March With Venus: 94 Love Games (Book 7) (10 page)

28. Anonymous sex

The idea of
ni vu ni connu
(French for ‘neither seen, nor known’) attracts most gents, who, one might argue, have a different risk tolerance than women.

Your man might dream about intercourse with a woman – or man, for that matter – whom he has never met nor seen, or whom he cannot even see during the act.

For him, the more anonymous the act, the better.

29. Unlimited oral sex

‘Oral’ is the order of the day – and I’m not talking about verbal prowess.

You know what I mean.

Deeply entrenched in every man is the desire to win ‘BJ bonanza’ and receive boundless, generous oral sex.

Can’t say more about this one, except that it certainly is meant to remain what it is: a fantasy.

30. Anal

Some men find rectal intercourse alluring – and your darling might be one of them.

I need not say more here, other than, again, to state the obvious: It will remain a dream unless you find the practice appealing and it is also a fantasy of yours.

31. Sex in the changing room at the mall

I’ve already explored the idea of public sex with the possibility of being caught.

This fantasy falls in that category, and the larger the store’s fitting room, the higher the odds that your Romeo would want to give you a quickie.

The probability goes even higher if you are buying or trying lingerie or any other piece of underwear that requires you to undress completely, while he is next to you in the fitting room.

32. Role-playing

Your man’s mind is saturated with several sensual roles he would love to play with you, from the dirtiest to the most puritan.

He has gotten most of his role-playing fantasies from childhood memories, X-rated material, discussions with friends, and TV or the Internet.

The more open you are about role-playing, the better…

33. Traffic stopper

Your man fantasizes about a quickie on a hot day, while traffic is slow, say, cars are moving at 5 to 10 miles per hour.

The idea of people in the surrounding cars watching you turns him on tremendously.

Even if you think your sweetie is the cautious type, you would be amazed what goes through his mind.

34. Secretary

Your man would want to ‘teach’ a thing or two to his secretary, or any person reporting to him.

The fantasy becomes prominent if your man is in a position of power, especially if he feels invulnerable.

Don’t believe it?

Just see the scores of politicians and business executives entangled in sexual harassment scandals and lawsuits!

They thought their power, prestige and hierarchy made them immune to prosecution or any type of societal vulnerability.

35. A lady masturbating or undressing in private

I’ve covered this fantasy a bit in other sections, but here I want to give it the importance it actually carries in the male psyche.

The voyeuristic penchant of every man is on full force here, and your darling secretly wishes he could see you or another woman masturbate, undress or take a bath.

36. Being seduced

Your lover wants you to seduce him, not just through lingerie but also with words, manners and composure.

He secretly yearns for total love, uncontrolled passion from you.

He wants to feel that you desire him, and that you still are attracted to him after so many years.

This is particularly crucial if you have been in this relationship for a long time.

37. Pantyless partner

The next time you are spending a nice, quiet afternoon or evening with your sweetie, don’t wear any underwear.

But make sure you will be with him during the whole time, lest he believe you have other, less commendable pursuits – for example, seducing other men.

The idea of thinking of you naked underneath your clothes would be an enormous boost to his desire, ego….and phallus.

38. At the movie theater

Your husband or boyfriend would want to make love to you at the movie theater.

Ideally, he would want to choose a backroom seat, private if possible, and watch the film with you…while you
seat
on his lap.

39. In the elevator

Your sweetheart might want to be pleased in an elevator, ideally in a building with many floors and in a city where firefighters are notoriously late when responding to building emergencies.

Besides a tall building and an inefficient or busy fire department, you would want the elevator system to be backup-free, meaning it cannot resume on its own. Here you have it.

The rest is up to you in terms of imagination, scenario, scripting, etc.

40. On the beach

Going back to nature, why not?

I talked about the importance of nature and the natural habitat in stirring things up in your relationship.

Men love sex on the beach because females love it.

Sex on the beach is so ingrained in female psyche, some genius beverage marketer even invented a drink with the same name – a drink that, no surprise here, all women love. (Or, rather, all women I know.)

Sex on the beach does not have to be scripted or happen only when you are on vacation.

It could be spontaneous, during the weekday or on weekends, assuming you don’t live far from the sea.

41. Making a sex tape

I talked earlier about the fact that your sweetheart secretly wanted to be X-rated celebrity, at least for a few minutes, and exclusively for himself.

Making a sex tape would be one of the related dreams, although your gent would be very wary of the thought, simply for privacy concerns.

In an era in which the Internet has asserted its dominance on everything from the way we eat and communicate to how we mate and date, your lover might be worried if a private sex tape would somehow find its way onto the Internet’s global scene.

42. Public quickie

The idea of a public quickie is fixed in every man’s mind…and body.

Your loved one would want you to be around permanently to help him satiate his thirst for intimacy when it emerges.

He imagines someone, hopefully and preferably you, making intense 5-minute love to him in public – the place is yours.

The higher the chance of being caught, the better…

Even if your sweetheart is prude, or wants you to believe he is, he still might yearn for that overt, quick and torrid intercourse. Something to keep in mind!

43. Family reunion quickie

Family reunions are the perfect occasion to stage a quickie with your loved one, especially when tensions flare and discussions become heated – as they typically do when three or four generations of people gather and exchange.

Your husband or boyfriend imagines both of you excusing yourselves and making a rapid trip to the basement or guest room, and then ‘releasing’ all the tension that has built up over the day.

44. Interviewing a candidate who would do ‘anything’ to get the job

Men, especially those in a position of power, fantasize about interviewing a female candidate who would do
anything
to get the job.

In the reverie, males typically like to play the serious interviewer interested in knowing more about the job applicant, and then gradually exploring key areas of her professional background, before turning to her ‘anatomical résumé.’ 

45. With your sister

Believe it or not, your lover has a deeply held fantasy about your sister – and that probability grows even higher if you have many female siblings. This is because chances are that one of them also has feelings for your sweetheart.

He yearns for a quickie, a one-night stand, with one of your sisters.

In some cultures, a sister or brother can marry a widow or widower to replace the departed sibling.

Don’t worry about this fantasy, though! Both your sister and your partner love you too much to materialize that desire.

A Few More Things

Ok…that was another round of
profound
plays, wasn’t it?

Before we move on to other stuff, let’s talk about a few important things.

Follow me.

You won’t regret it.

Fear being average.

As you try to enact some of the games I’ve talked about, don’t be average.

In other words, if you are going to implement one game, just do it all the way. That way, you would know you gave it your all before failing – which I don’t think you will.

The same advice to real life.

Who wants to be average?

Do you?  Yeah, you, my dear reader!

Do you want to be average?

You certainly don’t, I guess.

And you’re right. You are right and therefore should not try to be average. I talked earlier about going the extra mile, and believe me, in that uncharted territory, you rarely see regular folk.

Those who make it past the regular mileage zone typically show strong traits of perseverance, fortitude and zeal…not to forget passion.

They are also unique.

Let’s continue with the theme of uniqueness.

You are unique, and you are not average. So quit being average. Even if you doubt your own abilities in the job you currently hold, as long as you have the passion and willingness to progress, you will.

Nobody — including your boss, family member or friend — can permanently hamper your progress.

People can deter you from greatness temporarily, but in the long term your destiny will play itself out unless — and that is a big UNLESS — you shield yourself from success.

In other words, you like being average and decide now to explore your God-given talents further and much longer.

The choice is yours: below average, average or above average.

In everything you do, seek more than average, and see your life slowly improving and people being drawn  to you.

It works like magic, but it is far from it.

In
The Art of Seductive Communication — How to Win Friends and Persuade Anyone to Do What You Want
(
The Wheel of Wisdom, Book 9
), I talk about how you can eliminate fear and replace with more positive attributes to make people like you more and longer.

Wake up to fear.

I don’t talk a bit about fear management in relationships because many couples fail because of inappropriate follow-up on long-held phobias that are bothering one partner or both.

So make sure you wake to your own fear, whatever it may be, and help your lover also discover whatever past trauma is lingering somewhere in his or her psyche.

This sounds a bit counterintuitive, but it is true.

Fear does not shut you down but rather wakes you up.

For decades, even centuries, humans have been taught to combat fear, eliminate it at all costs, but never face it — in other words, never wake up to it.

But recent research in the fields of neurology and psychology tend to foster a more open approach to fear management, especially when it comes to identifying risk elements, mitigating them and annihilating them for good.

I follow this kind of research closely because I want to know more about the intersection of body and spirit, especially how that combo affects everything from fear management to success to happiness to perseverance.

Thomas Sudhof
, an expert at Stanford School of Medicine, has conducted comprehensive research on the subject of fear management, especially how human emotions and perceptions depend on signaling between neurons in the brain.

I agree with Dr. Sudhof when he says that human emotions, including fear, project a specific set of neuronal signals, and so studying these idiosyncratic signals can help us identify them in an at-risk subject, treat that person effectively, and prevent fear symptoms from reappearing.

Enough of the medical jargon already!

But I am sure you understood my point, which is “wake up to your fears,” confront them, and recalibrate the way your neurons respond to those fears in the future.

When you face an unbearable circumstance, you call upon your internal force and resilience as well as other talents you have but that were dormant.

You find your optimism, your joie de vivre — and then you fight to survive.

This is especially true if you have to fight for your life. That’s when you wake up to battle the adverse reality you must undergo, and attempt to find the necessary resources to win.

Don’t be scared about fear, but wake up to it.