiate it by being playful or suggestive. Casually start making out with Woman #1. As you do so, hold the hand of Woman #2. |
13. | Now make out with Woman #2. As you do, guide her head so that you are both making out just above Woman #1. |
14. | Now move your head away and, if necessary, gently turn Woman #2's face toward Woman #l's. Most often, they'll start making out passionately, thus beginning the threesome. Throughout, make sure that neither woman gets jealous of the attention you're giving |
A Note to Female Readers
You may be reading this and thinking, “Oh my God, this one guy totally did these routines on me.”
You may then think, “I was tricked.”
This note is to reassure you, in a non-sarcastic, non-glib way, that these routines exist only to help men avoid awkwardness and rejection.
You cannot be tricked into sleeping with someone you don't want to. On the other hand, you can very easily be dissuaded from sleeping with someone you
do
want to. These routines were designed to prevent men from scaring away or boring to tears someone they like or love or desire.
If any of this material disturbs you, just remember that the rules of the game weren't created by men. We'd love to walk up to you and say, “Hi, let's exchange phone numbers” or “let's get coffee” or “let's get married” or “let's fuck in that alley right there.” But if that worked with any regularity, you'd have hundreds of guys approaching you and saying the same thing every day. So, consequently, you've developed a screening process to separate the desirables from the undesirables.
Though the routines are designed to follow your rulesânot the ones in your conscious mind, but the ones in your subconsciousâin the end, you make the decision. You say yes or no, stop or go. And whether or not a guy is using these routines has absolutely nothing to do with whether he's being sincere or phony or whether he's a good or bad person.
If a man is using these scripts, all it means is that he's read this book and
he doesn't want to lose you due to his own nervousness or inexperience or anxiety.
So is this material manipulative? Of course it is. Every great romantic comedy begins with some sort of manipulation, even if it's just a woman purposefully dropping something in front of the guy she wants to meet or a man pretending to be more successful than he actually is. As human beings, it's our nature to manipulate. Even a baby crying is trying to manipulate his parents for food or attention. The real question you should be asking when meeting a man isn't, “Is he trying to manipulate me?” but “Is he trying to manipulate me with good intentions or bad ones?”
And if his intentions are good, you know what to do.
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THE RULES OF THE GAME GOVERN OUR LIVES,
OUR PROSPERITY, AND OUR HAPPINESS.
THE RULES OF THE GAME ARE EMOTIONAL
AND NOT LOGICAL.
THE RULES OF THE GAME HAVE BEEN THE SAME
THROUGHOUT HUMAN HISTORY, REGARDLESS OF RACE,
CULTURE, OR NATIONALITY.
THE RULES OF THE GAME ARE IMMUTABLE.
THE RULES OF THE GAME CAN GET YOU LAID,
LOVED, MARRIED, IMMORTALIZED.
THEY CAN ALSO GET YOU BETRAYED, DUMPED,
DEPRESSED, STALKED, BEATEN, STABBED, SHOT.
HANDLE THEM WITH CAREâFOR THESE PAGES ARE
INTENDED NOT AS PRESCRIPTION
BUT RATHER AS PREVENTION.
RULE 1:
ATTRACTION IS NOT A CHOICE
RULE 2:
ONE BROKEN LINK DESTROYS THE CHAIN
RULE 3:
GAME IS A BORDERLESS STATE
RULE 4:
KNOW THE TERRAIN BEFORE TAKING THE JOURNEY
RULE 5:
WHAT YOU PERCEIVE IS WHO YOU ARE
RULE 6:
EXPECT THE BEST, PREPARE FOR THE WORST
RULE 7:
WHATEVER'S IN THE WAY
IS
THE WAY
RULE 8:
EMOTIONS ARE REASON ENOUGH
RULE 9:
LOVE IS A WAVE, TRUST IS THE WATER
RULE 10:
THE COMFORT ZONE IS ENEMY TERRITORY
RULE 11:
NO MAN WINS THE GAME ALONE
“What are your goals?” he asked.
“My goals?”
“Yeah. Unless you know where you're going, you won't know how to get there.”
“I guess my goal is quantity, quality, and variety. My goal is to make out with women I just met, get blow jobs in club bathrooms, sleep with a different person every other night, and find myself in strange sexual adventures with multiple women.”
