The Anal Sex Position Guide (10 page)

Try getting into Yab-Yum on a chair, ottoman, sofa, or a pillow on the floor. A comfortable chair or couch can offer men needed back support. With a firmer surface beneath him and his legs down, a man may feel more solid in this position and have more freedom of movement and a little more ability to thrust gently. A man can hold onto his partner’s hips and move her body up and down on his penis. If the couple is on a wide enough chair, she can move her legs so that she straddles him but isn’t wrapped around his waist.

The man sits on a chair, couch, or ottoman and his partner straddles him backwards (facing away from him). He keeps his legs apart and she sits between his legs with her legs together. This can also be done on the edge of a bed, but it’s best if both partners’ feet can easily touch the ground. The closer you are to the floor, the easier it will be for her to get full range of motion. This is a good position for couples where the woman is much smaller than the man.

This position has many of the benefits of Reverse Cowgirl—she’s in control of the action and dictates the depth and angle of penetration—along with some additional pluses. It’s great for women who like rear-entry positions but don’t like Doggie Style because they don’t want a lot of very hard thrusting. It’s a good position to achieve indirect G-spot stimulation through anal penetration. Partners are closer to each other than in Reverse Cowgirl, facilitating more skin-to-skin contact and a better opportunity for communication. It’s also much easier for him to reach around to play with her breasts and stimulate her clitoris. Any size vibrator, including a large wand-style one such as the Magic Wand, is easy to use in this position. Lap Dance works well if he has limited strength or mobility—or simply wants to sit back and let her drive. This is a great choice for a quickie, a romp in a semi-public place (wear a skirt with no panties!), or sex in a cramped space such as a car or bathroom stall.

He needs to be able to support her weight on him comfortably and she needs to be fit and strong since she does most of the work. If she’s on her tippy-toes, she needs to use her thigh and leg muscles to do most of the work, which some women won’t be able to sustain for very long. Both partners have limited movement, so deep or vigorous thrusting isn’t what this position is for; moreover, neither partner may be able to orgasm this way. For a sitting position, it may still feel too anonymous for some, and they may like The Chairman better.

In The Split, she gets into the Lap Dance position but instead of bringing her legs in between his, she puts them on either side of his. Depending on how long her legs are, she may only be able to reach the floor with her toes, limiting her ability to ride him hard. With his legs together, this limits his movement even more.

From the Lap Dance position, she leans forward until her torso is at a right angle with his torso. Try facing a wall or putting another (sturdy!) chair in front of you so she has something to lean against or grab onto and steady herself. This gives him a better view of her ass and may give her a better angle of penetration, especially if his penis curves away from his body. This is good for a less intense version of Doggie Style.

Giving your partner a lap dance is a great way to seduce him, tease him, and get him turned on.

• Embrace your inner exhibitionist and perform for him.
  
• A lap dance is all about attitude: If you exude confidence and sexiness, no one will notice you’re not actually dancing.
  
• Don’t get hung up on having all the right moves. Touch yourself. Slide against him. Arch your back. Shake your ass.
  
• Focus on the tease. Show him just enough, but not everything. Rub up against him. Say naughty things. Come close, then move away. Tell him he can look, but he can’t touch.
  
• Don’t be afraid to practice in the mirror.
  

In Flying Doggie, she kneels on all fours on the bed and he stands (rather than kneels) behind her. She puts her legs together and his legs are on either side as he enters her from slightly above.

Flying Doggie has all the pros of Doggie Style: He gets a wonderful visual of her ass and full penetration, as well as easy access to squeeze or spank her butt. He’s in control of how deep he penetrates her and the speed of the thrusting. He can put his full weight behind his movements, making it a good position for the strongest thrusting and deepest penetration. The main difference is that Flying Doggie creates a different angle of penetration; he comes from slightly above her. Because the angle provides downward insertion, it’s a fantastic position for indirect G-spot stimulation. Men who don’t find they have enough leverage or feel too much strain on their knees in traditional Doggie Style should try Flying Doggie. It can also work well for a man with a short penis.

As in Doggie Style, in Flying Doggie the partners face the same direction, so there is no eye contact; verbal communication—or reading subtle cues and body language—can be more difficult. Some women may feel too passive in this position since he takes the lead. Women who are nervous about being penetrated too deeply or who don’t want a hard pounding should probably avoid this one. Men with limited strength or mobility won’t find this position easy.

In Stallion, she stands with her legs apart, then bends forward at the waist and leans on the bed (or another piece of furniture) and he stands behind her. Stallion has all the benefits of Doggie Style with more power because he has full leverage with his hips and legs. For some couples, this may simply work better than Flying Doggie because of their sizes and heights. If she feels too much strain on her knees in other Doggie positions, this is a better option for her. If he can position his hips slightly higher than hers, he can stimulate her G-spot indirectly when he penetrates her.