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by working the tension-prone collarbone area deserves notice. Press into the Elegant Mansion acupressure point, located in the depression below the collarbone’s protrusion (see Figure 10.1). As you perform the follow- ing exercise, you’re likely to hear unexpected “ahhhs.”

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EXERCISE 10.1:
Collarbone Stimulation

1. Sit behind your partner.
   
2. With your thumb and first two fingers, starting at the inside end of the collarbone, slowly and firmly press along it, moving outward. Re- peat this movement several times.
   
3. With the heel of your hand, repeat this massaging motion, again traveling outward, finishing by pushing into the indented area where the collarbone and shoulder meet.
   
4. Repeat on the other side.
   
5. With your thumb and forefinger, press into the indentations below the collarbone, massaging them thoroughly.
   
6. Repeat on the other side.
   
7. Using the heel of your hand, massage just the upper part of the breast. (Many massage therapists avoid this area, especially in women, for fear of seeming too personal.)
   
8. Move the heel of your hand to continue this massage on the upper center of the chest, which will stimulate the Shan Chung (thymus gland), the rejuvenation center located behind the sternum, which runs the body’s immune center.
   

If at all possible, try working the hot spots in this chapter before moving to the genitals, as stimulation of the penis or vagina can detract from the pleasure sensations the rest of the body has to offer. Subtle sensations, like licking a lover’s armpit, are going to feel totally different if libidinal desires are postponed and if you make these skin spots the sole focus. Natu- rally, these spots can also help to spread genital sensations during sex if stimulated properly at the same time.

The Back

Your back is a wonderland of erogenous potential. With the practically endless variations available, how can you ever get tired of giving or receiv- ing a back massage? While nearly everybody loves having any part of their back massaged, the following are some areas worth paying a little more attention to

• the small of the back, which is full of nerve endings and an area where stress accumulates. Massaging this region also helps increase blood flow to the pelvic area, so orgasm is likely to be heightened.
  
• the sacral curve, located at the base of the spine. Pressing your thumbs into the muscles on either side of the vertebrae draws blood into the groin, increasing the energy that flows into the pelvis, hence enhancing arousal.
  
• the dimple just above each butt cheek. Pushing and pulling the skin of this area triggers genital movement, which causes a sexual feeling to spread up the spine.
  

When you give a massage, make sure that the space in which you are giv- ing it is warm and draft free. Clean towels and pillows also make the ex- perience that much more pleasant.

To give a killer back massage, you have to be willing to move. Don’t get stuck in one place. It may be better at times to sit at your partner’s head or to kneel at the side of their torso rather than sitting at their feet. Even if you’re working a particular spot on your lover’s body, doing so ef- fectively may require a total-body response on your part. Don’t be afraid to straddle your lover and to get your entire body into the act, rather than merely using your hands and arms.

Use a mixture of soft and hard moves; employ your fingers, palms, the edges of your hands, fists, soles, thumbs, finger pads, and elbows, chang- ing the pressure as needed with each change in body part. Start out easy by applying light touches to any given spot, making sure it isn’t too ten-

der, before gradually applying more pressure, and always check in with your partner regarding what feels good. Movements may include long, rhythmic strokes, patting, hitting the skin as though it were a drum, com- pressing, kneading, rubbing, pinching, pressing, scraping, grasping, ham- mering with “karate-chop” motions, shaking, and vibrating. Here’s a killer move: Grasp the skin, tugging it away from the spine before releasing it, especially at the sacrum area. This will help to open the spine and unblock the energy channel.

Experiment with different sensations. Use your tongue anywhere; for example, run it up the spine. Utilize your nails from time to time, scratch- ing little circles all over your lover’s back. Vary the pace. Use a variety of enhancements, such as massage oil, a feather, a paintbrush, a popsicle, or powder (e.g., Argo cornstarch, which goes on smoothly like oil).

No matter what you’re doing or how you’re doing it, be aware of the following acupressure and reflexology points that should receive extra at- tention:

• Sea of Vitality acupressure points lie on the lower back between the second and third lumbar vertebrae (two and four finger-widths away from the spine at waist level—i.e., in line with the belly button; see Figure 10.2 on the next page). These points store and foster physical and sexual energy, and govern the reproductive system. They are an area you can massage, but they are best pressed while hugging your partner. With one hand placed over the other on your lover’s lower back, using fingertips on one side and the heel of the hand on the other, find and firmly squeeze the ropelike muscular cords on both sides of the lower back.
  
• The upper back houses four pairs of love points that can stimulate sexual energy, and these points are located between 1½ and 3 inches down the back on both sides of the spine (see Figure 10.2). The top points align with the second vertebrae down from the thoracic verte- bra, the large bone that protrudes at shoulder level when the head bends forward; the bottom points line up with the lower part of the fifth thoracic vertebra. Using your fingertips, press each of the love points firmly for a few seconds, repeating regularly.
  

  FIGURE 10.2: The Sea of Vitality, Gia-Pe, Mingmen, and upper-back acupressure points
  

  

• Gia-Pe is the name of a reflexology point located on the area of the back that is opposite the heart center (see Figure 10.2). As you hug your partner, press this area with the palm of one hand, while plac- ing your other hand atop the bottom hand.
  
• The point known as the Mingmen (see Figure 10.2) is considered both a life gate for sexual energy and, in reflexology, the second cen- ter for male erection. It is located directly under the second lumbar vertebra, just below the back of the waist, and it should be pressed firmly with the fingertips.
  

The Sacrum

Although it is part of the lower back, the sacral area deserves special atten- tion. Its sixteen acupressure points lie along the base of the spine in the sacrum’s hollows (the large bony area at the base of the spine; see Figure