The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy (24 page)

Video Captive

Rent or buy an X-rated video and watch it together—but make it a rule that while you can touch your partner, they must keep their hands to themselves. Trade roles after each sex scene.

Messy Fun

Maybe you're not the type to play with your food, but you might change your mind after you see what happens when you turn your lover into a squirming, giggling—and horny—dessert. A spoonful of warmed chocolate sauce drizzled over a pair of sensitive nipples feels like heaven, and it's a delicious aphrodisiac for whomever gets to lick it off. An affectionately restrained sweetheart can do little but enjoy the teasing and arousing torment you deliver with a bottle of raspberry syrup, sticky drips of honey, chilled whipped cream—and your hot mouth on the job for thorough cleanup. Better yet, two can
play, painting each other with frosting, dousing each other in syrup, rubbing messy sweets all over each other.

There are a few important things to remember when playing with your food. Food, especially sweet and sugary foods, should be kept away from the vagina. Sugars can cause yeast infections, and oils are difficult to flush from the vaginal canal. Because latex—condoms, dental dams, gloves—break easily when exposed to oil, you'll need to be extra cautious playing with food and latex (see
Chapter 12
for additional information on safer sex). And finally, never, ever squirt or spray anything (like whipped cream) or insert bottles into vaginal or anal openings.

Caressing him or her with juicy fruits or drips of honey is decadent and wonderful, and you can really spice things up if you incorporate aphrodisiacs into your edible seductions. Aphrodisiacs are foods and beverages that have been used historically to ignite the senses, seduce, and stir the passions of those who consume these romantic treats. In some cases, the herbs, fruits, or spices stimulate the flow of blood to the genitals, heating up
the lower body and increasing arousal. Ingest aphrodisiacs on an empty stomach to maximize their beneficial attributes, and don't fill up—you won't want to be too full to have sex! Here are a few wonderful aphrodisiacs for messy fun or finger food: avocados, basil, cinnamon, coffee, chocolate, damiana (an herb), fennel, figs, grapes, honey, lavender, licorice, mangoes, mint, oysters, papaya, rosemary, rose petals, strawberries, and vanilla.

Aphrodisiac Seductions

Leave the utensils in the kitchen and bring these stimulating treats to bed:

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Strawberries and chocolate sauce

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A salad of quartered figs, shredded basil, and drips of balsamic vinegar, but no fork

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Warmed honey and a spoon for drizzling

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Vanilla-bean ice cream, but no spoon

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Licorice or candied rose petals beside the bed as a snack

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Mango or papaya spears wrapped in mint leaves

Messy play can be—messy. Plan ahead for your messy adventures and use precautions so you don't have to have the carpet steam-cleaned or throw away your nice flannel sheets:

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For the really messy fun, set the scene in your bathtub or shower. If you get cold when you're all messy, douse yourselves with a jet of warm water.

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You can buy plastic tablecloths in a variety of colors and patterns, and at party supply stores you can buy rolls of colorful plastic sheeting. Put plastic down as a protective layer on your bed, the floor—wherever you want to play. If you don't like the feel of plastic under you, cover it with an old sheet.

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For mildly messy adventures, a few thirsty towels on the bed will do—though I'd advise against using light-colored towels.

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Have a few warm washcloths ready for spills—and for cleaning up what your mouth misses.

Ready, set…smear, drip, and taste! Here are a few lip-licking suggestions:

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Indulge in an after-hours feast. Feed each other finger foods and sexy treats such as grapes or strawberries, banana slices dipped in Nutella, or
your fingers dipped in whipped cream and chocolate.

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With finger foods, “accidentally” smear a little on your lover's mouth and kiss it off.

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“Accidentally” smear food on the chin, nape of the neck, chest, nipples—or lower.

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Squeeze juice from fruits onto each other's skin, or crush them onto each other and eat them off.

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Tickle sensitive spots with cool fruits.

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Create mountain peaks of chocolate or whipped cream on nipples.

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Body-paint each other with different colors of frosting.

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Think about what foods will taste and smell good together. Sweet syrups and sauces are highly recommended, and you can find an array of colors and flavors at your supermarket.

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You don't have to limit yourselves to drippy sauces. Cream pies, cakes, pastries, and anything that is sweet and squishy can be smeared on breasts, squished on buttocks, or slathered onto a cock.

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All these suggestions go nicely with a blindfold, or when that sexy someone is all tied up. See
Chapter 10
.

So, You Want to Be in Pictures?

Sexual imagery has a powerful effect on us. An arousing image, in a photograph or onscreen, can take us from neutral into overdrive in seconds flat—sometimes completely by surprise. You've probably seen the effect on your lover of a sexy picture or scene in a movie; they may be momentarily transfixed, with a secret smile or sparkle in their eye and a secret fantasy running in
their head. What if you were the star of their show?

You can easily produce your own erotic photographs, create adult videos as mementos of your hot encounters or as hot porn that turns you both on, or initiate steamy interactions by taking turns behind the camera. All you need is a camera, some uninterrupted time, and your erotic imagination. When you make your own erotic movies or images, you have a number of sexy options:

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Shoot or film each other undressing, bathing, rubbing on lotion, erotically shaving, or masturbating.

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With a tripod, photograph both of you doing anything that turns you on the most—undressing, making out, performing oral sex on each other, or having sex in any position.

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Enact a steamy role-playing scene (see
Chapter 4
, “Role Play”), someone's hottest fetish fantasy (see
Chapter 9
, “Fetishes”), or a riveting S/M encounter (see
Chapter 10
, “Erotic Dominance and Submission: S/M Fantasies”).

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Create a scenario with a storyline, or reenact a scene from a movie you both find arousing. Layer in props, outfits, location, and shoot in the style of your favorite director or photographer.

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Different photos or videos can be created for different moods—for example, romantic, dreamy, playful, or hot and nasty.

Digital vs. Analog

When shooting erotic stills or video of yourselves, you have two options: using a digital camera or an old-fashioned analog film camera. Both have advantages and considerations for convenience, privacy, and ease of use.

Digital cameras can take dozens—hundreds—of
pictures in one session, have become relatively inexpensive, and are easy to use. The screen allows you to compose your shots more easily than a standard small viewfinder hole; you can see the finished product immediately; and if you take a picture or shoot footage you don't like, you can delete it on the spot. The digital images can be downloaded onto your computer, where you can print stills, edit footage into a film, and send pictures or video to a lover.

Privacy can be an issue with digital stills and video. Keeping images on your computer is risky if anyone else shares your computer, and is not advised for work or family computers. Store your image or video files on a disk, stash the disk in a safe place, and remember to “empty” your system's trash. Be sure to delete the images from your camera and empty your computer's trash with the camera connected to your computer (to ensure that you wipe all the pictures off the camera). If you email the pictures, know that email can sometimes be intercepted: Your employer can legally read email sent from, to, or through your work email address. Also, most mail programs save mail in a “sent” folder, which you will want to delete.

But most importantly, with digital images, take and share explicit erotic images only with people you absolutely trust. If your relationship is on the rocks, you're trying to patch a breakup, you're having an affair with someone who is attached or married, or if your relationship isn't permanent, you risk giving digital erotic images to people who can post them, send them to others, or do a number of compromising things with them on the Internet. It takes less than an hour and a basic skill set to set up a primitive website. Know your partner well, and have a history of trust established between you.

Film cameras, whether stills or videotape, bring their own considerations, plusses, and minuses. On the minus side, two drawbacks are readily apparent: You cannot send a 5 x 7 photo instantly via email (though it can be scanned as a digital image), and if someone stumbles across your pictures or VHS cassette, you're instantly busted. On the plus side, film images have a warmer quality than digital, and (at least for the present) they look better printed and the prints are much more affordable. Film cameras also have become relatively inexpensive, though for stills you'll have to get your film developed somewhere—and you don't want to end up on some employee's personal “wall of fame.” For confidentiality and safety with stills, use a Polaroid or other instant camera. Polaroids make a very sexy token of a hot encounter.

The final disadvantage of analog film and video is that you can't edit on the fly as you can with a digital camera, which is tailor-made for changes and instant deletions. Some couples like to exploit this “unforgiving” aspect of the analog medium, and consider its spontaneity and its ability to unflinchingly capture the moment—no matter how compromising—an asset.

Erotic Video and Photo Basics

To create a successful sequence of sexy photos or an erotic video, keep in mind the following suggestions:

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Have your location, costumes, sex toys, and props ready.

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If you have a story or script, think it through. Get a pen and paper, and sketch your shots—you don't have to be an artist; use stick figures!

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Decide on your lighting style before you begin—dark and romantic, eloquent and warmly lit, natural
and with outside light (can be reflected using white sheets or paper), or glossy and well lit.

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Try to take test shots or footage before you begin.

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Whoever ends up in front of the camera should face at least one-third toward the camera, or you'll miss capturing the action in your camera's frame.

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Choose a variety of shots: wide shots that capture the whole room, medium shots that frame the body, close-ups that crop everything except faces or the focus of the action, extreme close-ups of mouths, breasts, genitals.

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The farther away you are from your subject, the shakier your image.

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Avoid too many wide shots, or you'll yearn for more detail later.

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Decide on the camera's point of view. Is it a fixed position, like a tripod, or movable, like a person? Whose point of view does it represent—yours, your lover's, or another person's?

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Always shoot what turns you on.

Make Your Own Porn

Have you ever seen a porn video and thought you could do it better? You can. Want to make a sexy movie of yourselves to watch and get inspired by? It's easy. Do you want to hold the camera and direct your lover to orgasm, or put on a private show yourself? Grab a video camera and get started.

Video cameras come in an array of formats, but you'll most likely be using VHS, Video 8, High 8, digital 8, or Mini DV. Each type is as easy to operate as a point-and-shoot camera but also offers complex options for investigating advanced camera techniques. Two things these cameras do on their own are autofocus and light
balance; to get clear shots you'll want to adjust your camera movements around these functions. Practice first to see how the camera reacts to focus and light changes. Always move (pan) the camera slowly to give it time to focus, and the same goes for zooming in or out. Should you want to move closer, first make sure the lens is zoomed out to its widest setting. If the light is coming from behind your subject, focus or zoom in on them to reduce the background light source in the frame—otherwise they will look like dark silhouettes.