A KeyHolder's Handbook (12 page)

If you can keep in mind that this is all a game, a head game you might say, then you should really have no problem with this section. The whole point of verbal and psychological teasing is to arouse him in ways that either humiliate him or mentally stimulate him. Basically, you are playing with his mind.

Humiliation is an excellent way of playing with his mind. You don't actually have to put him in a humiliating position such as I mentioned above. If you tell him you want him to masturbate in front of your best friend the next time she comes to the house, you have done your job. He will be humiliated, mentally and psychologically. You don't have to go through with it, but the more believable you are when you say it, the more turned on he will get. The more details of such an event that you give him, the more he will think you are actually planning to do it. If after your tease session he comes to you and asks if you would really make him do such a thing, please don't tell him, “No.” Be evasive, or continue to make him believe that you just might. Of course, if you think he would really enjoy it and you know your friend would as well, then maybe you want to go through with it after teasing him about it for awhile.

There are as many ways to tease your guy as there are men in the world. Because every man is different, each has his own fears and humiliations. Of course, we have already talked about masturbation and how you can use that to tease and humiliate him. But here is a short list of some of the more common ways men can be humiliated.

Cross-Dressing:
As I have said before, there are many men who enjoy dressing up in women's clothing and even makeup. Of course, having to go out in public may not be their desire. Some men want nothing to do with being dressed in a maids outfit and wearing it around the house. But no matter where your partner's desires lie, you can always play on his fears. We are not talking about dressing him up, though, of course, that is a possibility. We are talking about teasing him with the idea of having to do it.

Service to others:
Maybe you want to tease him by telling him you are going to have him serve you and the girls the next time you invite them over. Maybe he will have to wear a skimpy pair of underwear, or only an apron, or nothing at all. Again, you are playing with his mind. You might tell him that you would like to loan him out to one of your girlfriends for a night or a weekend. Or maybe you are planning a party and you want him bound to a table so that everyone can play with his naked parts. Again, the more details the better. In the last example, you could tell him what kinds of toys you plan to have available for your guests to use on him.

Cuckolding or Bi-Sexuality:
You can always try this one out. Tell him that you want to have other men come over and have sex with you while he watches. Or maybe he has to participate in a bi-sexual way. The thought that you might make him perform fellatio on another man, even though you would never do it, can be quite a turn on for some men. Just be sure to make it sound believable and include lots of details.

It's All About Believability

What we are talking about here is toying with his mind. Remember the game. The best part of psychological teasing is that you can do it any time you want. You can whisper something in his ear when you're at the grocery store. You can send him a text message, or an email describing the things that turn him on or humiliate him. Call him when he is at work and remind him that he is going to have to do such-and-such when he gets home.

This is my favorite kind of teasing because I can do it any time of the day or night I want. Once I have planted the seeds, I can then relate another detail or two to him and I know he is going to think about it and get aroused. I can put a message in his briefcase before he leaves for work. Use your imagination and come up with some things to tell him that will get him all worked up. Tell him in the morning that you plan on doing [whatever] that night and he won't be able to get his mind off of it all day long.

You can actually have him wear a pair of panties to work under his regular clothing. If that turns him on, he may be open to more. However, if you are only talking about making him do it, you can push him as far as you like. If you never even make him wear a pair of panties, it won't matter. The key is in the teasing. You have to talk it up as if you might actually do it.

Please understand, he will enjoy it. Scared, humiliated, even embarrassed to think about it, he will still enjoy every minute of it. If you can keep it a real possibility (in his mind) by never telling him any differently, you will have created a wonderfully, devilish, fantasy that you can use to keep him off balance, never knowing when, or if, a certain thing will happen.

In short, psychological teasing is the easiest and most fun you can have in this game of tease and denial. Don't be afraid of it. Don't neglect it. Use it. Have fun with it. And, most of all, have fun with him.

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Chapter 13 – Useful Phrases

“
No, Sweetie. When you figure out
what pleases me, and start doing it everyday,
then I'll think about letting you have an orgasm.”

I know that many of you are really reading this book to find out what to say to your partner in certain situations. Well, that's what this chapter is for. I have included as many categories as I have room for. But even if you don't find exactly what you are looking for, I am sure you can find something that will help you come up with your own words to say. So without further adieu, let's get on with it.

Texts, emails & phone calls:
I am in need of some orgasms – Would you like to handle that?
Know anyone interested in taking a bath with me?
I am so horny! Think you can do something about that?
Don't be late tonight, I have plans for you.
I should have sent you to work with a butt-plug.
Go to the restroom and insert that plug I put in your briefcase.

When Giving orders:
Want 10 minutes of teasing? Then wash the dishes! (Said firmly)
Remember who is in charge here.
Please go do [his chore]. (only a first request)
I want you to [do whatever] right now.
Do your chores and we can talk about an orgasm.

When he complains:
If I hear one more complaint, there will be consequences.
That will be one more month in chastity. Want to try for two?
You asked for this. Now you've got it.
Do you want to stand in the corner for an hour?
Put as many of these marbles as you can in your mouth.

When he disobeys:
Fetch my hairbrush.
Do you want another month added to your chastity, or would you rather be paddled?
You realize you will have to be punished for that.
It's real simple. Either you obey me or we don't play this game.

Before punishing him:
This will hurt you more than it does me.
Hairbrush, riding crop, or paddle?
Should I paddle you or put those spikes in for the rest of the week?
Take your punishment or I'll remove your chastity device permanently.

After punishing him:
Here's some Icy-Hot. It will sooth the pain.
Now, do you want to do your chore or shall I continue?
I don't feel sorry for you. You earned that.
I hope you learned a lesson from that.

When you ruin his orgasm:
Did I ruin that? I am so sorry. (said sarcastically)
I'm sorry, I don't remember saying I would make it a full orgasm.
Oops! Oh well, maybe next time.
No, that was it. Time to put you back in your cage.
I just love how you strain to make it shoot, but it won't.

When you stifle his orgasm:
I told you NOT to cum!
That's what happens when you cum without permission.
That was close. You almost had a full orgasm.
That's not as much fun as a full orgasm, is it?
Maybe if you had done your chores, I wouldn't have had to do that.

When you give him a full orgasm:
There now. Did that make you feel better?
That's done. Now lick it up.
Drink it or I will put it in your coffee.
Wow, that wasn't much. Oh well, an orgasm is an orgasm.
There. That should hold you for the next six months.
It's going to be a long time before you get another one of those.

While teasing him physically:
Don't you DARE cum!
If you cum without permission, I WILL paddle you.
Do you like it really slow, like this?
I'll just bet you really want to cum, don't you?
I was thinking of lending you out to my best friend.
What would you think if I invited [best friend] over to help me do this?
I am thinking of having a party with you as the entertainment.
I think you will look cute in a maid's outfit.
I think the girls would love to spank your little bottom.

While he is masturbating:
Hurry up. I don't have all day.
I'll give you just one minute more.
What's the matter? Need some help with that?
If you cum, I'll lock you back up for a year.
Stop! That's it for now. Maybe I'll let you finish later.
Just think, the girls will love watching you do this.

Before he leaves for work:
Maybe I'll tease your cock for an hour tonight.
While your at work, I'll be here, masturbating.
Think of some where nice for dinner and I'll make it worth your while.
I think [your friend] is going to help me tease you tonight.
How many of your coworkers know about your chastity?
Maybe I'll text [coworker] and tell her about your chastity cage.

While he is at work:
Tonight I am going to tie you to the bed and tease you for hours.
Go insert the butt-plug I put in your briefcase.
I am playing with myself right now. Bet you wish you were here.
I invited [your friend] over tonight. I want to show him/her your chastity device.
I hope you don't mind, I just text your secretary about your chastity cage.

When he gets home from work:
Take me out for dinner and maybe I'll let you cum tonight.
Strip. Right here in the foyer, then go fix dinner.
Oh baby, you look tired. Maybe I shouldn't tease you tonight.
I have big plans for you tonight. (Said while fondling him)
Do you want to go out to eat, or make me dinner?

While fondling his balls:
These don't feel full enough for an orgasm.
Maybe I should tie a heavy weight to these.
Now, are you going to do everything I tell you to do?
Tell me, does that make your cage seem smaller?

While shopping:
[Patting his bottom] I should have made you wear a butt-plug.
Want a blow-job tonight? (Whispered)
[His name] come here. Your Mistress needs you. (Said loudly enough for others to hear.)
Do you like these panties? Want me to ask if they have them in your size?
I wish your cock was as large as this cucumber.
Now go in there and buy yourself a pair of panties.
Go, or I'll say it louder.

Before bed:
You won't mind if I sleep naked, and cuddle with you?
Would you like to take a shower with me?
I can tease you for 5 minutes and ruin your orgasm, or I can tease you for 20 minutes with no orgasm.
I invited [your friend] over to help me tease you tomorrow. Now go to sleep.

While in bed:
Get down there and give me 10 orgasms.
I can't sleep. Give me a nice body massage.
Can I play with your balls until I fall asleep?
Rub my bottom until I fall asleep.

To scare him:
Maybe I'll make you wear the metal cage when you go through air port security.
I want to tie you up and let you watch [his friend] fuck me.
Maybe I'll have you suck [male friend]'s cock.
You like anal play so much how about I get [his friend] to fuck you?
Maybe I should drop you off at a gay bar so you can pick up a date.
I could always put those spikes in your chastity cage, you know.

To humiliate him:
I've seen bigger cocks on a hamster.
Did you know he is wearing a chastity device? (In front of a friend)
Show them your chastity cage, Honey. (With other people around)
His cock is too small. I had to lock it up in a chastity cage. (In front of a friend)

There are a million things you can say to tease and turn him on. With a little imagination you should be able to come up with a few of your own. If you know anything about his fantasies, use it. You already know they turn him on, so anything that reminds him of his fantasy is a good thing to say when you want him thinking of sex. Remember too, if you want sex in any way, go ahead and tell him what you want. It is to your benefit to say something and get what you need before you do anything for him.