Sex Mudras (6 page)

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Delayed Orgasm Mudra 2

Although they do exist, men who can withhold ejaculation are rare. During my research, I got to know a pornographic film actor who delighted his directors because he could keep an erection going for as long as he liked, all day long if necessary, without ever having an orgasm. This is not the place to analyze why or how he was able to do this, on either the psychological or physiological level. But in any case, he was naturally endowed with abilities that other men have spent months or even years developing through assiduous yogic practice.

Each man can develop his own set of tricks for delaying orgasm. Below are several natural methods that are very simple and, in my opinion, very practical.

Exercise

• During sex, at the moment when you feel your arousal peak, clench your eyes tightly shut and press your entire tongue strongly against your palate (not your partner's palate—even if you are in the midst of kissing!).
  
• If you catch yourself too late, or cannot control the rising excitement, stop all pelvic movement and also ask your partner to move as little as possible for a few seconds. Stay still, with your penis still inside your partner, and perform the two muscular contractions mentioned above. After a few seconds, your impulse to ejaculate will abate.
  
• If you still feel your pleasure rising to orgasm despite your vigilance, try gulping several times over, as if you were trying to swallow something forcefully.
  
• After the excitement in your loins has calmed down, you can return to normal intercourse.
  

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Delayed Orgasm Mudra 3

A powerful way of preventing ejaculation, this exercise relies on the perineum and the muscles of the lower abdomen to delay orgasm.

Exercise

• When you reach that crucial moment at which you feel the pleasure increasing, stop all movement, and with the tip of your index or middle finger, press firmly on the center of your own perineum, midway between your anus and testicles. You will feel some resistance when you press on this area.
  
• At the same time, tense all the muscles of your lower abdomen. This will augment the hardness of your penis while simultaneously preventing the contractions of the muscles that lead to orgasm. The prostate will hold in its seminal fluid so as not to risk being squeezed by a series of muscular spasms.
  
• You can reinforce the effectiveness of this exercise by holding
  your breath.
  
• If it is too late to block the process of orgasm, you can still try
  the practices described in Exercise 19.
  

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Delayed Orgasm Mudra 4

For some men, holding their breath increases the intensity of their orgasm rather than delaying it. With a little experimentation, you will quickly discover whether this is the case for you. If so, try practicing the inverse method, which consists of relaxing your entire body.

Exercise

• If you feel pleasure increasing and wish to delay orgasm in order to enjoy intercourse longer, relax your entire body, as if you were a lifeless puppet. Breathe slowly and shallowly.
  
• Inhale with a long, deep, tranquil breath as you visualize the breath in your body pushing your energy upward, as if to avoid all downward flow and release of energy. At the same time, imagine your jade stalk inhaling breath to the top of your head.
  
• Once the calm returns, resume your sexual motions.
  

As in the previous exercises, don't forget to warn your partner of your intention to practice this exercise during intercourse.

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Mudra for Orgasm without Ejaculation

Too many men have orgasm confused with ejaculation. While they do go hand in hand in most cases, it is possible to have an orgasm without ejaculation—which I heartily recommend. (There is also such a thing as ejaculation without orgasm, but that is not covered in this book.)

The technique is not easy to achieve, but the benefits are immense. The practice allows you to avoid releasing your semen so as to conserve the immense amount of energy that would normally be required to expel it.

Exercise

The greatest challenge of this exercise is that you must choose the exact right moment—within a very narrow window—at which you suspend all activity during sexual intercourse. It is the moment at which you feel a slight pulsing at the center of your lower abdomen (around your prostate), before the contractions become strong enough to cause ejaculation.

• When you feel this pulsing in your lower abdomen, visualize your libidinal energy rising up the length of your spinal column, up to the top of your head. You will feel slight pulsations reaching up to the tip of your penis, but they won't be strong enough to release ejaculation.
  
• In order to suspend the physiological process of orgasm, you will need to practice this exercise frequently and search for the moment at which you must stop in order to “swallow” your energy.
  
• By redirecting this energy inward, you will tone all your organs and consequently your whole body. The ancients believed that this exercise allowed a man to remain young.
  

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The Four
Great Lion Mudras

Moving energy upward in the body is an important practice, especially for men, who must also move energy from the bottom of the penis to its tip. To do this, it is helpful to create a reaction between the lower and upper parts, and to express this reaction physically.

Exercise

Begin by spreading your legs slightly and bending your knees a little. Grasp the glans of your flaccid penis between the thumb and index finger of one hand, and grip the base of your testicles with your other hand, forming a circle with the tips of your index finger and thumb.

• Pull your penis upward, without bringing it to erection.
  
• At the same time, gently pull downward on your testicles.
  
• While doing this, open your mouth and forcefully stick out your tongue.
  
• Finally, while performing these three motions, open your eyes as wide as you comfortably can.
  

The combination of these four mudras, when practiced regularly, will restore your vigor and sexual prowess.

Yin-Yang Mudras

Exercises for Both Sexes

 

Exercise 24. Mudra for Cardiac Recuperation

Exercise 25. Breath-Catching Mudra 1

Exercise 26. Breath-Catching Mudra 2

Exercise 27. Cardio-Pulmonary Toning Mudra

Exercise 28. Kidney-Toning Mudra

Exercise 29. General Toning Mudra

Exercise 30. Peristaltic Energy Mudra

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Mudra for Cardiac Recuperation

During vigorous sexual activity, the heart is put through a considerable ordeal. If you restore it to a normal rhythm afterward, you will feel better and less tired.

An ocular-cardiac reflex allows calm to be restored to the heart in a very small amount of time. This mudra, though it may seem ridiculous to neophytes, is well known among cardiologists; they use it to treat tachycardia and grave arrhythmia. Do not practice this mudra excessively, however, as this will reduce its effectiveness.

Exercise

• When you or your partner is exhausted or out of breath, recline on your back, with your head lying flat.
  
• Place the pads of your first two fingers over your closed eyes, and press slowly but firmly on the eyeballs.
  
• Hold this position for a few seconds, then release. The effect is generally immediate.
  

You and your partner can practice this mudra on yourselves or on each other.

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Breath-Catching Mudra 1

This exercise has a double advantage: it allows you to recover your normal breathing after vigorous sexual activity, and it can also be used in preparation for prolonged, intense, and energetic intercourse.

Exercise

• For a few minutes, touch the tip of your tongue to the backs of your top two front teeth, at the front edge of your palate.
  
• At the same time, bend your ring fingers and touch their pads to your thumbnails. Be sure to do this with both hands at the same time.
  

Variation

This variation may appear insignificant, but it does shift your energies in specific ways.

If touching the tip of your tongue to the backs of your incisors does not result in any particular sensation, touch it to the center of your palate instead. Keep listening to your body. Remember that the most effective part of this exercise is the mudra you perform with your fingers.

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Breath-Catching Mudra 2

This exercise is a variation on the previous one.

Exercise

• Wrap the pads of your ring fingers over your thumbnails as in the previous exercise.
  
• As you inhale a long and tranquil breath, caress your palate from front to back with the tip of your tongue.
  
• As you exhale, return your tongue along your palate to the front of your mouth.
  
• The movement of the tongue follows the breath and at the same time exerts a calming effect on your breathing.
  

As your lungs and breathing slow down, they will further slow the movement of your tongue. With the lungs and tongue reciprocally slowing each other down, your breath and heart rate should soon return to total calm.

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Cardio-Pulmonary Toning Mudra

While the two preceding exercises help both partners to catch their breath, restore calm, and regain energy, the heart and lungs—which experience the most stress during vigorous sexual activity—may need further toning. This can be accomplished by massaging a key point on the Pericardium meridian—Pericardium 8.

Exercise

• With your left thumb, firmly massage the center of the palm of your right hand.
  
• Then switch and massage the center of the palm of your left hand with your right thumb.
  

In traditional Chinese medicine, this point is known as PC 8 (Pericardium 8), meaning that it is the eighth point along the meridian that corresponds to the cardiac muscles.

Variation

If you want to reinforce the effects of this mudra, accompany the exercises above by placing the tip of your tongue behind your top front teeth.

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Kidney-Toning Mudra

Because the kidneys govern sexuality and reproduction, according to Chinese medicine, it is important to protect and maintain their health. This mudra for toning and reinforcing the kidneys focuses on massage of the Kidney 1 point—the first point of the Kidney meridian, located near the center of the sole of the foot. The exercise is quite practical, in that you can do it while you are doing all manner of other things: watching television, reading, or working at a desk. The only requirement is that you need to sit still.

Use a golf ball. These small spheres are exactly the right size and hardness necessary for achieving the perfect effect. The small indentations in the surface help you to avoid losing your grip during the movements you will be practicing.

Exercise

• Press the center of the arch of your bare foot down on the golf ball.
  
• Roll the ball around the arch of your foot, up to the mass of bone to which your toes are attached, making small circular movements. Make sure to roll up the midline of your foot as well as the edges, as the midline is where the Kidney 1 point is located.
  
• Practice this mudra as often as possible; no restrictions are necessary at all.
  

For most of us, this area of the foot is fairly sensitive. The reason for this is simple: the soles of the feet are where the Kidney meridian begins. Because Kidney energy is easily dissipated and must be continuously regenerated, the areas that reflect it are generally quite tender.

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General Toning Mudra

In the ancient Chinese wisdom known as the Tao, we find exactly what was also stated by the great teacher Jesus: as above, so below; as below, so above. This Toning Mudra harmonizes the upper energy center at the crown of your head with the lower energy center in your abdomen. It will dispel your fatigue, harmonize you, and tone you in just a few moments.

You can practice this before or after sexual activity, or in between multiple lovemaking sessions in order to reenergize yourself. You can practice it at any time of day, or at night if you suffer from insomnia. You may find that it helps you to sleep again.

Exercise

• Standing or lying down, place the palm of your right hand on the top of your head and the palm of your left hand over your center of gravity (the middle of your lower abdomen, between your navel and pubic bone).
  
• Close your eyes and remain in this position for a few minutes.
  

Variation 1

If you feel entirely regenerated and notice that your partner is lacking energy (before or after sex), place your right hand on the top of his or her head and your left hand over his or her center of gravity.

Variation 2

Conversely, if you are tired and your partner feels energized, your partner can put his or her hands on you (right hand on the top of your head, left hand over your lower abdomen).