Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot (47 page)
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Authors: Annie Sprinkle Deborah Sundahl
Tease Yourself Some More
Tease your vaginal opening with the tips of the vibrator. Rub it all over the opening of your vagina. Feel which part feels the most sensitive and what feels best. Then slowly
insert just the tip of the vibrator about ½” into your vagina then withdraw it back and do it again and again, then go 1” and repeat the process going ½” deeper each time until the vibrator is in as far as you desire.
Working the G-Spot
Put upward pressure on your G-spot with the tip of the vibrator. You do this by only inserting the vibrator about 1 ½” to 2 ½” until the tip is right behind your public bone (you should feel it slide right into place) and then exerting an upward pressure. Once there you can just let the vibe do all of the work and apply moderate pressure to your G- Spot. You can also make a pulsing feeling by applying pressure to you G-spot for 2-5 seconds and the releasing the pressure and waiting an equal amount of time and then repeating the cycle.
Rocking the G-Spot
Once the vibrator is in place in the nook behind your pubic bone rock the vibrator back and forth or side to side to see what type of stimulation causes.
Pulling Forward
Once the vibrator is in place in the nook behind your pubic push it in deeper and then pull it forward until it is back where you started. This will stimulate you GSA as well as the
G-spot itself. Try this slow and then faster. See what feels better. You can also do it fast enough in a manner that when you pull it back it will hit or tap your G-spot with each thrust and pull.
Withdrawal Technique
This technique is one that many women use to help them to ejaculate and is used with the Pulling Forward technique above. Do several full cycles of the thrust pull above and then pull the vibrator all the way out of your vagina in a very rapid movement. So it would go like 1, 2, 3, 4, 5 (or up to any number you like), withdraw and wait a few seconds and then reinsert and start over
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pot Stimulation/Masturbation Exercise #2: G-Spot Dildo/Vibrator
Take about 45 minutes to 1 hour to do this exercise.
All you need to do this is some
privacy, a small mirror and some massage oil or lubricant like Astroglide, Eros, ID
millennium or KY if desired.
Stay very aware of what you feel and keep all of your attention on your own body and what you are feeling do not fantasize at this point. Do not concern yourself with ejaculation at this point if it happens that is great if it does not that is also great because ejaculation is not your goal yet. The only goal should be exploration and pleasure and possibly a G-spot orgasm.
Take a hot bath or shower to relax your muscles.
Find a nice quite private space like your bedroom or a place where you will not be disturbed. You should be either reclining back or sitting up but not laying down completely. Place a mirror in front of your vagina so that you can watch what you are doing.
Sit down on the bed and just relax and let your self go. Have no expectation just experience and explore.
Bring your self to the very edge or peak of where you are just about to have an orgasm and then stop all stimulation for 30-90 seconds and let your arousal decrease and drop for down a couple of levels. You must stimulate your self to high level of arousal so that your G-Spot will swell or you will not be able to feel your G-Spot.
Stimulate your G-Spot using the G-Spot vibrator using any or all of the techniques above.
Stimulate yourself until you have an orgasm or for as long as it feels good. Make sure that you use enough lubrication so that you don’t rub your self sore.
Variations on G-Spot Stimulation/Masturbation Exercise #2
The goal of these variations is to learn what turns you on and what feels best to you.
Try this exercise and add manual clitoral stimulation with your other hand.
Try this exercise and add clitoral stimulation with your vibrator.
Do the exercise, but this time really use your imagination and add your fantasies.
Try the exercise watching a porn film that really turns you on.
Try the exercise using some
Her Turn Cream.Invite your lover to watch you. He/She will love it!
Chapter 10
Your First Female Ejaculation!Your First Female Ejaculation
Now that you have stimulated your G-spot extensively you are ready to learn how to have your first female ejaculation if you have not already had one. What I am going to do here is give you the basic steps and pattern to follow to have your first female ejaculation and to teach you a process that will allow you have ejaculatory orgasms more often and possibly anytime you desire. I will then give you several exercises for you to try that will incorporate these basic steps.
You may have been very close to having an ejaculatory orgasm during the previous exercises or in the past but actually stopped your self from having it out of fear that you were going to urinate or pee all over yourself or lover(s).
Does this sound familiar?
You are having really great sex and your lover is, going down on you, fingering you or you are having intercourse. Or maybe you where masturbating with a vibrator or dildo and all of a sudden you think “Oh God I have to pee!” or “ I am going to pee all over him!” And you jump up and run to the bathroom to pee and very little or only few drops come out?
What is happening is that your paraurethral sponge or G-Spot has become stimulated ether directly or indirectly through the clitoral stimulation or the use of a vibrator. When this happens the sponge fills with fluid. Since the sponge is wrapped around the urethra it will cause you to feel like your bladder is full and that you have to pee. Also both urine and ejaculate come out of the urethra so they share the same exit just like in mans penis.
That I have to pee feeling of a full bladder that you are holding back is often the sign of an impending female ejaculation.
Ejaculation, Orgasm or Both?
Female ejaculation and orgasm do not always go hand in hand. For some women ejaculation is separate from orgasm and for others it happens with a deep vaginal G-Spot orgasm or a clitoral orgasm. You may experience ejaculation with an orgasm one time and without one at another time. It really does not matter at this point. All that really matter is for you to let yourself go with the flow so to speak and just enjoy all of the new sensations. You are venturing into new uncharted sexual territory. You only need to be an explorer and be aware of what you are feeling and enjoy and let yourself go.
Relaxation Is Key
You must be relaxed and comfortable and not in a hurry. You need to just relax take your time and enjoy yourself. The reason I keep saying this is because it is so important. If you make to big and effort to ejaculate and can cause your to sabotage your efforts. This is
very similar to male performance anxiety where the guy try’s so hard to become aroused that he actually shuts down and can’t get an erection because he is so worried about not getting one or guys that try so hard not to ejaculate prematurely that they almost always do. So just relax, enjoy yourself and try the exercises with your only goal to be exploring this new area of your female sexuality.
How To Experience Your First Female Ejaculation Step-by-Step
In the exercise that follows your goal will be to enjoy yourself and see if you are able to have an ejaculatory orgasm. If it does not happen the first time do not worry just try keep trying and sooner or later you will, if you are capable of ejaculating. Some women are only able to ejaculate at certain times and others once they learn how to can ejaculate any time they choose.
Before you are able to ejaculate you will first need to let go of that fear that you are about to pee when you get that feeling like you need to urinate or have a full bladder during sexual stimulation. This is most likely to occur during G-spot and as I have said before is an possible sign of an impending ejaculation.
Female Ejaculation Exercise #1: Manual Stimulation
Take about 45 minutes to 1 hour to do this exercise. All you need to do this is some privacy, a small mirror and some massage oil or lubricant like Astroglide, Eros, ID millennium or KY if desired. Stay very aware of what you feel and keep all of your attention on your own body and what you are feeling do not fantasize at this point. I also suggest that you use the herbal formula for having mind blowing orgasms.
Take a hot bath or shower to relax your muscles.
Then go to the bathroom and urinate to empty your bladder so that you will know that you are not urinating when you ejaculate.
Find a nice quite private space like your bedroom or a place where you will not be disturbed. You should be either reclining back or sitting up but not laying down completely. Place a mirror in front of your vagina so that you can watch what you are doing. Put a bath towel down where you are going to sit so that when you ejaculate you will not soak what you are sitting on.
Sit down on the bed and just relax and let your self go.
Bring your self to the very edge or peak of where you are just about to have an orgasm and then stop all stimulation for 30-90 seconds and let your arousal decrease and drop for down a couple of levels. Then bring yourself to the edge and peak several more times.
Stimulate your G-Spot using your favorite and most pleasurable techniques from all of the previous exercises that you have done.
Stimulate yourself until you have that I have to pee feeling or an orgasm which ever comes first. And at that point relax and don’t fight that I have to pee feeling just let yourself go and push out with your vaginal muscles like you are pushing a tampon or dildo out of your vagina.
If you ejaculate keep going if not resumes stimulation and try again in a few moments.
Female Ejaculation Exercise #2: Vibrator & Dildo Stimulation
Take about 45 minutes to 1 hour to do this exercise. You will need two vibrators I recommend either two
Egg or Silver Bullet vibrator
or one Silver Bullet and a
G-spot
vibrator or G-spot dildo
and some privacy to do this is. A small mirror and some massage oil or lubricant like Astroglide, Eros, ID millennium or KY should also be used. Stay very aware of what you feel and keep all of your attention on your own body and what you are feeling do not fantasize at this point. I also suggest that you use the herbal formula for having mind blowing orgasms.
Take a hot bath or shower to relax your muscles.
Then go to the bathroom and urinate to empty your bladder so that you will know that you are not urinating when you ejaculate.
Find a nice quite private space like your bedroom or a place where you will not be disturbed. You should be either reclining back or sitting up but not laying down completely. Place a mirror in front of your vagina so that you can watch what you are doing. Put a bath towel down where you are going to sit so that when you ejaculate you will not soak what you are sitting on.
Sit down on the bed and just relax and let your self go.
Apply some lubricant to your vulva (pussy), turn on the vibrator to a pleasurable setting and then rub the Egg or Bullet vibrator all over your vulva and clitoris for a minute or two.
Then insert the vibrator into your vagina and push it right to where your G-spot is located and turn it up to the highest level of vibration that you find pleasurable. Leave the vibrator in your vagina for at least 5 minutes or more. If you have one or more orgasms it is ok.
Start to use the second vibrator on your vulva and near the vaginal opening and external urethral area for a few minutes. What you are doing by using the vibrator this way in steps 6 & 7 is to stimulate your urethral & pariurethal sponges to produce the female ejaculate.
Now remove the bullet vibrator from your vagina and either use a G-spot vibrator/dildo or your fingers to stimulate your G-spot while you stimulate your clitoris with the other Bullet vibrator.
With the G-spot Vibrator/Dildo use the withdrawal technique that you learn (page
131) while you are stimulating your clitoris with the other vibrator, keep repeating the withdrawal technique. You may ejaculate as you withdraw the G-spot dildo.
Stimulate yourself until you have that I have to pee feeling or an orgasm which ever comes first. And at that point relax and don’t fight that I have to pee feeling just let yourself go and push out with your vaginal muscles like you are pushing a tampon or dildo out of your vagina.
If you ejaculate keep going and see how much you can ejaculate if not resumes stimulation and try again in a few moments. Also continue until you have satisfied your self orgasmicly.
