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Results:
This position stimulates her root chakra and opens both part- ners’ heart chakras, as well as providing some pressure against the vulva.

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POSE 4.2:
Vulval and Penile Stimulation

Her position:
Lie on your back and pull your right leg up for Reclined Big Toe Pose (Supta Padangusthasana), grasping your calf with both hands. As you exhale, and while keeping your leg as straight as possible, hold your right big toe with the first two fingers of your right hand and gently lower your leg toward your right shoulder.

Her partner’s position:
Make a split over her pelvis, bringing your right leg up toward her shoulder. Lean forward to grab hold of your right big toe with the first two fingers of your right hand.

Hold for two minutes. This position can also be done using the oppo- site leg.

YOGA POSE 4.2: Vulval and penile stimulation

Results:
Allows for more advanced sexual positions and allows for pelvis- on-vulva stimulation, especially of the perineum.

The general communication rule with all of these spots is “
Do
ask and
do
tell.” Find out what feels good to her. Tell your lover if something just ain’t doin’ anything for you or if you think the technique needs to be changed up a little bit. Experiment with stimulating these spots with some of the toys and positions I discuss in the last two chapters of this book. By ex- pecting the unexpected when you least expect it, you may end up pleas- antly surprised.

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His Hot Spots for Explosive Results

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lthough I took a “ladies-first” approach in presenting the hot spots, doing so was not meant to undermine the golden potential of the male erogenous zones and everything they have to offer him and his part- ner. In the next three chapters, we get up close and personal with trigger areas throughout his groin and investigate all the ways a man or his lover

can move mountains with just the right touch.

Few hot spots have quite the degree of symbolic meaning and clout as the penis, which has reigned as the male’s hottest erogenous zone since the beginning of time, serving as a revered reflection of one’s manhood and sexual prowess. Sometimes referred to as a scepter (a baton anointed by a sovereign as a symbol of authority), the penis can be a man’s all-con- suming pride and joy or simply regarded as his most appreciated source of pleasure for the erotic sensations it produces throughout the genitals and, at times, the entire body.

Human interest and appreciation aside, the
penis
is the very sensi-

tive male reproductive organ that is composed of three main parts: (1) the

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glans,
the smooth, extremely sensitive tip, which is packed with numer- ous nerve endings; (2) the
body,
or
shaft,
which contains a rich network of blood vessels and spongy cylinders (a pair of corpora cavernosa and a corpus spongiosum; see Figure 6.1 on page 85) that have the potential to fill with blood and expand during erection; and (3) the
root,
which at- taches to the body. In extending back into the body, the roots of the cor- pora cavernosa, the
crura,
attach to the surface of the ischiopubic rami, the branches of the pelvis. This structure prevents the penis from sinking into the perineum as the man’s body bears the impact of thrusting.

FIGURE 5.1: The external male genitalia

Penises range in size and shape. They can be any combination of long, medium, or short in length and skinny, medium, or thick in girth. They may hang straight down or slightly toward one thigh; some erect penises point more to one side than the other. Larger flaccid (nonerect) penises do not increase as much in size during erection as do smaller flaccid penises. The average flaccid penis is 2 to 4 inches in length if measured along the underside from where the penis shaft protrudes from the groin. The aver- age erect penis ranges in length from 4» to 6¼ inches, with the average girth being 4.83 inches. Anywhere within an inch of that range is consid- ered mainstream; 12 percent of the population exceeds it and 12 percent falls under it.

The skin of the penis may be loose prior to erection, tightening and becoming darker in color as the organ fills with blood during erection. Penises may have papules, which are natural, pearly, raised bumps that appear around the base of the glans; or Fordyce’s spots, small, yellowish- white spots; and/or sebaceous prominences, which are located at the sweat glands.

One major misconception about the penis is that this magic wand is one big erogenous zone. In actuality, it is covered with several specialized, highly erotic areas, specifically, the glans, corona, frenulum, and (for most males worldwide) the foreskin (see Figure 5.1). When playing with the penis, pay attention to the following hot spots and to the exercises on how to sex them up. Knowing what you need to do and where to do it will elicit major kudos for your abilities as a lover, setting you apart from other tourists who have been under the misguided impression that the male phallus is just one big resort. Instead, know that it is full of a bunch of smaller, off-the-beaten-path, must-see locales that give this pleasure site its heart and soul.

Foreskin

All males are born with a
foreskin,
or
prepuce,
a layer of skin full of rich blood vessels, nerve endings, and muscle fibers (see Figure 5.1). This re- tractable, double-layered fold of skin is in fact a mucous membrane. It is a modified extension of the penile shaft’s skin that covers and usually

extends beyond the glans. It automatically pulls back when the male is aroused and erect. Men who are circumcised have had this highly eroge- nous tissue removed.

The foreskin consists of two parts: the ridged mucosa and the soft mucosa, which lies against the glans. The soft mucosa contains sebaceous glands that secrete emollients, lubricants, and protective antibodies; it acts much like an eyelid that protects the eye by cleansing and moisturiz- ing it. Believed by many to serve a protective purpose, the foreskin keeps the glans surface soft and moist, and provides the skin necessary to ac- commodate an erect penis, allowing skin tissue to glide smoothly over the shaft and glans as the penis becomes thicker and is stimulated; for exam- ple, during sexual intercourse.

It is important to pull the foreskin back when putting on a condom. Oth- erwise, the condom could end up inside the foreskin, uncomfortably re- ducing sensitivity and effectiveness.

Glans

The
glans,
or head of the penis, is the extended cap of the corpus spongio- sum (see Figure 6.1 on page 85) and is covered wholly or partially by the foreskin unless a man is aroused or has been circumcised (see Figure 5.1 on page 64). Extremely sensitive, the glans is usually reddish or purplish during arousal, smooth, shiny, and moist (though dry if circumcised). Data are mixed as to whether or not the glans is more sensitive in men who are uncircumcised (with a foreskin) than in those who are not. Regardless, this hot spot can send shivers up his spine when properly stimulated.

Corona

The
corona,
sometimes referred to as the
coronal ridge,
is a raised ridge located at the bottom of the glans, separating the penis’s head from its shaft (see Figure 5.1). For some men, it is the most sexually excitable hot spot on the penis. In circumcised men, it is normal for the corona to have

expanded to a diameter significantly greater than that of the penile shaft. Having been circumcised allows for full stimulation of the corona during sexual activity. In uncircumcised men, the corona may not be totally vis- ible until or even during erection.