The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex (62 page)

My fantasy is that as I sit here thinking and filling out this survey, my wife would be upstairs with some 27-year-old woman and I’d hear the faint buzz of vibrators, laughing, and then moaning. And that eventually it’d get quiet for a while and then they’d call me to come upstairs and join them.

I would love to be the main object of desire for an orgy. I am on top of some sort of altar, but I can’t see, because I am wearing a mask over my eyes. I can tell it is dark, though. There are many robed bodies surrounding me. I can tell because I feel the robes being moved, to gain better access to my body. I feel many tongues and hands, vaginas in my face, and penises in my mouth. I also feel penises slide in and out of me, and when I grab at them, I am held down with soft restraints.

This involves sex in a foursome—me and my husband and another couple who are close friends. Although the foursome sex is a fantasy, the situation is based on a real-life event before we were married when we shared a hotel room that had two double beds with these friends. In the middle of the night I woke up beside my husband who was fast asleep and I saw the other couple on their bed making love. Apart from a “live” sex show in Holland and films, it’s the only time I’ve seen anyone else having sex. They were naked and she was on top of her boyfriend. They obviously thought we were safely asleep and I could tell they were trying to be quiet. The room was quite light because the early morning sun was filtering through the curtains. I could see that the woman was masturbating as well as moving herself up and down on her boyfriend. I continued to watch through half-closed eyes for I didn’t want them to see that I was awake, of course, though they weren’t looking in my direction. Eventually she gasped a bit and stifled a cry and I took it that she had come. Shortly after this she lifted herself off the guy and I could see that he was still erect. Then they repositioned and did it doggie-style with him kneeling up on the bed behind her raised bottom. To my surprise (even shock), he withdrew just before coming and his sperm spurted out onto the bed. All of this really happened and I just went back to sleep some time after they had finished. They never knew I had seen them. But in my fantasy I usually ask them, at some stage while I’m watching, if we can join in, and I wake my partner. My favorite version of what ensues involves the other guy fucking me while I fellate my husband who in turn gives cunnilingus to the other woman. She and I have mind-blowing multiple orgasms while the guys manage to last an extraordinary length of time. It usually ends with earth-moving simultaneous orgasms for all four of us.

S/M, Bondage, and Discipline

My wife in a hot red vinyl corset with matching hotpants, arms tied above her head, legs held open with a spreader bar, blindfolded and teased her until her thighs are moist. Remote control egg for the teasing.

A favorite fantasy is having my car pulled over by a cop. The cop asks me to step out of the car and frisks me. I’m wearing a thin summer dress and no underwear. His frisking gets rough and we end up having sex on the hood of my car with traffic going by.

It’s usually variations on my lover asking to “see if I can take it” or some sort of over-the-top size or penetration experience. Sometimes he’s directing another man to “get me ready” or “hold her legs” or “stick this into her—she needs it.”

I would like to own my own men who speak only when spoken to, live to serve and pleasure me, and wear nothing. They will bathe me, brush my hair, and always keep their asses handy.

A woman controls me and binds me on a couple of chairs or a bed. Then she spreads my mouth open with a ring-gag. She penetrates my anus with a strap-on dildo (and uses plenty of lubricant). After that she invites some people, both male and female, who use me for their sexual purposes. They have fun, and so do I.

Taboo Sex (Animals, Kids, Etc.)

I imagine I’m a little girl and have an older brother (who, in my fantasy, is my fiancé) and we are playing hide and seek and accidentally see our parents having sex. We decide to try what we saw them doing. It’s so innocent…and makes me cum really fast.

I currently spend time (with my lover) surfing bestiality websites. My (our) fantasies revolve around the idea of adding a dog to our lifestyle. It is not that we ever would even consider doing this, but it is exciting to fantasize about. We talk about it while lying in bed, and it always leads to wild animalistic sex.

I fantasize about a latex-free party for my very closest friends. Ejaculate is really forbidden fruit these days… just once I want a night when my lovers and I can go bare without worrying about pregnancy or disease.

My favorite fantasy is being a young teen who is lost, and having an older man find me, and eventually having him place my hand on his crotch through his pants to feel his raging hard-on. After a bit of coaxing, he has me unzip his pants and pet his little friend. It feels so silky smooth, like velvet. I keep petting it until he begs me to stop. At this point, he lifts my skirt up, and plays with my clit through the cotton. I gasp, and he continues until my panties get wet. He then tells me that it looks like I’ve had an accident, and I’d better take them off so I don’t get in trouble when I go home. After I do he keeps playing, and then slowly and gently inserts a finger a bit and uses the flat of his hand to massage my clit. While doing this he asks me to pet his little friend again, and we pet each other for a while in the front seat of his old car. All of a sudden, I tell him that I think I feel like I have to pee, but he tells me that that is not what I have to do. He says that I just have to let happen what is going to happen. At this point he is breathing funny, and I ask if he is okay, he says he is having the same feeling that I am having, like having to pee. I ask him if he wants me to stop, but he grunts “No,” and asks if he can put his friend in my pee-pee hole. I think for a moment, and finally agree. He takes his hand off me, and grabs a blanket from the back seat and leads me out to the soft tall grass and lays the blanket down for me. He explains that it may hurt for a bit, but then it will feel much better after he “Parks his car.” He places his friend at my opening that is dripping wet, and gently pushes his friend in a bit at a time. He is right, it hurts for a bit, but then after he gets in all the way and starts to go in and out it really feels wonderful. I tell him I’m having that feeling again when he starts to breathe and go in me faster and faster. He says to go with it, and I think for sure I’m gonna pee all over him, but then, all of a sudden, my insides are pumping and I’m screaming at the top of my lungs! Not too long after that he yells “Oh God, oh fuck, oh fuck, I’m coming!” and he goes really fast, then almost stops. He kisses me and thanks me. A minute later he rolls off me, and we just lie there. About a half hour later I ask if we could do it again, we do, and it is much better. I ask him what his name is, and he says to call him Mr. Parker. He asks if he could meet me again to park his car, and I tell him he is welcome in my garage anytime!

Miscellaneous Fun Fantasies

My partner and I wake up one morning and usually we start the day with having sex and then we get ready for work. On this particular day, I am rushing to get to work and am about to leave the bed without our normal sex first. She stops me and asks me where I’m going and I tell her I have to get to work for a meeting. She convinces me to at least perform oral sex on her until she achieves one orgasm and then she will let me go. Well, one orgasm turns into four as the first three really “didn’t count.” She then flips me over and sits on my face to force me to pleasure her, orally. She knows I really need to go to work, but is unusually horny and decides to keep me home for the day. So, she picks up the cordless phone, while still on my face, and calls my office and tells my boss that I will not be in today because I’m sick. She then hangs up the phone and says, “There, now I’ve got you here to myself all day long so you can f**k me!” We then spend the rest of the day and night having sex like animals.

I love to fantasize about my wife lying on her bed, watching a porn video. As she lies there, she starts to get excited and begins rubbing her breasts. She loves to pull and twist her nipples. Then she slowly starts to rub her pussy with her hand, playing with her lips. She spreads her legs as far as she can. Then with her left hand she spreads her lips open. Then she takes her right hand and draws her index finger over the opening, and it’s all slick and wet. Then she finds the clit, which isn’t difficult because it’s got a pebble in it, and begins to rub on it. This time she uses her middle finger and starts rubbing, beginning gently, then a little harder and faster. Her head is back, her hips are working up and down, and then when she can’t catch her breath she starts cumming.

It starts with me having a lot of money. I check into a large hotel suite and call an escort service. I have them send over five to ten girls and tell them that I want them for one full week. When the girls show up, I tell them that I want them to take off all their clothes and remain that way for the entire week. They are not to leave the room. Food will come from room service. While they are with me, they are to be my sexual slaves, doing anything and everything I want, whenever I want it. I would have them do things with me and with each other. I would have one girl in my lap at all times. Even if I cannot possibly come one more time, at least one girl will be either in my lap or in my arms or cuddled up next to me. We would all sleep together in the big bed. The girls would bathe me from time to time and I would watch and maybe help as they bathed each other.

Enjoying Your Fantasies

I fantasize about my lover (usually) when I masturbate—he kind of creeps into my fantasy like smoke. My hand is rubbing my clit real fast and frantic while I’m thinking how much I totally want him. Before I know it I’m panting and coming and oh, oh….

Most people use fantasies to increase their sexual arousal, whether they’re enjoying (or anticipating) sex with themselves or a partner. (More than 70 percent of male and female respondents to a Kinsey survey reported fantasizing during sex with a partner.) Anyone, however, can enjoy a sexual fantasy without expecting to engage in sex. Consider it a recreational activity, like walking in the park or talking on the phone—it’s something we do to improve our mood, or relieve boredom or stress.

Sexual fantasies calm me down and stop me from obsessing and worrying.

We asked our survey respondents to share their favorite times and places to fantasize, and these answers topped many lists: during masturbation, during partner sex, during class, before falling asleep, after waking up, when taking a shower, in the car, on the bus, on an airplane, on the subway, while riding a bike, on the phone, at the office, at home, at the library, instead of doing homework, during meetings and lectures, walking down the street, on the beach, in the financial district.

These responses deserve special mention:

My fantasies most often occur during masturbation, but every so often they come out of the blue; for example—sitting on a bus, a man’s crotch directly in front of my face. I begin to fantasize about taking out his penis and performing fellatio.

I like to fantasize before going to sleep because it increases the chances of better dreams.

Any time or place where I have more than two minutes without anything to do or read.

My favorite time to fantasize is when it is most inconvenient to do so. For instance, when I am with a customer at work, while I am driving, while I am on hold on the phone.

Some people have one reliable fantasy that they call upon when the mood hits. Others maintain a ready supply of favorites, while still others make up new fantasies as they go. When asked about her favorite fantasy, one woman replied:

I don’t have a favorite. It varies from fucking whoever my favorite fellow student is, to strangers, dogs, bunches of people, multiple genders, groupies, old people, young people, boys, drag queens, famous people, someone I passed at the grocery store, in public, private, inside, outside, me as male, me as a different female, transsexual, etc.

Fantasies are a powerful aphrodisiac because they offer people a chance to enjoy sexual activities they might not normally experience—or necessarily ever want to. Just as many of us engage in nonsexual fantasizing (daydreaming), like entertaining thoughts of winning a gold medal, living in an exotic foreign land, or being rich and famous, so too can we enjoy the thrill of some chance sexual encounter brought to us courtesy of our imaginations. For most of us, the knowledge that we won’t engage in these activities in our real lives only adds to the erotic charge of our fantasies.

Most of my fantasies include situations I have no real desire to fulfill in person. Which is a real relief because when I menstruate I find my fantasies become more violent. I find keeping them my secret is what is most exciting.

We also use fantasies to explore different parts of our personalities. Take the example of the serious, to-be-feared commanding officer who enjoys fantasies of submission and humiliation, or the supermom den-mother who fantasizes about being a professional stripper at the local nightclub. You can try on a new gender, sexual preference, or sexual technique. Experiment with their erotic appeal to learn something new about yourself.