A KeyHolder's Handbook (6 page)

Feathers & Such:
I talked about tickling before, but this is different. You can use a feather to very sensuously stroke any part of your partners anatomy. Since the object is sexual arousal, I suggest staying away from tickling except when you are in an especially playful mood or your partner is one of those who gets really turned on being tickled. Don't carry it too far so as to make your partner angry. That would defeat the whole purpose. I have found that ostrich feathers work exceptionally well for this. They are very light and may require more pressure to actually be felt.

Use the feather in a sensuous way. If you don't have a feather, you can use a piece of an angora sweater, or a very soft paint or makeup brush. The goal is to turn him on and get him to attempt to make you press harder with the feather or brush. If he strains to reach it, you are doing it right.

Good Vibrations:
Vibrators! I love a good vibrator, especially when I am teasing and tormenting my husband. You can use just about any vibrator you have. It doesn't matter if it is a large corded vibrator or one of those tiny egg types. Anything that vibrates will work. Place it against his cage. It may make a lot of noise, but he will feel it all over his penis and probably his scrotum as well. You can use it to relax his muscles, or tense up his groin. Both will be very effective.

Have him use it on you to relax your muscles or to give you a few orgasms. Use it to give yourself an orgasm while he watches (oops, that's visual). Oh well, whatever you want to do with it will work. Try placing a vibrator against his anus. This is a very sensual spot for most men (women too). And speaking of the anus...

Anal Fun:
You should have a an anal plug or two in your toy bag. Put plenty of lubrication on one and gently push it into his bottom. Once in place, touch the end still sticking out of his bottom with the vibrator. How's that for stimulation? You can use dildos of various sizes as well as plugs. You can milk his prostate (I'll get into that later) or send him to the store with a plug in place. Make him do the housework with one. You can even use your finger instead of a dildo. I wear rubber gloves whenever I do that to keep my fingernails from causing problems. In fact, I suggest using a condom on anything that enters your partner's anus. Putting a dildo in his mouth does not require a condom as long as the dildo is clean. Yes, you can make him suck on the realistic dildo you bought for your toy bag. It makes a nice practice device to go along with that bi-sexual fantasy you told about. And while we are talking about things that go into his anus...

Strap-on Some Fun:
You should always have a good strap-on dildo harness in your toy bag. Many men get a strong, submissive feeling, that of being controlled, when a woman uses a strap-on dildo on them. You can enter the anus (with lots of lubrication, of course), or you can have him simulate a little bi-sexual activity when he sucks on it. This may not be something that you ever thought about doing, but believe me when I tell you, I have spoken with more than one woman who admitted that after having tried it, they really liked it. It can give you a feeling of power. That, in turn, can make talking to him erotically, taking control in other areas of your relationship, and basically feeling more in charge, much easier to accomplish. Many men really enjoy anal play of this nature. The anus, being a point in the body with lots and lots of nerve endings, is a natural erogenous zone. So it only makes sense that grabbing him by his hips and (gently) thrusting yourself, with an artificial penis, into him would feel good to the both of you.

That is just a sampling of the things you can do with his chastity cage in place. Now let's see how to tease him without it...

Dicking Around:

This is where I highly recommend that you restrain your partner because you are going to remove his chastity device. He should not be allowed to touch himself at any time. Therefore, his hands, at least, must be restrained. As a good KeyHolder, it wouldn't be proper if you were to allow him to masturbate or pleasure himself at all, without your permission. Therefore, keep him bound. At least his hands. And remember, all the things we talked about above can be done with is chastity device removed.

Your Pleasure:
Of course, your pleasure comes first. If you are going to want him to enter you at any time (other than when you want him to have an orgasm) you should coat his penis with some kind of numbing, or desensitizing, cream. There are a number of products on the market made especially for this purpose. Some are better than others. I have heard of women using Ora-Jel(R), but I am not sure I want to recommend it. I do, however, highly recommend a product called “Boy Butter” numbing cream. You can obtain it from many on-line adult toy stores and even in some brick and mortar stores. Whatever you use, the objective is to prevent his penis from feeling just about anything. That way, you can “ride” him as long as you like without fear of an ejaculation on his part.

The proper method of application is to coat the penis with the numbing cream and give it a few minutes to work. Usually five minutes is long enough. Once it has had a chance to do its job, you can wipe it off using a clean, dry cloth. A washcloth works well. If you use a condom, you won't need to wipe it off. In fact, leaving it on will have a more lasting effect. But if you want to feel his penis inside you without the condom, it is best to wipe it down good before climbing on board. You don't want your parts to go numb, too.

In most cases, keeping him hard during sexual intercourse won't be a problem. If you follow a few simple rules. If you are naked (or at least topless) he will be visually stimulated (unless he is blindfolded). If you put a blindfold on him, it may be necessary to talk to him while you are having intercourse. Of course, you can't talk about the weather, or your personal finances, or even how good the stock market is doing. You have to talk about something erotic. If you have a problem doing that, pay close attention to some of the later chapters. I will tell you the easy way to talk to him.

This is also the time that you can have him perform oral sex. It may be difficult with his hands bound unless you are willing to sit on him. Whatever you choose to do, be sure you take care of your needs. You can always wait until you are done teasing him and have him put his cage back in place, before you get our own pleasure. But, personally, I prefer to get my pleasure first and then take care of teasing him. He will, if you have properly denied him, still be in the mood for it.

The Light Touch:
Just as the name implies, you can begin by touching his penis very lightly. Get it hard using your words, your voice, or by stroking his penis or any part of his body, for that matter. Your hands are the single most sensuous part of your body to a restrained man. You can stroke his inner thighs, his chest, his hair, or, of course, his penis. Using very light strokes, you can run your fingertips up and down along the underside of his penis which should begin to drive him wild with desire. Be sure to vary where you touch him. Many men have sensitive nipples, so that's a good place to touch. His ears and neck may also be sensitive to your gentle stroking or heavy breathing. Never spend too much time touching his penis, no matter what you are doing. You don't want to have any accidental ejaculations.

Touch & Go:
You can touch his penis, stroke it, put it in your mouth, but whatever you do, don't spend so much time doing it that he ejaculates. Try giving his penis three or four slow, gentle strokes then let go. Wait for a few seconds, five to ten should do it (but you may have to wait longer to prevent an orgasm), then repeat the stoking. One tip: The feel of a glove of some type (leather, rubber, dish washing, or surgical)  is very different from the way your bare hand feels. You might want to remember that and change it up from time to time. Also, lubrication for anything but cloth or leather gloves is a great help.

You can also give his penis fast, firm strokes, too. You can either switch off between fast and firm and slow, gentle strokes. Never more than three or four at a time and always give him time to rest between them. You can do this kind of thing for hours if you have the stamina. The point is, using this method, you will have him begging for an orgasm in a very short time. It's called “edging” and it can drive him crazy. It is very effective.

Talk, Talk, Talk:
One important aspect of any tease and denial session (or just teasing in general) is what you say. You need to talk. Though I will cover more about talking and what you should and shouldn't say later, I cannot emphasize it enough. His libido can be directly accessed through your words. Keep your mind on what you are trying to accomplish and don't go off on a ti-raid about what happened at the grocery store or at work that day. There is nothing less erotic than hearing about some lady creating a mess in aisle three.

Talk about his fantasies. You don't have to recite one for him, just tell him that you are thinking of doing such and such to him sometime. Who knows, maybe you will. I'll shut up about it now and wait until we get to the next chapter.

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Chapter 6 – Audio & Visual Aids

“
Bless your little heart.
Did you really think I was going to
let you out of your chastity cage
just because it's Christmas?”

You remember high school, don't you? The teacher was always using audio and visual aids to help get the point of the lesson across. If you are like me, none of it really sank in, but I do still remember some of the movies I saw in class. They made more of an impression than anything the teacher had to say. Well, if audio and video worked for them, why not use it to make your life easier and your partner's member harder?

If you will recall, in the beginning I told you that your job, as a KeyHolder, was to keep your victim aroused as much as you can. That is, he should be thinking about sex (with you) practically all the time. Whether he ever gets it is another thing altogether. What was it I said you need to do in order to achieve that goal? Oh, yeah, TEASE HIM!

There are so many different things you can do to get, and keep, your partner aroused that I could never list them all. But I have broken them down by groups, times, and places so that you can easily use this handbook as your guide. Pick and choose what you want to use and then go and do it. Make a list of things you want to try and then change your list at least once a week, adding or changing things just enough to keep him off balance. You never want him to get bored or used to seeing and hearing the same things over and over day in and week out.

You have to keep it fresh. So in order to help you do that, I am going to be talking about the many, many ways you have at your disposal to accomplish your goal. Whether you intend to keep your guy in chastity for a week, a month, six months, or even a year at a time, you will not be an effective KeyHolder unless you vary the erotic stimuli with which you bombard him each and every day.

His Mind's Eye:
Things he sees in his head. If what he sees is erotic to him, then use it. That means, if he wants you wearing a skin-tight cat-suit, then do it. Okay, you say you don't have the body for it? Then blindfold him and give him the body you want him to see. Describe what you want him to think of. Tell him you are wearing that cat-suit he said he liked when he saw it in a magazine or on-line. Remember, when he sees with his mind, he sees what he wants, or what you tell him to see. Don't be shy, he can't see you. He can only see what you tell him is in front of him. Of course, you should feel like the person you are describing, so get into it. If you want him to think of you as sexy, then talk sexy. Use a soft or velvety voice. You know the one. You used it when you wanted him to do something for you when you first got together.

Erotic Videos:
Do you get jealous when he watches a porn video on the Internet? DON'T! In fact, have him watch a video at your request. Have him bring up his favorite porn movie and then make him watch it. You don't have to be there. Go do something important like... Read this book again. With his chastity cage in place, any arousal will be uncomfortable, but enjoyable to him.

In the same vein, send him to the Internet to find some erotic stories. Reading them will stimulate him and achieve your goal of getting him aroused. Have him send you links to the ones he likes best. Who knows, you might even enjoy them. At the very least, you might learn a few tricks even I have not thought of. It happens.

Internet Teases:
There are several Internet sites that have what are called “Web Teases” for men (mostly). These teases range from sites that just have several erotic photos of a woman along with some erotic text to go with them, to others that require the person to do more than just look and read. Many of them are designed for the person to actually perform erotic activities in order to complete the tease. I am quite sure that most men who visit these sites don't actually perform the acts called for in the tease. However, you are now in the picture. You can remove his cage and make him perform the activities. Better yet, bind his hands and use yours instead instead of his. If he is required to stroke his penis for so many minutes or a certain number of strokes, you do it for him. If he is required to insert a plug into his anus, you can either do it for him, or watch as he does it himself. I love using web teases because there is a huge humiliation aspect to making him perform in front an audience. Even if that audience is only one – you!

Sexting:
You know, that thing our kids do all the time? Yeah, sending erotic photos to your partner's phone. You can do that all day long! Along with any erotic text messages you can think of, photos add a certain amount of realism to your message. Of course, they don't have to be photos of yourself. You might not want his fellow workers looking over his shoulder and seeing you laying there naked in front of your fireplace. But I think you get the idea. There are plenty of erotic photos on the Internet from which you can choose. Remember, his penis is trapped in that tiny cage. Getting him aroused at work makes life a little uncomfortable for him in more ways than one. Try it sometime. Maybe send photos one day with no explanation, and then send naughty text messages the next day. Mix it up. Keep him guessing.