The No-Cry Separation Anxiety Solution: Gentle Ways to Make Good-bye Easy from Six Months to Six Years (29 page)

Sitters.
See
Babysitters

causes of
, 3–
5

Skolomoski, Stephani
e, 123

chart, signs and symptom
s, 9–
10

Sleep schedules, maintaining,
61–
62

children in early years and
, 2, 4

Sleepovers, attending
, 114–
17

children who don’t have
, 12–
13

Sneaking away, avoiding
, 28

defi ned
, 1

Solo play
, 33

determining child’s level of
, 5

Spencer, Elizabeth DuPont
, 141

determining if it’s a problem,
16–
19

Stories that teach, telling
, 55

embarrassment and
, 16

Stranger anxiety,
5–
6

emotions and
, 15–
16

age for appearance of
, 6

factors determining child’s level of
, 5

duration of
, 6–
7

fear and
, 15–
16

helping child overc
ome, 7

honesty and
, 79

Strangers.
See
New people

lifestyle changes and
, 15

love and,
1

Tammeus, William D.
, 3

origin of
, 1

Test parent survey
, 135–
37

parents’ emotion
s, 11

Tips

parents’ personal stories of
, 131–
35

for attending partie
s, 114–
17

reasons for,
2–
3

for attending sleepover
s, 114–
17

shyness and,
15

for bedtime separation anxiety,

signs and symptom
s, 9–
10

105–
12

situations that masquerade as,

for handling arrival of new baby and

15–1
6

sibling
s, 103
–5

slow adaptation and,
15

for handling business travel,

symptoms of
, 8–
11

126
–27

tips for parents who feel
, 137–
41

for handling divorce
s, 123
–26

understanding age-appropriateness

for handling military duty
, 120–
23

of
, 53–
54

for introducing Magic Bracelet,

unpredictability of
, 11

46–
47

worry and
, 16

for parents, who feel separation

Separation anxiety disorder (SAD)

anxiety,
137–
41

children with
, 141–
43

for planning adults-only vacations,

information and guidance resources

117–
20

for,
144–
45

for sending child to kindergarten or

treating,
143–
44

fi rst grade,
100–
103

152

Index

for when child resists babysitter,

introducing people gently
, 34–
35

87–
92

inviting distraction
s, 31–
32

for when mom or dad goes to work,

minimizing separations,
26–
27

92–
96

monitoring responses of parents,

for when parent can’t leave room,

39

82–
86

permitting “alone time,”
27

Toddlers, no-cry solutions for,
21

playing bye-bye ga
me, 23

allowing separations that the child

playing peek-a-boo with object
s, 22

initiates,
32–
33

playing peek-a-boo with people
, 23

avoiding excess separation
, 38–
39

practicing separations,
24

avoiding in-arms transfer
s, 24–
25

telling toddlers what to expect,

avoiding prolonged partings
, 28

27–
28

avoiding rushed parting
s, 28

Touchpoints
(Brazelton),
100

avoiding sneaking away,
28

Transitional objects, encouraging

babying,
25

relationships with
, 33–3
4.
See also
creating baby steps of autonomy,

Magic Bracelet

55–
56

cueing caregiver’s response
, 31

Vacations, planning adults-only,

encouraging relationships with

117–
20

transitional object
s, 33–
34

expressing cheerful, positive attitude

What-If ga
me, 66–
67

when leaving
, 29

Work, tips for when mom or dad goes

having child well rested and well

to
, 92–9
6

fed,
37–
38

Worries

having dress rehearsal
s, 55–
56

avoiding showing
, 70–
71

having practice sessions
, 30–
31

separation anxiety and,
16

introducing new people
, 35–
37

Worry seeds, avoiding planting
, 58

About the Author

Parenting educator Elizabeth Pantley is president of Better Begin-

nings, Inc., a family resource and education company. She fre-

quently speaks to parents at schools, hospitals, and parent groups

around the world. Her presentations are received with enthusiasm

and praised as realistic, warm, and helpful.

She is a regular radio-show guest, and she is frequently quoted

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Parents
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Parenting
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, and
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Elizabeth is the author of these popular parenting books, available

in twenty-four languages:

The No-Cry Sleep Solution

The No-Cry Sleep Solution for Toddlers and Preschoolers

The No-Cry Potty Training Solution

The No-Cry Nap Solution

The No-Cry Discipline Solution

Gentle Baby Care

Hidden Messages

Perfect Parenting

Kid Cooperation

She was also a contributing author, with Dr. William and Martha

Sears, to
The Successful Child
.

Elizabeth and her husband, Robert, live in Washington State,

along with their four children—Angela, Vanessa, David, and Cole-

ton—and Grama (Elizabeth’s mother). Elizabeth is an involved par-

ticipant in her children’s school and sports activities and has served

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• Contents
  
• Foreword
  
• Acknowledgments
  
• Editor’s Note
  
• Introduction
  
• 1 All About Separation Anxiety in Early Childhood
  
• 2 No-Cry Solutions for Babies and Toddlers
  
• 3 The Magic Bracelet Solution for No-Cry Separation
  
• 4 No-Cry Solutions for Preschool and School-Age Children
  
• 5 Solving Specific Separation Situations
  
• 6 Parents’ Separation Anxiety
  
• 7 Extreme Emotions: Separation Anxiety Disorder
  
• Index
  
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