The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy (20 page)

Clowns

A clown fetish can be stranger than fiction. This category includes fetishists with an innately twisted sense of humor who like to dress as clowns, usually with an adult variation such as topless, with a strap-on, or partially clothed in lingerie. Ouchy the Clown is San Francisco's premier clown pro dom and male escort. No, really.

Corsets and Corset Training

The old-fashioned Victorian corset has seen some literally breathtaking updates in the past fifty years. The feeling of being laced up, the restriction of motion, and the hourglass shape the corset provides are powerful to a corset fetishist. Some may prefer to wear the corset, see them being worn, or undergo corset training, where a corset is worn for extended periods, permanently changing the shape of the waistline. See the Resources chapter for magazines, books, and websites about fetish fashion that include corsetry.

Crushing

Fetishizing the act of crushing or being crushed takes place largely in the imagination. High heels crushing bugs, hands, feet, and tiny people are all popular crushing fantasies. Individuals into crushing might like to watch, or they may pretend to be the hapless creature being crushed. In 1998, as a result of a case involving a man who created and sold videos depicting small animals being crushed (he was arrested on animal cruelty charges), the U.S. Congress banned interstate trafficking of crush videos. In 2002, Britain followed suit, sending four crush video makers (one male, three female) to jail.

Diapers/Infantilism

People who like to wear adult diapers can become both aroused and comforted by the experience, or enjoy feeling helpless (as a baby), or humiliated. Fetishists who are into infantilism become big babies, in effect, and might enjoy being diapered, breastfed, pampered, given toys and a playpen, spanked, or having their diapers changed.

Enemas

Enema fetishists are after a bit more than that clean feeling, though they are probably in impressive colonic health. These people enjoy receiving or administering enemas (anal douches), as punishment, pleasure, or humiliation. They might want to play it as a medical scene. Enema kits can be purchased at drugstores, and should be administered near a toilet. Find medical fetish enema gear at
www.medicaltoys.com
.

Fantasy Creatures

Far-out space creatures, mythical beasts, and animals
with special powers make these fetishists hot and rarin' to go. They might like to impersonate a fantasy creature and fight or have animal sex, or they may enjoy playing the helpless human, or having you play the helpless human. See
Chapter 4
, “Role Play,” for suggestions.

Fat People

A number of individuals find fat people, their clothing, or eating habits arousing. Fat fetishists get turned on by very large people, usually women, and they often take measurements as part of foreplay. Some like to be “feeders,” helping their lust objects increase in size. If you're not their fat ideal, don't try to become it—have fun with images and porn instead. Check out the wonderfully unapologetic book
Fat? So!
, by Marilyn Wann, and a website with sexy fat-positive links,
www.fatso.com
. Another great resource is the guidebook
Big Big Love: A Sourcebook on Sex for People of Size and Those Who Love Them
, by Hanne Blank.

Feet/Legs

A surprisingly common fetish is sexy feet or legs. The fetishist will have very personal ideas of perfection when it comes to the shape of the arch, the look of toenails, skin tone, etc. If you're not Mr. or Ms. ideal feet, treat yourself to pedicures and foot or leg pampering to spiff 'em up. Your fetishist may prefer to do that for you. They may get excited taking care of your feet—touching, rubbing, kissing, sucking, licking, or just looking at them. So many options!
Leg Show
was a terrific print magazine dedicated to leg and foot fetishes, and routinely featured well-known fetish photographers.

Furry Animal Costumes

“Furries” represent a population large enough to hold their own conventions. These merry “furverts” dress in the oversized costumes one might see in an amusement park, though many of them have easily accessible genital openings. Some like to hump or have sex with others in these costumes, others only like to wear the costumes (no sex), and many playact as the actual animal characters in a sexual context. One clever fellow I interviewed created his own dog costume with a snug, silicone-lined tube to fit his penis into. A very thorough furry lifestyle FAQ and link list can be found at PeterCat's Furry Info Page,
www.tigerden.com/~infopage/furry
, and even more links at Tigercat's Big Page of Furry Links:
www.tigerden.com/Sites/furlinks.html
.

Gender-Specific Clothing

Some people get hot looking at, wearing, masturbating with, or having others wear gender-specific clothing. This might include clothing typically worn by men, such as a necktie or boxer shorts, or typically worn by women, such as stockings, bra, garters, panties, dresses, skirts, and so on. Some people can become highly fixated on a particular item, so you both might wind up playing with a jockstrap, a sweaty white sports bra, or white cotton panties.

Giantesses

A fetish for big, tall women. Not just women over six feet, we're talking about the fifty-foot-tall woman. Sometimes these fetishists like to be overpowered or “crushed” underfoot, sat on, or trampled. This is a fun role-play and dirty talk opportunity, where the giantess can masturbate her fetishist while she squishes his tiny body between
her breasts, puts him in her mouth, inserts him vaginally or anally, or crushes him with her spiked heel. Usually found in online directories under “macrophilia” and “giantesses.” A gold mine of images and resources on giant women and tiny men can be found at Giantess Magic, Inc.,
www.gts2.net/
.

Hair

People with a hair fetish become aroused by body hair such as pubic or armpit hair, or they eroticize head hair—long, short, cutting it, shaving it. Your lover might like to touch your hair, be smothered by it, look at pictures of it, or masturbate with it. People seeking porn with hairy woman and men might search for nudist magazines from the “classic” era (1960s and '70s).
Leg Show
magazine often featured women with copious pubic hair, as did
Hair to Stay
magazine (
www.hairtostay.com
), and you can find a large list of links at the woman-run
www.hairywebsites.com
.

Human Animals/Training

Ponies, dogs, cats, farm animals—there are thousands of fetishists worldwide who relish their lives as erotic animals. They are groomed, trained to perform, receive behavioral punishment, “bred” with other animals, and outfitted with costumes and gear to make them more like the animal they identify as.

Inflation

The fetishist gets off inflating body parts with saline and looking at photos or illustrations of fantastical (and often impossible) bodily inflation (usually involving a woman's breasts). Not for casual experimentation. Rubber inflation fetishists enjoy wearing rubber suits
and having them inflated with air, or wearing inflatable masks that obstruct the senses.

Machines

People who become aroused by machinery, by using machines as sex toys, or who secretly identify as machines have a machine fetish. They may become a machine, or become aroused when a partner is revealed to be a machine (humanized machines may fall under the “human doll” category). This is an imagery-driven fetish, but sex machines that vibrate and penetrate (such as the expensive Sybian) can be purchased online. See
www.fuckingmachines.com
and
www.sybian.com
.

Mannequins/Human Dolls

Similar to the human machine fetish, this is a fetish for inanimate humanoids, played either by you or by your lover. Mannequins and human dolls can be dressed and undressed, positioned, admired, and used sexually without protest.

Medical

Medical fetishes are another common fascination. Doctor and nurse uniforms, medical procedures (especially sexual ones), medical equipment, and anything else related to the hospital or doctor's office apply here. Yes, even dentistry. For scene ideas, see
Chapter 4
, “Role Play” and
Chapter 10
, “Erotic Dominance and Submission: S/M Fantasies.” Get your medical fetish gear at
www.medicaltoys.com
.

Midgets

A fetish for midgets, dwarves, and smaller-than-average people. May include watching porn, looking at pictures,
role-playing midget sex, or having different types of sexual encounters with midgets.

Panties

More than just a gender-specific item of clothing, panties exert a special power for many people, making this fetish one of the most common. Looking up skirts, getting glimpses, touching, smelling, being smothered, having panties stuffed in the mouth like a gag, stealing panties, and masturbating with them can all be exciting for panty fetishists. You'll find plenty of panty porn in
Leg Show Magazine
and in explicit erotic photo books by photographer Roy Stuart.

Pregnancy/Lactation

This fetish includes becoming aroused by pregnant women, by the sight of breastfeeding, being breastfed, and fantasies about nursing from giant breasts. It may be a part of infantilism fantasies, but generally involves masturbating and looking at pictures or videos. You can pretend to nurse your partner easily enough while they masturbate, or you masturbate them or employ creative sexual positions for penetration.

Rubber

Rubber fetishists are a refined breed. These people eroticize the smell, feel, and look of rubber garments, which can include rubber isolation suits and masks. The fetishist either wears the rubber or dresses their lover in it, and it might be sexualized in dozens of creative ways, including bondage, inflation (filling with air), and isolation, where the senses are restricted by masks, breathing is conducted through tubes, and the whole body is encased in layers of specially made tight rubber garments and mummy bags.

Some find merely wearing or seeing a rubber dress, corset, or tight-fitting shiny garment to be arousing.

Scars

This refers to arousal by scars or scar tissue, such as old wounds, surgery scars, or vaccination scars. Scar fetishists might like to look at, touch, hear you talk about, masturbate on, or rub themselves on the scar. You can visit a theater makeup store and make a titillating road map on your body of elaborate scars for your fetishist to find, and change them for each encounter. David Cronenberg's film
Crash
features a scar fetish theme throughout.

Shoes

Shoe fetishists are another very common breed. Sarah Jessica Parker and her thousands of Manolo Blahniks aside, shoe fetishists typically fetishize a specific type of shoe. They may collect them to look at or masturbate with, get aroused when another person wears them, ask you to do something with the shoes while they masturbate (such as put a shoe in their mouth or step on them with the shoes), prefer having your regular style of sex while one of you is shoe-clad, or simply get turned on when you wear a certain pair of your own shoes.

Sleeping

I know you're wondering: How can someone have a fetish if they're asleep? Silly, a sleep fetish is where the fetishist gets turned on by being sexually used while they're asleep, becomes aroused by watching others sleep (clothed or not), or entertains fantasies about having sex with someone who is asleep. This is an easy and fun one to play with—good luck trying to stay “asleep” when
you're turned on. A nexus of sleep fetishism can be found at
www.sleepyrealm.com
.

Smoking

The act of smoking, especially when performed by someone the fetishist finds sexually attractive, is a powerful aphrodisiac for the smoking fetishist. For them, nude smokers, novice smokers, and the acts of lighting up, puffing, blowing smoke, ashing, and extinguishing can be a huge turn-on. This may require a small chain-smoking session when you have sex, but if you don't smoke, it's easy to fake by drawing the smoke into your mouth and slowly releasing it with air from your lungs. High-class porn director Andrew Blake often includes smoking in his many long and languid, fetish-tinged girl–girl sex scenes. Check out the smoking fetish magazine
Smoke Signals
at
www.smokesigs.com
.

Stuffed Animals

Covered in fake fur and stuffed with—stuffing, stuffed animals conjure up images of childhood animal-companion fantasies, and are many people's first masturbation toys. People who like stuffed animals (“Plushies”) may be revisiting these feelings, but they also may enjoy the feeling of the toys on their body or genitals, fantasize about having a kinship with the animal the toy represents, or cross over into plushy animal fetishes. You can tease and masturbate your lover with the toy, put on a show of masturbating with the toy yourself, or have a “threesome” with the stuffed animal. Also see “
Furry Animal Costumes
,” above.

Tickling

Some might like to be tickled all over, have particular
parts of their bodies (like feet) tickled, enjoy tickling someone who turns them on, like to watch sexy people tickle each other, or like tickling pushed to the limits with tears and involuntary urination. Many who like to be tickled become very aroused and will want to masturbate; you can restrain them and give them a hand job while you tickle them or employ any other devious scenario you think they might like—just tickle them while you do it. If they like to watch tickling, then put on a tickling video, employ dirty talk with role-playing tickling scenes, or momentarily tickle another person while your lover watches—then have hot sex while talking about it later. For a fun and sexy video featuring happy adult schoolgirls tickling each other to tears, see Maria Beatty's
Converted to Tickling
.