The Well-Spoken Woman (42 page)

avoiding wrinkled clothes,
121
–
22

dressing for special occasions,
122

rules for choosing clothes,
120
–
21

what never to wear,
123

fear of face turning red,
60

hair,
120
–
21
,
175
,
222

hair touching,
53

and on-camera appearances,
226
–
28
,
228

what not to wear in,
123

makeup,
28
,
122

not limited to your clothes,
33
–
34

and on-camera appearances,
203
–
204

best things to wear on camera,
227

flattening and fattening effects of camera,
13
,
206
–
207

hairstyle,
226
–
27

makeup,
203
,
222
,
226
,
227

TV-ready attire,
225
–
26

worst things to wear on camera,
228

owning your look,
30
–
31

visual: body language and appearance as one of three Vs of communication,
81
–
82
,
99
–
124
.
See also
body language; movement while speaking; posture

personal-attack questions, dealing with,
256

personal experience

use of to end your speech,
200

use of to open your speech,
195
–
96

personal-opinion questions, dealing with,
256

persuadables in the audience, reaching,
133
–
35

persuasive speeches,
183
–
84

Phillips, Caroline,
183

Phillis Wheatley High School,
85

physical reactions to fear of speaking,
62
–
65

pitch, pleasing.
See
voice

planning the presentation.
See
preplanned spontaneity

plastic sheets, usefulness of,
167

playacting,
36

pledge, making as a part of closing a speech,
198
–
99

pockets, hands in,
115

podium presence,
19
,
116
–
17
,
117

politics, women needing to be seen as “serious” candidates,
10
–
11

popular culture, memorable lines from,
148

posture,
108
–
11
.
See also
body language; movement while speaking

incorrect standing postures,
108

and on-camera appearances,
209
,
210
–
12
,
218

telltale body blunders,
53

use of the “champion stance,”
101
,
109
,
109
–
11
,
110
,
114
–
15

Powell, Colin,
138

Power Persona,
16
,
27
,
27
–
47
,
124
,
281

creating a persona,
56

unmasking your well-spoken persona,
59

PowerPoint (PPT), use of,
169
–
71
,
170
,
171

practice.
See
rehearsing/practicing

praise.
See
appreciation

Prejean, Helen,
304

preparation time,
116
,
266
.
See also
rehearsing/practicing

before the Democratic National Conventions,
201

preparation time and length of speech,
180

preplanned spontaneity,
17
–
18
,
153
–
76
,
175
,
176

breaking Murphy's Law,
161
–
65

understanding the audience and the event,
157
–
60
,
158
,
159

understanding the setting for the presentation,
160
,
160
–
61

unplanned, unscripted moments,
173
–
74

use of for unexpected speaking requests,
312

using organized clean notes,
165
–
69

Priestly, Amanda,
33

Prince (musician),
181

proactivity (women supporting women),
261
–
80
,
280

beginning with helping yourself,
272
–
77

coaching other women,
267
–
68

developing the bench (women needing to be an integral part of things),
270
–
72

need to call out sexism when seen,
269
–
70

praising other women,
267

saying “no” to mean-girl comments,
268
–
69

problem, framing the,
141
,
141
,
142
,
142
–
43

problem-and-solution as a way to organize a speech,
193

projecting an assured self,
16
,
24
,
33
,
40
,
205
,
214
,
251

projection equipment,
111
,
163

pronunciation,
90
–
91
,
94
–
95

props, use of during a presentation,
171
–
72

PS.
See
preplanned spontaneity

public image,
10
,
56

public speaking.
See also
writing

developing a signature style,
28
–
34

handling anxiety caused by,
58
–
68

introverts learning to speak in public,
313

look for opportunities to do,
275
–
76

and the one-way style of broad-casting,
34
–
35

as a performance,
24
–
25

preparing for panel discussions,
311
–
12

setting up a game-day routine,
67
–
68

speaking styles that connect or disconnect with audiences,
36

understanding the purpose of the speech,
181
–
85

well-written is well-spoken,
177
–
202

punctuation,
96

using pitch to create,
82

purpose of presentation,
181
–
85

push-ups using the podium,
117

quiet hands,
209
–
10

quotations

all-time great lines,
39
,
87
,
117
,
173
,
189
,
216
,
247
,
263

examples of memorable messages,
146
–
48

one-liners,
38
,
146
,
153

using a quote to open your speech,
195

QVC (TV network),
203
,
204

Rankin, Jeanette,
299

ranking or choice questions, dealing with,
256

rational expectations, setting,
59
–
60

Ray, Rachael,
33

Read My Pins
(Albright),
258

“Ready, Set, Go” creating a winning first impression,
116

Reagan, Nancy,
187

Nancy Reagan gaze,
53

Reagan, Ronald,
129
,
157
,
187
,
196
,
269
,
271

“Rebuilding the Cherokee Nation” (Mankiller),
303

Refuse the Silence: Women of Color in Academia Speak Out,
287

regional accents,
80
–
81

rehearsing/practicing,
36
,
59
,
65
,
66
.
See also
preparation time

Michelle Obama's Olympic speech rehearsal,
100
–
101
,
123
–
24

for on-camera performances,
207
,
214
–
15

overrehearsing,
36

using positive visualization,
65
–
67

using preplanned spontaneity,
17
–
18
,
153
–
76

repetition,
94
–
95

continual restating of a message,
132
,
136
–
38

repetitive speech patterns, use of,
79
–
81

reporters.
See
media and reporters, dealing with

Republican National Conventions,
199

resources for viewing speeches by well-spoken women,
315

Revere, Paul,
50

Rice, Condoleezza,
138
,
304
,
314

Richards, Ann,
10
,
16
,
23
,
24
,
25
–
26
,
28
,
31
–
33
,
38
,
39
,
42
,
43
–
44
,
45
,
266
,
267
,
281
,
289
,
302
,
310
,
315

Richardson, Morgane,
287

risks, taking,
36
,
43
–
45

Rivera, Roxanne,
240

Rivers, Joan,
309
–
10

R. J. Reynolds,
143
–
44

Robbins, Tony,
229

Robinson, Fraser,
99

Rock and Roll Hall of Fame,
181

Rockefeller Foundation,
149
–
50

Rogers, Ginger,
23

Rolling Stone
(magazine),
254

Roosevelt, Eleanor,
49
,
264
–
65
,
281
,
284
–
86
,
300

Roosevelt, Franklin Delano,
37
,
195
,
284
–
85

Roosevelt, Theodore,
284

Rosie the Riveter,
27

Rowling, J. K.,
200

Rubin, Robert,
73

Safire, William,
295

Salon
,
198

Sampson, Deborah,
49
–
51
,
68
,
296

Sampson, Edith Spurlock,
85

Sandberg, Sheryl,
286

Sanger, Margaret,
300

satellite presentations, eye contact focus points for,
212
–
13

Saturday Night Live
(TV show),
81

Sawyer, Diane,
33
,
168
,
287

Scarborough, Joe,
220

Schlafly, Phyllis,
148
,
296
,
301

Schriock, Stephanie,
240
–
41
,
287

scripted presentations, excessively,
154

seated posture.
See
sitting posture

seating, dealing with,
163
–
64

self-absorption,
36

self-assessment checklist,
307
–
308

self-assurance,
16
,
39
–
45
.
See also
best self, being your

being willing to prove oneself,
42
–
43

breaking illusions,
40
–
41

controlling nervous anxiety,
24

and the Power Persona,
27

and risk taking,
43
–
45

self-confidence,
49
–
68

Barbara Jordan showing,
94
–
95

conveying,
74

steps to finding,
59
–
68

self-deprecation.
See
humor

self-doubt

never showing,
94
–
95

rapid speaking revealing,
52
–
53
,
56

self-help.
See
help seriously, taking self,
272
–
73

sexism,
14
,
24
,
269
–
70

“Sexualization of Girls” (study by

APA),
270

SHAPE UP techniques for the camera,
207
,
207
–
14

Shaw, Anna Howard,
275
,
298

Sheehan, Michael,
201

Shellenbarger, Sue,
250

Sherrod, Shirley,
251

Shriver, Eunice Kennedy,
19

Siebert, Muriel,
305

signature style,
27
,
28
–
34
,
45

silent type as a passive troublemaker,
242

sincerity of speakers,
36

singing as way to express emotion, inflection, and pace,
93

sisterhood in flattering pants (women supporting women),
261
–
80
,
280