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Other variations on this position include having the woman lie more horizontally on top of her partner, bringing her legs inside her lover’s (see Figure 14.6). This results in more friction between the partners’ pelvises and a snugger genital fit. She can also lean back onto her partner’s thighs, leaving her clitoris even more exposed for stimulation (see Figure 14.7), or

she can turn around and face the opposite way (see Figure 14.8 on the next page), which gives her more space for stimulating her own clitoris and/or her lover’s testicles or vulva. If working with a penis, firmly cup his testicles and gently pull on them to the rhythm of your thrusting. With the close-up rear view afforded by this variation, her partner can play with her butt at the same time.

FIGURE 14.7: Woman-on-top— variation #2

FIGURE 14.8: Woman-on-top— variation #3

For enhanced upper-body intimacy and touch, the partner being rid- den can sit up as the top partner leans back, supporting her weight on the bottom partner’s legs. This variation allows for great upper-body and cli- toral stimulation by either partner or both at the same time yet signifi- cantly slows down the pace of thrusting. For breast and upper-body stimu- lation, however, the top partner should lean back onto the bottom partner fully or prop themselves up a bit by extending their hands to the ground (see Figure 14.9).

For great G-spot stimulation, the top partner can lie flat, face down, and put her left leg between the bottom partner’s legs while bending and pulling up the right leg. Their legs can also be alternated. This position also allows for more breast play.

Yet another variation involves having the top partner lean forward, legs still bent, with her forearms placed beside her bottom partner’s shoul- ders so that their chests are parallel. She can then pivot her hips to and fro so that her clitoris is stimulated by the base of the penis.

While certain acupressure points are recommended for stimulation with each position, I encourage you to experiment with others that I haven’t mentioned. There are tons to choose from!

Side-by-Side Positions

Whether or not penetration is involved, the side-by-side position is great because it allows for clitoral or penile play when both partners face the same way and the receiving partner leans back onto the body of the other. This is a terrific position for those times when a couple wants to cuddle, relax, and engage in a lot of total-body contact and caressing, focusing es- pecially on the neck and breasts. It is also a position that allows the body to draw sexual energy to the brain during resting periods. Sexual reflexol- ogy teaches that with partners’ arms wrapped around each other, one partner can touch or massage the other’s sacral points (see Figure 10.3 on page 143), activating the sacral pump and creating a sexier mouth and eyes. Also, touching or massaging the back of the heart area or the wing point of the shoulder blades is believed to increase penis hardness or vagi- nal wetness. Placing a hand on the sacral and crown points can make for an even greater orgasmic experience, improving erection strength and

vaginal wetness. Simultaneously activating the sacral and neck points improves blood flow to sexual organs, activating the sacral and cranial pumps.

FIGURE 14 .10: Side-by-side— variation #1

An alternative to this position is for partners to rest on their sides, fac- ing each other, with one lover’s legs wrapped around the other’s waist (see Figure 14.10). For women, this position provides a constant friction against the clitoris as the couple rocks back and forth. Another side-by- side variation that allows for great clitoral stimulation involves the thrust- ing partner lying on their side while the woman’s legs are thrown over the thruster’s hips (see Figure 14.11). She can visually turn her lover on by playing with any part of her own body.

Figure 14 .11: Side-by-side— variation #2

Yet another version of the side-by-side position requires the receiving partner to be on their side, facing away, knees bent and legs pulled up. The thruster’s left leg is under the receiver’s, and the right leg is extended straight, along the receiver’s back. The thrusting partner can see the re- ceiver’s butt, as well as view the penis moving in and out of the vagina or anus.

Rear-Entry Positions

Also known as “doggie style,” the rear-entry position allows a woman or her partner to reach around the front of her body to play with her clitoris, or a man and his partner to do the same with his penis and testicles, using either a hand or vibrator. Another hot spot that benefits from this posi- tion is the testicles, which can be massaged against the bottom partner; plus, the position causes the thrusting to make an erotic slapping sound against the derrière. The bottom partner’s nipples can be stimulated against the sheets or pillows, especially if they are on their forearms. The Womb and Vitals and Sea of Vitality points (see Figures 2.1 and 10.2 on pages 29 and 142, respectively) on the bottom partner’s backside are also easily manipulated in this position.