Counseling Through Your Bible Handbook (79 page)

1.
Larry Richards,
Expository Dictionary of Bible Words
(Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 1985), 322.

2.
See the Hebrew dictionary entry in James Strong,
Strong’s Exhaustive Concordance of the Bible
(Nashville: Abingdon, 1986), 17.

3.
Robert S. McGee,
The Search for Significance: Book & Workbook
, 2d ed. (Houston, TX: Rapha, 1990), 19.

4.
Brent Curtis,
Guilt
, ed. Tom Varney (Colorado Springs: NavPress, 1992), 14.

5.
See Curtis,
Guilt
, 17-29.

6.
Erwin W. Lutzer,
How to Say No to a Stubborn Habit
(Wheaton, IL: Victor, 1979), 40.

7.
Lutzer,
How to Say No to a Stubborn Habit
, 37.

8.
For the following section, see Lutzer,
How to Say No to a Stubborn Habit
, 37-41.

1.
See
Dictionary of Basic English
(Springfield, MA: Merriam-Webster, 2000).

2.
On the three God-given inner needs, see Lawrence J. Crabb, Jr.,
Understanding People: Deep Longings for Relationship
(Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 1987), 15-16; Robert S. McGee,
The Search for Significance
, 2d ed. (Houston, TX: Rapha, 1990), 27-30.

3.
William Backus,
Finding the Freedom of Self-Control
(Minneapolis: Bethany House, 1987), 160.

4.
Erwin W. Lutzer,
How to Say No to a Stubborn Habit
(Wheaton, IL: Victor, 1986), 112.

5.
Backus,
Finding the Freedom of Self-Control
, 36.

6.
Backus,
Finding the Freedom of Self-Control
, 153.

7.
Lutzer,
How to Say No to a Stubborn Habit
, 21-24.

8.
Backus,
Finding the Freedom of Self-Control
, 43-44; Lutzer,
How to Say No to a Stubborn Habit
, 48-49.

9.
Lutzer,
How to Say No to a Stubborn Habit
, 52-53, 100-08.

10.
Neil T. Anderson,
A Way of Escape
(Eugene, OR: Harvest House, 1994), 117-33.

11.
Lutzer,
How to Say No to a Stubborn Habit
, 76-77

12.
Lutzer,
How to Say No to a Stubborn Habit
, 98-108.

13.
Lutzer,
How to Say No to a Stubborn Habit
, 131-40.

1.
Joe Dallas,
Desires in Conflict
(Eugene, OR: Harvest House, 1991), 91.

2.
These figures assume four million homosexual men (a high figure, since it also includes boys), and 111 million heterosexual men age 15 years and older. These statistics are based upon the AIDS statistics from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention,
HIV/AIDS Surveillance Report
, 2001, vol. 13, no. 2, 14;
http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/stats/hasr1302.pdf
(accessed August 12, 2003); and the United States population statistics available from the Central Intelligence Agency,
The World Factbook
(2003);
http://www.cia.gov/cia/publications/factbook/index.html
(accessed August 13, 2003).

3.
See Edward O. Laumann et al.,
The Social Organization of Sexuality: Sexual Practices in the United States
(Chicago: University of Chicago Press, 1994). Cited in U.S. Supreme Court legal brief 02-102
Lawrence v. Texas
, 16, note 42;
http://www.hrc.org/publications/eu/letters/lawrence_brief.pdf
(accessed June 20, 2003).

4.
Centers for Disease Control and Prevention,
Sexually Transmitted Disease Surveillance 2001 Supplement: Gonococcal Isolate Surveillance Project (GISP) Annual Report—2001
(October 2002);
http://www.cdc.gov/std/GISP2001/GISP2001Text&Fig.pdf
(accessed June 23, 2003).

5.
Centers for Disease Control and Prevention,
Tracking the Hidden Epidemics: Trends in STDs in the United States in 2000
(n.d.);
http://www.cdc.gov/nchstp/dstd/Stats_Trends/Trends2000.pdf
(accessed June 23, 2003).

6.
Centers for Disease Control and Prevention,
HIV/AIDS Update: A Glance at the HIV Epidemic
(n.d.);
http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/pubs/facts/wsw.pdf
(accessed June 23, 2003). This statistic is for male homosexuals.

7.
HIV/AIDS Surveillance Report, 2001
, 14;
http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/stats/hasr1302.pdf
(accessed August 12, 2003). This statistic is for male homosexuals.

8.
R. Dotinga, “
US:
1 in 3 Gay Men have Incurable STD”, (March 6, 2002;
http://uk.gay.com/headlines/1923
.

9.
Dotinga, “
US:
1 in 3 Gay Men Have Incurable STD.”

10.
Gary Glenn, “Homosexual ‘Love Crimes’ Pose 50,000% Higher Risk of Violence than ‘Hate Crimes’” (March 15, 2001);
http://www.afamichigan.org/releases 20010315a.htm
.

11.
Gregory L. Greenwood, et al., “Battering Victimization Among a Probability-Based Sample of Men Who Have Sex with Men,”
Am J Public Health
92, no. 12 (2002).

12.
For this section see Anne Petrov,
10 Things Gay Men Need to Know
(January 2, 2003);
www.gaywired.com
.

13.
“Study: Gay Men at Greater Risk for Eating Disorders”, (April 15, 2003);
http://www.gayhealth.com
.

14.
Theo G.M. Sandfort, et al., “Same-Sex Sexual Behavior and Psychiatric Disorders: Findings from the Netherlands Mental Health Survey and Incidence Study (NEMESIS),”
Arch Gen Psychiatry
58, no. 1 (2001).

15.
Robert S. Hogg, et al., “Modeling the Impact of HIV Disease on Mortality in Gay and Bisexual Men,”
International Journal of Epidemiology
26, no. 3 (1997): 660.

16.
Hogg, et al., “Modeling the Impact of HIV Disease,” 657.

17.
For this section see Joanne Highley and Ronald Highley,
Life Ministry Counselor Training Syllabus
(New York: Living in Freedom Eternally, n.d.).

18.
Highley and Highley,
Life Ministry Counselor Training Syllabus
. Used by permission.

19.
Grace Ketterman,
Depression Hits Every Family
(Nashville: Oliver-Nelson, 1988), 132.

20.
Joe Dallas,
Desires in Conflict
, (Eugene, OR: Harvest House, 1991) 127-28.

1.
W.E. Vine, Merrill Unger, William White,
Vine’s Complete Expository Dictionary of Biblical Words
, electronic ed. (Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 1996),
S.V
. “Hope.”

2.
Merriam-Webster Collegiate Dictionary
(2001);
http://www.m-w.com
,
S.V
. “Hope.”

1.
Adapted from Anabel Gillham,
Wheat & Tares
(Fort Worth, TX: Gillham Ministries, 1994), audiocassette.

1.
For this section see Collins,
Christian Counseling
(Nashville: W Publishing Group, 1986),
331-35;
Ruth Kopp and Stephen Sorenson,
When Someone You Love Is Dying: A Handbook for Counselors and Those Who Care
(Grand Rapids: Ministry Resources, 1980) 167-89.

2.
See Kopp and Sorenson,
When Someone You Love Is Dying
, 190-97.

3.
See Shelley Chapin,
Within the Shadow
(Wheaton, IL: Victor, 1991), 109-22.

4.
For this section see Collins,
Christian Counseling
, 331-35; Ruth Kopp and Stephen Sorenson,
When Someone You Love Is Dying
, 167-89.

5.
For this section see Kopp and Sorenson,
When Someone You Love Is Dying
, 201-23.

1.
For this section see Doug Sherman and William Hendricks,
Keeping Your Ethical Edge Sharp
(Colorado Springs: NavPress, 1990), 158-64.

2.
For this section see Jerry White,
Honesty, Morality & Conscience
, (Colorado Springs, NavPress, 1979), 79-81, 175, 202, 206.

1.
Lori Thorkelson Rentzel,
Emotional Dependency
(Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity, 1990), 14;
Merriam Webster Collegiate Dictionary
,
http://www.m-w.com
.

2.
Tim Kimmel,
Powerful Personalities
(Colorado Springs: Focus on the Family, 1993), 30. Kimmel calls this kind of manipulator the “Manager.”

3.
See Rentzel,
Emotional Dependency
, 14-15.

4.
Barbara Sullivan,
The Control Grip
(Minneapolis, MN: Bethany House, 1991), 68-69. See Sullivan,
Control Grip
, 63.

5.
See Sullivan,
Control Grip
, 67-68; Paul S. Schmidt,
Coping with Difficult People
, ed. Wayne E. Oates, vol. 6 (Philadelphia: Westminster, 1980), 101.

6.
Accessed at
www.coping.org/control/manipul.htm
.

7.
Henry Cloud and John Townsend,
Boundaries: When to Say Yes, When to Say No, to Take Control of Your Life
(Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 1992), 199-201.

8.
See Rentzel,
Emotional Dependency
, 22.

9.
See Cloud and Townsend,
Boundaries
, 241-43.

10.
Rentzel,
Emotional Dependency
, 25.

11.
See Schmidt,
Coping with Difficult People
, 103.

12.
See Cloud and Townsend,
Boundaries
, 245.

13.
See Shostrom and Montgomery,
Manipulators
, 61.

1.
H. Norman Wright,
The Secrets of a Lasting Marriage
(Ventura, CA: Regal, 1995), 149-70; Charles M. Sell,
Achieving the Impossible
(Portland, OR: Multnomah, 1982), 145-56.

2.
Lawrence J. Crabb, Jr.,
The Marriage Builder: A Blueprint for Couples and Counselors
(Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 1982), 29-30.

3.
On the three God-given inner needs, see Lawrence J. Crabb, Jr.,
Understanding People: Deep Longings for Relationship
(Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 1987), 15-16; Robert S. McGee,
The Search for Significance
, 2d ed. (Houston, TX: Rapha, 1990), 27-30.

4.
Crabb,
The Marriage Builder
, 33-34. The following section is from Willard F. Harley, Jr.
His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage
(Grand Rapids: Revell, 2001).

1.
See W.E Vine, Merrill Unger, William White, “To Divine, Practice Divination” in W.E. Vine,
Vine’s Complete Expository Dictionary of Biblical Words
, electronic ed. (Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 1996), and “Occult, the,” in
The HarperCollins Dictionary of Religion
, ed. Jonathan Z. Smith (New York: HarperCollins, 1995), 806; James Walker, “What Is the Occult?”
The Watchman Expositor
9, no. 8 (Dallas: Watchman Fellowship 1992).