Come as You Are (60 page)

Frenulum,
23

Freud, Sigmund,
275

Garden metaphor,
333

on anatomy,
38
–39

on arousal nonconcordance,
220
–22

on body self-criticism,
166

on context,
83
,
94
,
323

on cultural context,
154
–55

on desire,
224
–25,
255
–57

on dual control model,
69

on
expecting, eagerness, and enjoying
systems,
90
–91

on love,
148
–49

on meta-emotions,
328

on trauma,
130
–31

Genderqueer sexual functioning,
8

Genital fold,
19

Genitals.
See also
Anatomy; individual organs

metaphorization of,
17
,
38
,
60
,
210
,
276

size of,
15
–16,
205
–6

Genital swelling,
19

Genital tubercle,
19

Germer, Christopher,
182

Glamour
(magazine),
161

Glans clitoris,
20
–21,
22
,
27

Glans penis,
19
,
21
,
22

Goals, changing,
324
–25

Goldstein, Andrew,
320

Goldstein, Irwin,
320

Good Enough Sex (GES) model,
365
n
9

Gottman, John,
75
,
80
,
134
,
142
,
201
,
239
–42,
283
,
310
–11,
320

Graham, Cynthia,
73

Gravity, emotional center of,
142
–43,
237

Grooming and self-care,
122
–23

Groundhog Day
(film),
233
–34

G-spot,
274

Haidt, Jonathan,
171

Haines, Staci,
128

Half the Sky
(Kristof and WuDunn),
232

Hallucinations
(Sacks),
295

Harlow, Harry,
134
–35

Healing

from body self-criticism,
166

choosing,
144

with nonjudging,
316
–17

Healing Sex: A Mind-Body Approach to Healing Sexual Trauma
(Haines),
127
–28

Health at Every Size (HAES),
168
,
169

Health at Every Size: The Surprising Truth about Your Weight
(Bacon),
169

Heart rate, raising,
246

Hedwig and the Angry Inch
(musical),
131

Heiman, Julia,
266

Henderson, Bobby,
211

Hess, Amanda,
206
–7

Hitchens, Christopher,
132

Hite Report, The,
158
,
362
n
12

Holstege, Gert,
282

Homologues,
21
,
23
,
26
,
28
,
30
,
35
,
274
,
275
,
277

defined,
20

intersex,
32

Hormones

desire and,
16
,
226
,
238
–39,
360
n
20

masculinizing,
18

“How Can I Keep from Singing?” (hymn),
292

How to Think More about Sex
(de Botton),
209

Hymen,
27
–29,
31
,
277
,
347
n
4

Ideal Marriage: Its Physiology and Technique
(van de Velde),
157
–58

Identity, connecting desire to,
248
–49,
250
–51

Iggy Pop study,
80
–81,
84
,
88
,
117
,
202
,
237
–38,
252
,
326
,
351
n
18

Imperforate hymens,
28

Implicit learning,
85
–86

Incentive motivation system,
230
–31,
232

Inner labia.
See
Labia minora

Insecure attachment style,
139
–41

Integration,
283
,
284

Intercourse, orgasm during.
See
Orgasm, through vaginal penetration

Intersex persons,
32
,
347
–48
n
7,
8

Isolation,
178

Jane Eyre
(Bronte),
134

Janssen, Erick,
4
,
48

Jobs, Steve,
238

Johnson, Sue,
135
,
137
,
142
,
319

Johnson, Virginia,
43
,
46
,
269
,
361
n
2

Journaling,
122

Kabat-Zinn, Jon,
130

Kahneman, Daniel,
48

Kaplan, Helen Singer,
45
–46,
230

Kegel muscle,
44

Kinsale, Laura,
136

Kinsey, Alfred,
361
n
2

Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender, and Reproduction,
4
,
48
,
332

Kringelbach, Morten,
84

Kristof, Nicholas,
232

Kung Fu Panda
(film),
334
–35

Laan, Ellen,
194

Labia,
20
,
23
,
26

Labia majora (outer labia),
17
,
19
,
20
,
26
,
27
,
44

Labia minora (inner labia),
19
,
22
,
26
,
27
,
44

Laboratory studies,
43
–44

Lactation,
117

Laurie (composite),
7
,
149
,
283
,
299

arousal nonconcordance and,
215
–16

body self-criticism and,
153
–54

context and,
76
–77

cultural messages and,
186

desire and,
225
,
242
–43

dual control model and,
42
–43,
68
–69

meta-emotions and,
293
–94,
299
,
328
–30

pressure to have sex and,
36
–37,
272
–73