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[1]
That would be the female half of the world’s population.

[*]
And 82% of all statistics are made up right on the spot. Ha.

[2]
Didn’t I just say that?  Yes I did.  And I’ll say it again, because it’s so important: as long as all thoughts are free, choose to think the positive, empowering ones.  Feeling good, like feeling crappy, is mostly a choice.

[3]
The syllables
hong
and
sau
have no translation; just use them as sacred sounds to focus the mind.

[4]
For a thorough, warm and humorous treatment of this subject, I recommend
The Myth of Monogamy
, by the husband-and-wife team of David Barash and Judith Lipton