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10.3). Pressing these points activates the sacral nerves, which in turn stimulates your partner’s genitals. To stimulate these points, feel for slight indentations at the base of the spine, and firmly hold them with your fin- gertips. This may be done most easily when hugging or slow dancing, so it can be made an integral part of foreplay. As you hold your partner, gradu- ally apply firm pressure to the points. Also, try placing the palm of one hand at the base of your lover’s spine and firmly pressing it as you use your other hand to lightly touch other hot spots or as you press your pelvises together.

FIGURE 10.3: The sacral acupressure points

Sexual reflexology views this area slightly differently. It holds that the sacral-coccygeal area can be stimulated and massaged at the top of one’s butt crease; that is, at the tailbone. Sprinkled with eight love points (in- stead of sixteen), the sacrum can invite sexual arousal when a lover firmly presses into the small indentation at the base of the spine. The ninth point on the coccyx, the sacral pump, known as Chang-Chiang, can also be stimulated in this manner.

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EXERCISE 10.2:
Dirty Dancing

Go dancing! It’s the perfect opportunity to exercise your tailbone, hips, and lower back, which will relax and strengthen them. The more motion the sacrum experiences, the better the circulation in the sexual center. As you dance, take a wide stance, with your hands on your hips or in front of you. As you move, turning from the left to the right, breathe fully and deeply. Make sure you spiral the coccyx, sacrum, and hips separately from the upper torso (above the waist) and the legs, moving in every direction and extending your hips forward and back as much as possible. This will stretch and stimulate the sacral region’s nerve fibers, activating the hor- mones of the testicles and prostate or of the ovaries and uterus. It will also help you to open up the genital area. Plus, dancing is a great way to flirt with your partner, get both of your heartbeats going, and touch and enjoy each other’s bodies in a more sensual way.

The Womb and Vitals are two other acupressure points in this area, located one to two finger-widths outside of the sacrum, midway between the top of the hip bone and base of the buttocks (see Figure 2.1 on page 29). Pressing on these triggers activates the sacral nerve, thereby stimulat- ing the genitals. You can use these points to arouse yourself or your part- ner during oral sex or intercourse.

Using a thin, flexible loofah on any of the hot spots covered in this chap- ter can offer a new kind of effect. After wetting the skin thoroughly with water or lubricant, begin massaging the chosen spot lightly. Follow this rough sensation with a smooth lick of your tongue.

The Abdomen

It’s easy to home in on the navel and work your way downward, because the belly button is a natural bull’s-eye for sex play. Rimming the navel with your tongue can produce surprising sensations that may prompt you to head further south. But before you do so, you should first kiss and mas- sage the area below the breastbone. Doing so channels positive energy into the solar plexus chakra, helping to promote total-body sexual energy. Sexual treasure seekers love the hairline trail running from navel to

groin. It’s there to be licked, nibbled, tickled, and gently pulled. Massag- ing this area gets the blood pumping since the action is happening so close to the groin. Such play becomes a tease.

The area through which this “treasure trail” passes, stretching from each hipbone to the groin, is known as the V-zone (see Figure 10.4). This erogenous zone is prime for sexual stimulation with simple finger caresses, kisses, and licks that may ultimately move to teasing the vulva or penis. Its crevices, the area where thigh meets pelvis, contain ligaments sur- rounded by nerve endings and covered with thin, sensitive skin—prime territory for heart-pumping action.

FIGURE 10.4: The V-zone

The V-zone also houses a number of acupressure points. Using soft, light touches, you can stimulate the Gate of Origin, which lies directly above the bladder, or you can just rest your palm there, letting the energy flow from your hand into your lover’s body. The sacral chakra, located below the navel on both sexes, is the area that houses most of a woman’s sexual organs. When it is opened, women can more readily free their emo- tions, which enables them to reach out to and to feel others physically and sexually. Touching this area also stimulates your partner’s sacred spot, the G-spot, from the outside, releasing sexual energy. In men, openness in this area translates into greater confidence in their ability to relate to their

lover. Applying light pressure to the area as your lover breathes deeply will result in enhanced arousal.

Other points that are a must-know when stimulating the abdomen in- clude

• the Sea of Intimacy acupressure points. Located two, three, and four finger-widths below the navel, on the line between the navel and pubic bone, these points can be pressed to restore, secure, and sup- plement sexual intimacy (see Figure 5.3 on page 80).
  
• seven reflexology love points that are closely tied to sexual well- being, collectively referred to as the Cinnabar Field, which are lo- cated in an area of the lower abdomen in front of the pubic bone. The points, which lie about an inch apart from one another, are as follows: Yin-Chiao (Sexual Crossroads—the major point in the Cinnabar Field), Chi-Hai (Sea Gate—a relatively major love point), Shih-Men (Stone Gate), Kuen-Yuan (Pass of Primacy), Chung-Chi (Ultimate Middle), Chu-Ku (the pubic bone), and the navel (or um- bilicus) itself (see Figure 10.5). To work these points, lightly stroke or press each with your palm for three to five seconds. Release and repeat, perhaps using a hardened tongue point instead of your hand. Any type of stimulation of these points is believed to increase arousal.