A KeyHolder's Handbook (14 page)

Hair Brush:
This should have a flat surface on the back. The wider the better. I have seen several wooden ones in my local pharmacy that would work well. I think just about everyone has thought of using one as a paddle. You can do that. Or you can have him brush your hair whenever you like, too. In fact, my husband cringes whenever I ask him to fetch mine for me, even though it is usually to have him brush my hair.

You may be able to think of many more items that you want to keep in your toy bag, but these are what I consider to be the basics. There are a great number of things you can do with just the items listed above. But I will give you some specific ideas just in case you need the help.

Optional Toys

Paddle(s):
You will want one or more paddles even if you don't think you will ever use them. Trust me, you will want to. Besides, the chances are good that he will want you to at some point. My favorite item to use as a paddle can be obtained at your local paint supply store (even Wal-Mart). It is a stir stick for five gallon paint buckets. It should be about eighteen inches long and an inch and a half wide. The wooden variety are not too flimsy. But should you accidentally break one, you can easily obtain another. In fact, some places will give you one if you buy your paint there.

You can also use a wooden ruler or a larger, fraternity style paddle. (Psst, your hair brush works quite nicely, too.) The smaller paddles make excellent play paddles when you don't want to really hurt him. The larger paddles are for behavioral correction. I find the smaller paddles don't require as much effort, and they can smart quite a bit.

Riding Crop:
Riding crops can be obtained on-line or at your favorite equine shop. I have found them in farm supply stores as well. They are not very expensive, and even if you never strike him with it, it will help to complete the picture of his “perfect” Mistress in his mind. Put on a black teddy (any lingerie store for under $20) and hold one of these in your hand and he will quickly bow down before you. Most men have a fantasy such as this. So play into it.

Flogger(s):
There are a ton of floggers out there ranging in price from ten dollars to a couple of hundred dollars each. If you are not into using a flogger, a cheap one will fill the bill. I would stick to leather until you decide you really need something more intimidating. Although I have never seen anything more intimidating than a good leather flogger, the beaded floggers and some of the rubber ones can be intimidating to those who are not used to them. Again, these help to complete his fantasy of the perfect Mistress, so you may as well have one, even if you don't use it.

If you decide you want to use a flogger on his back side, practice first! Use a pillow as a target and practice until you can hit the same spot repeatedly without missing. You have to be careful not to “wrap” the ends of the flogger around his hips. You want the ends to strike the top of his butt-cheeks. If they wrap around, they will be moving much faster and can cut the skin or cause serious wounds. There are many ways to use a flogger, most of which would not cause any pain. But using any type of whip can be very serious, so practice diligently before ever striking his body.

Fastening Clips:
These come in several varieties. The most versatile are the double ended clips. They have a spring operated clip at each end and come in two basic sizes, 3.5 inch and 4.5 inch. They are used to quickly attach things equipped with “D-rings” or “O-rings” such as collars and leather cuffs often used as restraints. You can put your own rings on your spreader bars and use the clips to quickly and easily attach your victim's wrists and ankles to it.

Carabiners are another type of clip you can use. Be careful though, some are not made to handle much stress and might break or fail in use. I have sometimes found it difficult to get carabiners off, simply because there is a little cut out that seems to catch on everything. But they do work.

Electro Devices:
Okay, it's not a requirement, but I find them so much fun to use. There are a wide variety of electro-stimulation devices and add-on devices for many different purposes. There is an electro-stimulation device called a “Violet Wand” which gets is name from the color the original device produces. You have seen those little globes with the dancing electricity inside. If you notice, they glow violet in color. You can get devices now that actually glow a different color, but the most fascinating part about these devices is the way they feel when brought close to your skin. The current is not enough to harm you and can be quite stimulating.

Other devices simply send a current of varying intensity from one point to another in your body. They are called “skin effect” devices. You can vary the intensity, and wave form used. I think you will find them quite stimulating when the pads are placed in just the right spots.

Ropes:
As I said earlier, you will need several lengths of rope. If you are going to use them for binding your prey, then you should get three-eights to one half inch thick rope. You can use one quarter inch rope, but you will need to wrap each body part more times. Thus, you will need longer pieces. The thicker rope does not need to wrap so many times as long as it is not pulled tightly enough to cut off circulation.

Many people recommend using cotton rope, but I have found the nylon, either twisted or braided (often called diamond braid) work better. They are easier to untie than cotton and don't stretch as much. Nylon rope will not chafe nearly as easily as many other types, including cotton. It feels soft and smooth to the touch, but it is very strong. I like to drag the end of a twisted nylon rope across my victim's chest and stomach. You would be amazed how sensuous it can feel if dragged slowly enough.

The drawback to nylon is cutting it. It tends to fray badly. You need to place tape around the place you intend to cut it then sear (melt) the ends so they will not come apart. This can be done with a cigarette lighter, or a hot-knife. If you are somewhat sadistic, you can buy hemp or jute rope. Though the ends will fray on those as well, they are much harsher when tied against bare skin. Some men like that.

Penis Pump:
This is a toy that probably does not work as advertised, but is still fun to play with. It consists of a large tube that fits over your partner's penis. There is some kind of pump (depending on how much you spend) that attaches to the top of the tube. When you pump the air out of the tube it decreases the pressure inside and, therefore, enlarges the penis. The effect does not last long, but will last longer if you apply a constrictive ring at the base of his penis. It can be exciting if you like the larger size. Just don't expect it to make any permanent changes in the size of his equipment.

Here's a tip. Pump up his penis, then, before you release the pressure, tie a boot-lace around the base of his penis. After removing the pump tube, coat his penis with some numbing cream and cover it with a condom. Now you can ride him as long as you like and he won't feel a thing, but he will stay larger, longer. It can be quite humiliating for him if you say the right things. Things like, “Now that's better.” Or, “Now you can actually fill me,” if you get my drift.

Masturbation Device:
There are a huge number of devices meant to enhance masturbation. Tenga makes several good ones. They come in many different shapes, sizes, and prices. They are used when you want to humiliate your guy by making him masturbate into one. If you prefer, he can use his own hand. It is cheaper, and you don't need anything special to accommodate him, like lubrication. But if you want to use one, they can be quite effective, especially if you forbid him to ejaculate. Just be sure to lubricate it well before use.

Inflatable Doll:
This is another optional item that I love to use. If you want to humiliate him, make him use an inflatable doll when he wants to have an orgasm. It will be loads of fun to watch, especially if you have your friends over, or at least, video tape it. It can be used as a punishment, a reward, or just as a way to humiliate him for fun. Use your imagination on this one. I am sure you can come up with some interesting ways to use a toy like this.

Strap-on Dildo:
Although I put this in the optional category, to my way of thinking, it is essential. If you flatly refuse to take him from behind (as they say), then you won't need one of these, unless it is just to torment him. But, most men who enjoy chastity actually want to be used this way. That is, he wants you to strap on a dildo and plunge it into his bottom. It completes his fantasy of the perfect Mistress as we discussed before. He has probably fantasized about being taken from behind by a beautiful woman such as you. If he hasn't, he will the first time he sees it.

There are literally thousands of other things you might want to add to your toy box or dungeon, but I don't have the time, nor the inclination to list them all here. But I have covered some of them in the the previous chapters. So brace yourself, and prepare to find out just what your guy wants. Every man is different and his fantasies will change as things progress. Be ready for it. In fact, there are ways to push those fantasies in the direction you want them to go.

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Chapter 15 – Handling Separation

“It's my job to keep you frustrated and horny
all the time. Even while you are away.
So I'll text you another naked photo of
me, every day until you get home.”

We talked about some of the things you can do to tease your partner when he is at work, or wherever, but I want to give you more examples of things you can do and say when he is not with you. If you do not have a phone that can send and receive text messages, shame on you. If your phone will do photo messaging, that's even better. You probably have guessed already where I am going with this. But pay attention, you still might learn something new.

Let me give you a list of some simple text messages you could send your chaste male anytime he is not with you. If he went to the hardware store to pick up a new power tool, or the grocery store to get something you need, or even if you are both at the same variety store and find yourselves separated by several aisles, you can text him. Even if he is at home and you are out. So here are a few things you could say in your texts depending on your personal situation.

(Listed in no particular order.)

“I want to feel your tongue between my thighs.”

“How would you like to squeeze my breasts right now?”

“My nipples just got hard thinking about tonight.”

“Imagine my hand fondling your balls right now.”

“I wish I had put a plug in your ass.”

“I am masturbating right now.”

“I bet you would love to feel my mouth around your cock.”

“Would you like to rub my bottom?”

“Would you like me to rub your bottom?”

“I wish I could put my hands down your pants.”

“Want to suckle my breasts?”

“I want to use my strap-on on you.”

“Should I get a larger dildo for my strap-on?”

“Put that new plug in your butt before I get home.”

“I put a plug in your briefcase. Insert it before you leave work.”

“If I put whipped cream on my body, would you lick it off?”

“I want to lick your cock until you cum.”

“I want to ride you for an hour!”

“Hurry home if you want to bathe me.”

“I want you to rub oil all over my body.”

Of course, you can get a lot more graphic than I did here, but I think you get the picture. You could even save a few of your favorites and send them whenever you get the chance. It doesn't matter where you are or what you are doing, you can have fun teasing your poor little chaste partner.

That is not the only thing you can do. What about those times when you need to send him to the store to get something, or when he wants to visit the hardware store on the weekend? Here are a few things you can do when you get the chance.

If you want to humiliate him a bit, try one or two of these ideas:

Make him wear a pair of woman's panties (crotchless are even more fun).

You can actually put a plug in his bottom before he leaves the house and make him wear it until he gets back.

The idea with this type of tease is to cause him a little embarrassment, but not so much that he would be upset by it, but he will almost certainly feel like everyone who looks his way knows his little secret.

Make him wear the panties to work a couple of times a week. As long as he doesn't wear them every day, this will be fun. Don't forget, he is already wearing a chastity device so he will almost certainly need to sit when he urinates. No more standing in front of the urinal. It will make him  feel more like a woman.

Have him drop by a boutique on his way home and buy some panties for himself. Imagine his embarrassment when the clerk asks if she can help him.

Better yet, make him go shopping for some women's wear for him. Everything from panties to shoes. He will have to try on the shoes to make sure they fit. Tell me that won't be humiliating.

If you need anything from your local adult sex shop, have him make a special trip to purchase it. Think about it, some of the things you might need are going to be very humiliating for him to buy.