Naughty Secrets (21 page)

I remember how warm his erection felt on my lips, and how soft the skin was. Then I licked and kissed around the head while
holding it by the shaft. His excitement level rose as I licked away. I then took the head of the penis into my mouth and began
rubbing my tongue around it. As I stroked and sucked it I could feel his body tense up in pleasure.

I wasn’t ready to have him shoot in my mouth so, when I could feel him ready to ejaculate, I licked under the head while stroking
the shaft. As I watched, semen came blasting out. We were both delighted, for different reasons.

I don’t enjoy anal sex and neither does my husband, but when he touches my anus during sex it really turns me on.

Anal sex and anal intercourse are two different things. Anal sex— touching, stroking, or licking the area around the anus—might
end up with anal penetration and anal intercourse, but it doesn’t have to. There are many people of both sexes who enjoy (or
might enjoy) having their anal area touched during lovemaking who wouldn’t enjoy penetration of any sort. Others might enjoy
a slender toy or finger inserted but are worried that something as large as a penis would cause pain. If you want to experiment,
go for it, even if it never leads to penetration. Just a touch can heighten arousal for lots of people.

Many of the folks who responded to my survey had never tried anal sex and had no interest in it. That’s fine. My motto is,
If It Feels Good, Do It. The corollary is, If It Doesn’t, Don’t!

No… my wife doesn’t like it.

No, we don’t practice anal sex, even though I would like to. On several occasions when I’ve been performing oral sex on her,
I’ve touched her anus and felt her draw back. It’s really not that big a deal to me so I don’t push her. Why spoil a good
thing?

Bravo!

Others surveyed said that they want to try but are afraid. If you want to play, here are a few guidelines. First, lots of
foreplay. It relaxes the muscles as well as the inhibitions. Then use lots of lubricant—lots and lots of water-based lubricant!
Try K-Y Jelly or the one I like, Astroglide. No oil-based lubes like baby oil. They can eat through condoms and make tiny
holes that can let disease organisms through.

Make everything very slippery. Play with touches, toys, what-have-you, and discover whether it’s pleasurable. If a touch is
exciting and you want to go farther, great. If not, you’ve still discovered something enjoyable.

If you want to try penetration, always use a condom and remove it immediately after withdrawal. Avoid any contact with the
vaginal area after you’ve played anally, whether with a finger, toy, or condom-covered penis. Even the slightest touch can
transfer really nasty bacteria from the anus to the vagina, causing a serious infection.

One final and most important word—anal penetration of any kind is a
high-risk activity!
Several life-threatening diseases— AIDS, hepatitis, and more—are transmitted through blood-to-blood contact. During anal
sex there is often a tiny amount of blood released—often not even enough to see, but enough to contain a lethal number of
viruses. Always use one (or even two) condoms and be really careful.
Really careful.

My hubby and I really enjoy anal sex, but we have some rules. I am the boss and we have it only when I say I am ready. When
I say “wait” or “hold it” it means stop and don’t move in or out. Once my sphincter muscles relax we then continue.

I have only done it a couple of times and for now I don’t think I’d do it on a regular basis. It is more painful than anything
else that I have experienced sexually. I still enjoy it because he does, but I give in only when I want to.

We have never tried putting my cock into her that way, but we do play with fingers. I would love to fuck her ass but she can
barely take my cock in her pussy—she is small. I’m afraid that anal sex would injure her.

Anal sex doesn’t turn me on at all. Fortunately, no partner has ever pressured me into having anal sex.

I react very strongly to her word
pressured.
Never, never do something because a partner pressures you to do it. Whatever the activity, do things because you want to,
or because you’re curious, or even because it will give you a tremendous amount of pleasure to do something he really will
enjoy. But make sure that if you say “stop,” he will. Period.

I’ve never done it with my wife because she is afraid of it. I have fucked only one woman in the ass. In my opinion, with
women it’s just a diversion.

My gay friends ask for it so I do it with them, or rather I try. I have difficulty staying hard with male partners, probably
because of the condoms that are so essential. Usually I get in deep as he lies on his back and then I stroke his cock until
he comes. After that it usually takes only a few strokes for me to come as well.

We have had anal sex three times. It hurt her. I really wanted to play and not to have it hurt, but we never were able to
get a handle on it.

I enjoy it a lot but I think she only does it for me. The last time (this is embarrassing) I was kidding her about giving
me her ass in exchange for a new living room set. She agreed (after a lot of convincing), and I tried everything to make it
good. Still, it hurt her a bunch and I stopped midstream, only about three inches into her butt. A few weeks later she bought
her new living room set.

If you mean him putting his penis in my ass, no. No! But when we’re in the right mood, we use toys in the anal area and that’s
a kick. We’ve got a really slender dildo with a vibrator inside. It’s skinny and flexible enough to bend where it needs to.
Once I’m really hot, he uses lots of lube and slides it in. If I don’t come right then, he turns on the little motor and I
go off like a rocket. Sometime I’d like to use it on him. I think he’d really like it. Maybe soon!

I would be interested in trying actual anal sex, but my boyfriend is only just becoming comfortable with anal play. He used
to think it was incredibly icky, but since I’d like to try it, he has come around to the idea. Now he touches me and it really
lights me up.

Let me admit right now that I can, and do, push things inside my bottom with ease when masturbating, but only at the right
angle and after some stroking and clitoral stimulation. His penis is way bigger than my mascara, and he’s a darn sight less
gentle with it. Maybe, someday.

I love it. At first I did it to please him, although I really thought it was dirty, but when we tried it I had to admit to
him how incredible it felt. My moans gave me away.

I really don’t like it much, but I do it to please my partner. Since he gets so much joy out of it, I’m willing, and I find
his pleasure becomes my pleasure.

It hurts but I have been trying because my husband is obsessed with it right now.

I enjoy anal sex if I’m prepared for it, and have come once already.

I love it, and I think he likes it, too, but not nearly as much as I do. I think he worries about the germ factor too much.

I did it once, when I was very drunk.

Need I say that it’s a terrible idea to do such things when you’re drunk or otherwise incapable of making a rational decision.
Not only do you do things you might regret later, but you tend to be careless— and anal sex, when approached carelessly, can
be a life sentence.

We have had anal sex on occasion but I have never truly enjoyed it. I think it’s just something different that I might learn
to enjoy eventually so we persist.

No. We have tried and it was very painful for me. However, I get very turned on watching anal sex in porn movies.

I really enjoy it, especially if he talks dirty to me and spanks my ass at the same time. It’s such a turn-on to have a hot
ass outside that’s being fucked on the inside. He has told me that he loves the feeling of my heated buns against his crotch.

I originally did it just for him but have since discovered that I really enjoy it. It’s a very intense feeling that I never
would have guessed I would enjoy.

At first I did it because I knew it was something he wanted to do and I will admit that I was intrigued as well. It wasn’t
as much fun as I had hoped—in fact it was pretty painful. Since then we’ve done it a few more times, but I still don’t have
the “hang” of it. I do have to admit that it turns me on to think about having his cock in my ass. I know he enjoys doing
it to me but as yet I haven’t “done” it to him. I’m pretty sure he wouldn’t enjoy it.

My wife and I include anal play and intercourse frequently in our lovemaking. My wife loves to use a vibrator on her clit
as I fuck her ass from behind and she always has a very intense orgasm. I love to have my wife fuck my ass with a vibrating
strap-on dildo. We also love fingering each other’s ass during oral sex.

My longtime girlfriend and I only do it a few times a year, I’m sad to say. I don’t really know why, since she comes like
a bomb that way. I think it would be better for her if she’d just do it rather than worrying about it. Maybe she thinks she
shouldn’t enjoy it. I don’t know.

My current partner won’t let me touch her there, and doesn’t discuss it.

A previous lady I was with loved digital anal stimulation, and we routinely did it while we were engaged in sex. We tried
penile penetration a couple of times, but she said it was just too painful, although we did complete the act, if only for
me.

Yes, we do have anal sex, but not frequently. I’m not sure she is very keen on it. I try to be sure she is as comfortable
with it as she can be, and I know she appreciates that consideration, but I don’t think she gets off on it (yet). For sure,
she knows what it does for me since I have the most overwhelmingly powerful orgasms. I really hope she learns to enjoy it,
if only half as much as I do.

We love to rim each other and she loves to fuck my ass with a vibrator.

We don’t have anal intercourse at all. It’s definitely not in the cards for her, and I’m not that interested in trying it.

Occasionally, however, she will gently insert her finger into my ass or rub just around the outside of my anus as we play.
Nothing too deep or anything, but that really drives me nuts, and she knows it.

YES [capitals are his]. This is one of the things we have both discovered we like to do that neither of us had done before.
Part of our anal sex involves oral stimulation.

I discovered while I was eating her pussy that I enjoyed licking her asshole and she found it wonderful as well. That progressed
to making love to her ass with my tongue (actual penetration), which when combined with manual stimulation of her pussy led
to her having wonderful orgasms. That eventually led to my fucking her ass.

The other side of the coin has been very interesting also. She has made oral sex so unbelievable because she is so willing
to stimulate me in any way possible. Besides taking me fully into her mouth, including continuing while I come and swallowing
it (a very new experience for me), she also enjoys licking and sucking on my balls. I have come to the conclusion, and have
shared with her, that my balls are the physical equivalent to her breasts. She very much enjoys the physical stimulation I
give to her breasts with my mouth and she has translated my feelings to actions on my testicles. She will bathe them with
her tongue and very gently put them in her mouth until I am very stimulated and then she will suck on them gently, which is
tricky, but when I am very close to coming is wonderful!!! I even have started shaving my pubic hair around my cock and balls
to make it more enjoyable for both of us.