The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women (30 page)

2
“Chlamydia,” by Jon Knowles, revised by Jennifer Johnsen (March 2004),
www.planned-parenthood.org
.

3
Dr. Palmer’s Guide to Hepatitis and Liver Disease,
by Melissa Palmer, M.D. (Avery, 2004) 82; Hepatitis Foundation International,
www.hepfi.org
.

4
Palmer, 92, 93; “Hepatitis B,” by Danielle Dimitrov (February 2004),
www.plannedparenthood.org
; Hepatitis Foundation International,
www.hepfi.org
.

5
Palmer, 114.

6
Palmer, 114; Hepatitis Foundation International,
www.hepfi.org

7
“Irritable Bowel Syndrome,” (April 2003), National Digestive Disease Information Clearinghouse (NDDIC), a service of the National Institute of Diabetes and Digestive and Kidney Diseases (NIDDK), National Institutes of Health,
www.digestive.niddk.nih.gov
.

My goal for this book is to give people, especially women, knowledge about their bodies, so we may all have safe, pleasurable anal erotic experiences. Before I wrote the first edition, I came across plenty of women who really enjoy anal sex—the unique physical sensations, the emotional intensity, the complex psychological dynamics. These same women took a major step in breaking their silence to tell me that they love anal sex. Then they told me why they love to do it, how they love to do it, when they love do it, and with whom (or what) they love to do it. It felt great to finally hear other women’s stories and not feel so alone with my own desires, fantasies, and experiences of anal sex. I hoped
The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women
would incite this kind of communication among its readers and the dialogue would continue. Boy did it ever.

I’m thrilled by the response to the book, and I’m excited that I had so much more to say the second time around. And I hope there’s more to come—more scientific, medical, and anecdotal research; more surveys; more books. Just think: the more information we have, the more anal sex we can have!

If you picked up this book, you have some desire and curiosity to learn more about anal sexuality. If you’ve gotten this far, my desire is that you will now be armed with information, resources, ideas, and some answers to your questions. Use this book with love, understanding, desire, and trust; ideally, it will reward you with some hot, sexy anal play. Remember that patience and practice make perfect. In my anal erotic experiences, I’ve felt sheer bliss, absolute surrender, indescribable rapture, and overwhelming pleasure—and I haven’t gotten anywhere near perfect yet. In fact, I don’t really want to. For me, the ultimate thrill is in the voyage.

Anal Pleasure and Health
by Jack Morin, Ph.D. (San Francisco: Down There Press, 1998).

 

Basic In-Home Colon Cleansing: An Illustrated Guide
(CD-ROM) by Edith Webber (Health Management Research Institute, 2003).

 

The Clitoral Truth
by Rebecca Chalker (New York: Seven Stories Press, 2000).

 

Dr. Jensen’s Guide to Better Bowel Care
by Bernard Jensen (New York: Avery Publishing Group, 1998).

 

The Enema as an Erotic Art and Its History
by David Barton-Jay (David Barton-Jay Projects, 1984).

 

The Erotic Mind: Unlocking the Inner Sources of Sexual Passion and Fulfillment
by Jack Morin (New York: HarperCollins, 1995).

 

Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot
by Deborah Sundahl (Alameda, CA: Hunter House, 2003).

 

The First Year: Hepatitis B—An Essential Guide for the Newly Diagnosed
by William Finley Green (New York: Marlowe & Company, 2002).

 

The First Year: Hepatitis C—An Essential Guide for the Newly Diagnosed
by Cara Bruce and Lisa Montanarelli (New York: Marlowe & Company, 2002).

 

The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex
by Cathy Winks and Anne Semans (San Francisco: Cleis Press, 2002).

 

Guide to Getting It On
by Paul Joannides (Chicago: Goofy Foot Press, 2004).

 

Intimate Invasions: The Erotic Ins and Outs of Enema Play
by M. R. Strict (Oakland, CA: Greenery Press, 2004).

 

Love Thine Enemas & Heal Thyself
by Dr. Jerry Glenn Knox (Vancouver, WA: Lifeknox Publishing, 2002).

 

The Many Joys of Sex Toys
by Anne Semans (New York: Broadway Books, 2004).

 

Orgasms for Two: The Joy of Partnersex
by Betty Dodson, Ph.D. (New York: Harmony Books, 2002).

 

Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism
by Phillip Miller and Molly Devon (Fairfield, CT: Mystic Rose Books, 1995).

 

Sex for One: The Joy of Selfloving
by Betty Dodson (New York: Three Rivers Press, 1996).

 

Sex Toys 101: A Playfully Uninhibited Guide
by Rachel Venning and Claire Cavanah (New York: Fireside Books, 2003).

 

SM 101: A Realistic Introduction
by Jay Wiseman (Oakland, CA: Greenery Press, 1998).

 

The Surrender: An Erotic Memoir
by Toni Bentley (New York: ReganBooks, 2004).

 

Trust: The Hand Book—A Guide to the Sensual and Spiritual Art of Handballing
by Bert Herrman (San Francisco: Alamo Square Press, 1991).

 

The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Men
by Bill Brent (San Francisco: Cleis Press, 2002).

 

The Ultimate Guide to Strap-on Sex
by Karlyn Lotney (San Francisco: Cleis Press, 2000).

Arthur Hamilton Inc.,
www.arthurhamilton.com
, 888-783-6937

Beth Tyler Labs,
www.bethtyler.com
, 972-772-9393

Enema Bag,
www.enemabag.com

Enema Lovers Guide,
www.enemaloversguide.com

Klystra,
www.klystra.com

665 Leather and Fetish Company,
www.665leather.com
, 310-854-7276 722 Santa Monica Blvd., West Hollywood, CA 90069

Adam and Eve,
www.adameve.com
, 800-274-0333

Aneros,
www.aneros.com

Astroglide/Paradise Marketing,
www.paradisemarketing.com

A Woman’s Touch,
www.a-womans-touch.com
, 888-621-8880

Babeland,
www.babeland.com
, 800-658-9119

Blowfish,
www.blowfish.com
, 800-325-2569

Bungee Sexperience,
www.bungeesex.com
, 702-260-7475 Makers of the Bungee Sexperience sex swing.

 

Come As You Are,
www.comeasyouare.com
, 877-858-3160

Early 2 Bed,
www.early2bed.com
, 773-271-1219

Eros Boutique,
www.erosboutique.com
, 866-425-0345 581A Tremont St., Boston, MA 02118

Eveʹs Garden,
www.evesgarden.com
, 800-848-3837 119 W. 57th St., 12th Floor, New York, NY 10019

EQ+,
www.eqplus.com
, 800-771-1218

Extreme Restraints,
www.extremerestraints.com
, 866-4MY-BDSM

Fisher Scientific,
www.fishersci.com
, 800-766-7000

Forbidden Fruit,
www.forbiddenfruit.com
, 800-315-2029 512 Neches, Austin, TX 78701

Good for Her,
www.goodforher.com
, 416-588-0900 175 Harbord St., Toronto, Ontario, Canada M5S 1H3

Good Vibrations,
www.goodvibes.com
, 800-289-8423

Grand Opening! Sexuality Boutique,
www.grandopening.com
, 877-731-262 308A Harvard St., Brookline, MA 02446

Grogans,
www.grogans.com
, 800-365-1020

Innerspace,
www.innerspace1.com

It’s My Pleasure, 503-236-0505

J-Lube,
www.jlube.net

JTʹs Stockroom,
www.stockroom.com
, 800-755-TOYS

Kinky Medical,
www.kinkymedical.net

Liberator Shapes,
www.liberatorshapes.com

Libida,
www.libida.com

Love Swing,
www.loveswing.com
, 541-261-6656

Lube Shooter,
www.lubeshooter.com

Medical Toys,
www.medicaltoys.com
, 800-791-3931

MFASCO Health & Safety,
www.mfasco.com
, 800-221-9222

Midnight Blue’s,
www.midnight-blues.net