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position of clitoris relative to,
21

during sex,
44

Vaginal containment,
253

Vaginal opening,
22
,
27

Vaginal orifice,
19

Vaginal photoplethysmography.
See
Photoplethysmography, vaginal

Vaginismus,
45
,
321
.
See also
Pain, during sex

Van de Velde, T. H.,
157
–58

Ventral pallidum,
84

Vestibule,
21

Viagra,
46
,
213
,
239
.
See also
Erectile dysfunction medication

Vibrators,
59
,
287
,
288
,
362
n
12

Violence.
See
Abusive relationships; Sexual assault/rape; Trauma

Virginity,
28
,
159

Visual/proximity cues,
72

Vulva,
21

anatomy of,
26
–27,
27

defined,
29

photographic depictions of,
32
–34

visual exploration of,
37
–38

Washington University,
43

“Water of Life, The” (Rumi),
148

Weight and health,
167
–70,
187

Wetness.
See
Lubrication

What Do Women Want? Adventures in the Science of Female Desire
(Bergner),
75
,
134
,
206
–7

What Makes Love Last? How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal
(Gottman and Silver),
319
–20

What’s this?
behaviors,
80
–81,
86
,
88

What the hell is this?
behaviors,
80
–81,
86
,
88
,
252

When Sex Hurts: A Woman’s Guide to Banishing Sexual Pain
(Pukall and Goldstein),
320

Williams, Mark,
130

Women’s Health
(magazine),
161

“Women’s Sexuality” (author’s class),
23

Worksheets

context,
95
–108

Sexual Temperament Questionnaire,
54
–58

stress coping strategies,
151
–52

turning off the offs,
258
–61

WuDunn, Sheryl,
232

XX (genetic females),
18

XY (genetic males),
18

Yoga,
122

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Data Nagoski, Emily.

Come as you are : the surprising new science that will transform your sex life / Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.

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Includes bibliographical references.

1. Sex instruction for women. 2. Sexual health. 3. Women—Sexual behavior. 4. Women—Health and hygiene. I. Title.

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