Naughty Secrets (20 page)

I enjoy giving her oral sex and I know she enjoys getting it. However, she doesn’t like to perform it on me and, of course,
I won’t insist. I’d love it if she did but she can’t bring herself to do it. Oh well, nobody’s perfect.

I don’t like oral sex, just can’t get used to the taste.

Let me answer the question you men are probably asking:
How can I entice my lady to perform oral sex?
Notice I use the word
entice,
not
force
or
get her to.

There are several issues involved here, some so deeply psychological that I wouldn’t dream of attempting to deal with them.
For many women, oral sex is a taboo. Many people’s religious beliefs teach them that activities that don’t result in conception
are forbidden. It’s dirty, girls are told, and you’ll go to hell if you do it.

When I was in my teens I had been told by my close girlfriends that oral sex was disgusting. Maybe some of them secretly enjoyed
it, but they certainly wouldn’t have admitted it, not in the late 1950s. In those years, sex before at least engagement was
much less common (or maybe just less talked about). So from early on in my dating career, oral sex was a no-no. Nice guys
didn’t ask for it and nice girls didn’t do it. Period.

Guys tried, of course, and that left nasty memories. I remember being in the front seat of a car and having a date insist.
It began with a request, then a bargaining chip, then I was all but forced to attempt it. I remember the guy was already hot
and sweaty and the smell of him in the hot car was overwhelming. When I bent over to attempt it, he pressed his hand on the
back of my head and held me down. I bolted and asked him to take me home, which he did. That, both literally and figuratively,
left an almost permanent bad taste in my mouth. I didn’t perform oral sex on a lover until I was over forty, and, although
I enjoy it when Ed does it for me, giving still isn’t my favorite activity.

The first time I performed oral sex on a man was in the bathtub, and that’s a strong recommendation. If you want to entice
your lady, try doing it in the shower, tub, or pool. That way the natural odors are at a minimum. Lots of soapy foreplay and
a little guidance and you might make it.

I know that guys seem to love the smell and taste but that’s a bit embarrassing for me, too. I seldom feel like I’m “kissing
sweet,” as the commercials say, so playing in the bath or shower might allow her to relax and let the guy enjoy himself, too.

There are other issues as well.

I love what he does for me, but I’m not comfortable doing him. I don’t feel that I’m doing it right.

She doesn’t do it well and doesn’t like it.

Another problem with oral sex, at least for me, is that I want to “do it right.” Like me, many women feel that there’s some
master technique for giving a man oral pleasure—one that we never learned. Therefore, we don’t “give good head” and therefore,
we’ll be a sexual failure when the man finds out. Yes, guys, we actually believe that. So please, help us. Moan a lot. Tell
us that it feels fantastic. Gently and in a positive way, suggest things that might make it better. “Darling, I love it just
like that.” Or, “Umm, do it really slowly”—or “quickly,” or whatever. Give lots of positive feedback. No one was born knowing.
Be a teacher. Help her learn exactly what you like. If you do that your student can become the best at fellatio, at least
for you.

Ladies, there’s no “right way,” no secret technique that you need to learn. Just relax and do what you think might feel nice
for him. You don’t have to be Linda Lovelace and deep-throat your guy. Kiss his penis. Lick him like a lollipop. Circle the
head of his penis with your tongue. Play with your hands as well as your mouth. If he’s not helping with moans and hip gyrations,
ask him often whether it feels good. Tease with, “Which feels better, this or that?” Then do two different things. Play with
the possibilities.

I enjoy the receiving end but the giving… Well, he always wants me to swallow and I don’t like the taste. It makes me gag.
Plus after a while, my jaw begins to hurt and I can hardly move it.

Yes, it’s definitely part of the package, both giving and receiving. However, I do not swallow.

Guys, go easy on requests for swallowing. I’m not sure what the lure of that is, but many women just don’t want to, myself
included. So, in order to have your lady relax, tell her you’ll give her plenty of warning. Then remove your penis from her
mouth and never, never surprise her. If you do, she’ll be reluctant to ever do it again. If, after you two have been playing
for a while, you want to ask whether she’ll allow you to come in her mouth, fine. Then abide by her answer.

I really enjoy oral sex with my partner. I love how she tastes and how her mouth feels on me. We do not “sixty-nine,” however.
I find it distracting when I’m trying to please her.

Sixty-nine, performing mutual oral sex on each other, doesn’t work for me either. I like my pleasures one at a time, so if
I’m both performing and receiving, one or the other doesn’t get my full attention. Maybe it’s like that for you, so you might
want to try one thing at a time for starters.

One last thing for both of you. Don’t overlook good old chocolate sauce, whipped cream, or really sticky maple syrup. It sounds
silly and messy, but it works. And silly is fabulous when approaching something a bit difficult.

With all that in mind, let’s see what other folks have to say.

I absolutely love eating my partner to orgasm. I love playing with my mouth on his penis, engaging it in many ways, tickling
it, sucking it, flicking or circling it with my tongue, filling my mouth with wine and swirling it around his cock. I love
the power of sucking him to orgasm and then taking it all down my throat. I have learned that many women won’t do this for
their men, and I can’t imagine why not.

We haven’t yet. When we were first married we were young and inexperienced and both thought oral sex was “yucky.” We discussed
it and agreed not to do it because we were both uncomfortable with the idea. Now my feelings have changed. I am curious as
to how it feels to give and to receive. I haven’t reopened the issue with my husband yet because I’m afraid of what he will
say.

Don’t be afraid. Mention it to him. If he’s not interested, you’ve lost nothing. If he is, then you’ve opened the door to
something you might both enjoy. Go for it!

I’m very oral and I love having his cock in my mouth, knowing that it drives him wild. I don’t always like to “complete” the
act, preferring to have him inside me when he comes, but sometimes it’s really exciting to feel his warm come shoot into my
mouth and down my throat.

I like to lick her cunt while she is on the phone with friends. The little moans she cannot suppress are worth it.

My wife and I enjoy oral sex all the time. My favorite thing in the world is to lick and suck her nice juicy pussy through
four or five orgasms, while trying to hold on as she thrashes about wildly on the bed. The feel, look, taste, and smell of
a woman’s sex is intoxicating to me. I love to slide my tongue in between the folds of her labia and savor the flavor of her
arousal as I flick and caress her clit with my tongue, alternating between slow and fast movements, bringing her to the edge
and then slowing down until she can’t take it anymore. Then I suck her whole pussy in my mouth and rapidly flick her clit
with my tongue as I apply suction until she explodes.

My wife is an absolute master in the art of fellatio, which is definitely a plus for me. She takes great pride and care in
her work as she sucks my cock. She slowly slides up and down and uses her tongue all over. She alternates between light and
hard suction, and fast and slow strokes, making me writhe while she lightly fondles my balls. I wish she would swallow, but
you can’t have everything.

I enjoy bringing my wife to orgasm with my tongue. I have to laugh because her body shakes violently and she cries out really
loudly. I enjoy her kissing my penis but I then like her to move on top and straddle me so I can come deep within her rather
than in her mouth and throat. I say this even though she is very good at “deep throat.”

I love to do oral on her, but she won’t consider doing it on me. I have trouble just getting her to touch my penis, or balls.

If I really take my time and manage to do it just right, I can make her come from oral, but usually if we do this, I just
do it for a while, and then we switch to missionary sex with me fingering her clitty.

My wife performs on me pretty regularly, either as foreplay or just for a good time (no coming in her mouth, though). I perform
it on her when she’ll let me. When I go down on her she loves it and will come if I stay there but she usually stops me and
wants to finish au naturel.

Oral sex was probably one of my favorite sexual fantasies prior to meeting my current lady. She has taken our sexual relationship
to such a higher plane in so many areas that although I still enjoy oral sex it is only one of many wonderful ways for us
to enjoy each other!

I remember the first time my wife and I had oral sex. I kissed her tits, and down across her navel, but she stopped me when
she became aware of my apparent destination. I told her I wanted to kiss her “down there” and she asked me why. I told her
I just wanted to see what it was like. She agreed but stipulated that no way was she taking me into her mouth. I said, “Fair
enough,” and moved into the sixty-nine position.

Well, she liked what I did for her so much that a few seconds later, to my surprise and delight, I felt her slide her tongue
around my cock. She said afterward that, contrary to her previous thoughts, when she felt the silky head of my cock in her
mouth, it was the nicest thing imaginable.

On only a few occasions thereafter we have performed oral on each other, but never to orgasm for either of us. I offered to
bring her to climax on a couple of occasions, but she said that it would mean I would get soaked in her juices and that grossed
her out.

Here are two great letters. These two folks tell, in their own words, about their first time with oral sex.

I must write about the first time I gave oral sex to a woman. I was twenty and I went to a wedding with a date who was twenty-two.
After the wedding we went to her apartment and things got heated with a lot of kissing and fondling. I unzipped her dress
and freed her breasts, then began sucking on her nipples.

She got up, put her hand out, and led me upstairs to her bedroom. She then undressed and got into bed as I stood there watching.
I quickly took my clothes off and joined her. After a lot of kissing and feeling her breasts, I reached down and felt her
slippery wet vagina. I could smell a little odor coming from under the sheets, and this turned me on knowing it was coming
from her genitals.

Although I didn’t really know what I was doing, I slid down under the covers and began licking her entire crotch area, putting
my tongue inside her vagina and running it up to her clitoris. I could reach up and play with her nipples as I licked her
vulva. Her vagina tasted a little salty, and it smelled very different from anything I had ever experienced. I think it was
the forbidden-area smell that turned me on. I kept licking as she whispered how good it felt. I felt her nipples get real
hard sticking up like miniature erections, and her body stiffened up. She was breathing really hard, and whispered that she
was going to come.

I will never forget this. It was the first time I brought a woman to orgasm, and the way her body shook and the way she moaned
made me more excited. After she came, she rolled a condom on my stiff penis, and then I inserted it into her very wet vagina.
After only twenty seconds of in-and-out stuff I came in an explosive manner.

The first time I gave oral sex to a man was a memorable time for me. It was also the first time for my boyfriend.

It was a very hot summer afternoon and we were both wearing shorts and T-shirts. While sitting on the couch and watching the
Ricki Lake
show my boyfriend and I began kissing. As I had done before, I put my hand up his pant leg, and the feel of his hard penis
really turned me on. I pulled his shorts off and he pulled his T-shirt off over his head. As he sat there naked I played with
his stiff penis and rubbed his testicles as I tried to get the courage to put my mouth on his erection.

We got into a pattern where I was stimulating his genitals slowly as we still watched the TV. I noticed that after a while
when I pulled down on the shaft of his penis some clear fluid seeped out. For some reason I wanted to taste it so I licked
him. Well, my boyfriend moaned really loud when my lips touched the head of his penis.