8 Oral Sex Games For Ultimate Fun & Pleasure (4 page)

Is it a challenge to give your lady an orgasm? Some women do have a hard time reaching orgasm, and their lovers often become discouraged by how long it takes. Meet the challenge—because the more often you can bring her to orgasm, the easier it becomes for her to have them.

Perfect the Move

• Practice twenty-four-hour foreplay for the week prior to this scenario. Give her lots of physical affection with no demands for sex.

• Change your mind-set. Replace the idea of “giving her an orgasm” with “giving her pleasure.” She has to
take
her own orgasm.

• If she doesn’t own a vibe, buy her one. A small bullet vibe or slender wand vibe is a good first choice.

The Cunnilingus Challenge Scenario

You have been a champ expressing how much you enjoy going down on her with every scenario. You give her a sensual massage, kissing and hugging, stroking and caressing her for a long, long time. While you give your massage, you tell her how much you enjoy giving her oral pleasure, that there is no rush, and that she looks, smells, and tastes wonderful. You share this with an open heart, complete honesty and authenticity. You share the details because that is what women trust to be true.

Last-Minute Preparations

Massage her, occasionally speaking softly in her ear, telling her how beautiful and desirable she is.

Indulge in slow, sensual foreplay, paying attention to her favorite erogenous zones, perhaps including her neck, the back of her ears, and her inner thighs.

Bring out your toy. Alternate manual massage of her labia and clitoral area with vibe play in the same areas.

The Cunnilingus Challenge Technique

• Gradually lower your face to her vulva and kiss her mons, labia, and clitoris.

• Continue little sucking kisses up and down the shaft of her clitoris. Remember that the clitoris operates within a network of thousands of nerves that encompass the entire pelvic region.

• Let your tongue come out now. Using the tip, soft not pointed, follow the same route.

• Make your tongue more pointed and cover the territory again.

• Lightly suck her clit, swirling the tip of your tongue around her whole clitoris.

• Stop sucking and move your tongue back and forth over the head of her clitoris.

• If she isn’t close to orgasm, use the vibe on her clit. Alternate mouth with vibe until you bring her to orgasm.

The Sexpert Says

Some women can climax only when masturbating. Why is that? Most women need some sort of direct clitoral stimulation to come, which is not provided with many sex positions. Some women may have been socialized to believe that we should only come during intercourse. She may need to feel safe and trusting with you. She may be too shy to tell you where she likes to be touched. Don’t wait to be asked. Bringing her to orgasm via cunnilingus generally takes less time. If she feels a little inhibited during cunnilingus, give her “privacy.” Don’t look at her face or into her eyes. Watching her masturbate can teach you how to please her. Ask if she will let you watch. And play by the three golden rules (POP): 1) show pleasure in the delivery, 2) be observant, and 3) be patient.

SEX FACT

Suction is very important to oral pleasure. In fact, The Eros Clitoral Therapy Device, which provides suction to the clitoris, has shown to be effective in treating women with female sexual arousal disorder.

SEX FACTS

Approximately one in every four women has difficulty reaching orgasm. The numbers are higher for young women and those with less sexual experience. As women age, they generally have an easier time reaching orgasm. But any woman can get there with practice.

In surveys, many attribute their new ability to reach orgasm to a sensitive and compassionate lover.

THE CUNNILINGUS SPELLING GAME

You don’t have to be a former spelling bee champion to give her pleasure with this one. This game is a playful way of adding variety to your sex life. Women love a playful man.

In this scenario, you’ll spell out your love on her belly, her thighs, her vulva. It’s a perfect way to spend a rainy day.

Perfect the Move

• Practice writing letters with your tongue. Try it on your inner wrist, a sensitive part of the body. If you can read “I want your pussy” there, she can read it on her thighs.

The Cunnilingus Spelling Scenario

Rainy day games are the best, and you have the hot chocolate made and a roaring fire blazing when she walks in. You laid out the Scrabble game so she can pick out the letters you will sketch on her vulva. “Give me an “i,” she says, “and remember to dot the clitoris.”

Last-Minute Preparations

Have chocolate body butter or body paint on hand.

Take off her shoes and, with your fingers, write something on her insteps, such as “sexy feet” or “suck toes.”

Now take off your shirt and ask her to draw something on your back with the body butter, and then lick it off.

Take off her shirt, dip your finger into the butter, and write the word
love
on her breasts. Lick it off.

Write words on her back and have her guess them. When she’s guessed three, tell her she’s moving up to the next level.

Reach between her legs and draw out some of her juices with a clean finger. Write a word such as
sexy
on her belly.

Lay her on her back, spread her legs wide, and spell what you want to do.

The Cunnilingus Spelling Technique

• Using the pointed tip of your tongue, draw letters on her labia—and have her guess them. (The letters should eventually spell a sentence, such as “I love to lick you.”) When she guesses correctly, lick or suck her clitoris for several strokes.

• When she completes the sentence, have her choose a letter and do that letter for several counts, establishing a pattern and a rhythm. Once you find the letter that works, stick with it until she climaxes.

SEX FACTS