The Art of Empathy (54 page)

frenemies and,
178

in empathic communication,
190
,
197

joy and,
88
,
198

sleep and,150

weasel words for,
201

Descartes' Error: Emotion, Reason, and the Human Brain
(Damasio),
94
,
295
,
299
,
301

de Waal, Frans,
289
,
294
,
299

do-it-aheaders,
132–133

down tone,
210–211

dramatic play,
118
,
175–176
,
216–219
,
227
,
231–232
,
234–237
,
242–244
,
276

gender roles and,
229–230

Dreamland: Adventures in the Strange Science of Sleep
(Randall),
150
,
300

Drezner, Sam,
25

Drezner, Todd,
25

Einfühlung,
24–25
,
35
,
163
,

artistic expression and,
144–145
,
186
,
282

Emotion Contagion and,
129

empathic mindfulness skills and,
31
,
102
,
114
,
117–119
,
126
,
155–156

empathic receptivity and,
92–93
,
139–140
,
154
,
159
,
221
,
246–248
,
262–263
,
280

Eliot, Lise,
20–21
,
228
,
301

Ellison, Sharon,
210–211
,
300

Emotion Contagion,
26
,
27–31
,
127–131
,
157

actors and,
159

affective empathy and,
35
,
293

anxiety and,
131–136

compatibility with loved ones and,
164–165

development in babies and children,
214–215
,
217

Einfühlung and,
129

empathic mindfulness skills and,
106
,
111
,
116
,
121
,
125

hyperempathy and,
45
,
95
,
98
,
110
,
221–222

Resilience dimension and,
54

Self-awareness dimension and,
55

Social Intuition dimension and,
55
,
169

emotion play for children,
225
,
230–233

Emotion Regulation,
27
,
34
,
135
,
187
,
242
,
276
,
293

compatibility with loved ones and,
166

development in babies and children,
214–215
,
217
,
219–223
,
225
,
238
,
240

emotion work and,
171
,
191

empathic mindfulness skills and,
106
,
111
,
116
,
121
,
125

hyperempathy and,
37
,
95
,
98–99
,
166
,
236

online interactions and,
148
,
181

Outlook dimension and,
54–55

Resilience dimension and,
168

Self-awareness dimension and,
55

self-soothing and,
219–223

tantrums and,
224
,
234–236

emotion work,
164
,
169
,
171–81
,
187
,
190–192
,
248–256
,
264
,
297

friendships and,
171–173

see also
Hochschild, Arlie

The Emotional Brain
(LeDoux),
94

The Emotional Life of Your Brain
(Davidson and Begley),
53
,
287
,
299
,
301

Emotional Style dimensions,
49
,
53–57
,

compatibility with loved ones and,
167
– 170,
172–173
,
175
,
183
,
206

empathic mindfulness skills and,
106
,
111
,
116
,
121–122
,
126

friendships and,
167–170

shyness and phobias and,
236–238

therapeutic suggestions for,
287–288

Emotional Vocabulary List,
283–286

emotionally well-regulated workplace,
263–266

emotions,
4–6
,
10–16
,
84–88
,
263–266

antisocial,
64–65
,
70–71

as action-requiring neurological programs,
59–64
,
84
,
89
,
295

contrasted with feelings,
93–99

clustered,
77–81
,
196
,
197
,
231
,
269

dysregulated in online interactions,
148
,
181

expression and repression of,
66–71
,
94
,
102
,
120–122
,
147
,
192
,
225

feedback loops and,
76
,
92–93
,
102
,
125
,
134–135
,
168
,
192
,
236
,
241

flowcharts,
96–98

in empathic communication,
193–198

multiple,
13
,
77
,
197

nuance, problem of,
71–77

play (for children),
230–233

prosocial,
64–65
,
70–71

quantity, problem of,
77–81

quiz,
72–75
,
295

valencing,
64–66
,
70–71
,
77–78
,
80
,
94
,
123–124
,
233

weasel words for,
199–202

see also
channeling your emotions

empath-cam,
5
,
42
,
55

empathetic, usage,
289

empathic burnout,
16
,
36–37
,
46
,
57
,
101
,
141
,
146
,
164
,
178

in the workplace,
249–251
,
254

activism and,
268–270

Empathic Accuracy,
26
,
29
,
31–34
,
93–95
,
99
,
135
,
187
,
190
,
292
,
299

compatibility with loved ones and,
165–166
,
171

development in babies and children,
214–215
,
217
,
225

empathic mindfulness skills and,
106
,
111
,
116
,
121

Self-awareness dimension and,
55

Social Intuition dimension and,
55
,
169

Empathic Meditations for Relationship Conflict,
207–210

empathic inventory,
13–16

empathic mindfulness skills,
102–127
,
148
,
165–166
,
262

Einfühlung and,
31
,
102
,
114
,
117–119
,
126
,
155–156

Emotional Style dimensions and,
106
,
111
,
116
,
121–122
,
126

for children,
224–228

Six Essential Aspects of Empathy and,
106
,
111
,
116
,
121
,
125

empathic receptivity and Einfühlung,
92–93
,
139–140
,
154
,
159
,
221
,
246–248
,
262–263
,
280

empaths,
5
,
10–12
,
17
,
19–25
,
32
,
46
,
57
,
101
,
174–175
,
279–280
,
289

emotion work and,
251–253

friendships with,
179–181

Gem from
Star Trek
,
294

healthy home environment for,
139–162

see also
hyperempathy

empathy,
ix
,
3–4
,
11–12

affective,
24
,
35
,
293

artistic expression and,
144–147
,
243–244

autism and,
22
,
24–25
,
31
,
37
,
163
,
221
,
290
,
292–293

babies, development in,
39–40
,
108
– 109,
167
,
213–220
,
291–292
,
294

cognitive,
24
,
35
,
293

dark side of,
272–277

fiction and,
14
,
25
,
129
,
166–167
,
186
,
216–219
,
232–233
,
242–244
,
297

inventory,
13–16

men and boys and,
19–22
,
24
,
183–186
,
228–230
,
281
,
290

psychopathy and,
22–23
,
37–38
,
167
,
291–293

Six Essential Aspects,
26–40

see also
Einfühlung, hyperempathy

employee silence,
255–256
,
254
,
298

employees, overqualified,
264–265

enneagram,
53

envy,
32
,
61
,
65
,
284
,
291

empathic definition of,
75
,
86
,
173–174
,
177

gossip and,
258–259
,
260
,
265

in emotion play,
231–232

in empathic communication,
196

necessity in healthy child development,
238–239

sibling and peer rivalry and,
238–239

weasel words for,
202

equilibrium,
54
,
115
,
125
,
148
,
199

Ethical Empathic Gossip,
256–262
,
264–266
,
298

exercise and movement practices,
25–26
,
107
,
145–148
,
152–153
,
163
,
180

for children,
220–222
,
243
,
296

expression of emotions,
52
,
62
,
79–80
,
94
,
102
,
117–121
,
231
,
265

problem with,
66–71

extroverts,
53

eye contact,
15
,
43
,
51
,
69
,
208
,
221–223
,
288

online interactions and lack of,
180
,
297

facial expressions of emotion,
33
,
61
,
188–190
,
215–216
,
292

fear,
14
,
32
,
58
,
66
,
79–80
,
96–97
,
113
,
275
,
284
,
289

activism and,
269

Attention dimension and,
170

channeling,
68–71

empathic definition of,
62–63
,
73
,
85
,
89–90

focusing with,
105

in emotion play,
232

in empathic communication,
195

shyness and phobias and,
236–238

lack of,
60–61

stress and,
199

weasel words for,
201

Fearful Frank,
255

feedback loops and emotions,
76
,
92–93
,
102
,
125
,
134–135
,
168
,
192
,
236
,
241

The Feeling of What Happens: Body and Emotion in the Making of Consciousness

(Damasio),
94
,
295
,
299

feelings contrasted with emotions,
93–99

fiction and empathy,
14
,
25
,
129
,
166–167
,
186
,
216–219
,
232–233
,
242–244
,
297

flowcharts from emotion to feeling,
96–98

Forum
radio show,
132

frenemies,
177–179
,
297

friendship,
12
,
20
,
49
,
92
,
99
,
136
,
142
,
152
,
163–164

Emotional Style compatibility and,
167–170

emotion work and,
171–173

empathic, finding,
179–181