Instant Orgasm: Excitement at First Touch (26 page)

Figure 20.

Pressure on mons
while stroking clitoris

Sometimes I will use my middle finger on Vera’s clitoris as we are lying side by side next to each other (see Figure 21). In this position, I may use my thumb to press on her pubic area, which pulls the hood back to some degree, while I stroke her clitoris. I can play with various levels of pressure with my thumb or the base of my palm (see Figure 22). This position should mainly be used by folks who are trained and know what they are doing, as it prevents the giver from seeing the receiver’s genitals. The good part is that our faces are close to- gether and we can kiss and talk easily; it is a little less technical and perhaps more romantic. The woman is also in a good position to play with her part- ner’s penis. The pleasure giver can still put his second hand under her but- tocks to feel the contractions. Instead of placing the thumb of my second hand at her introitus, I will use the middle finger of my second hand. It is also conve- nient in that we can be lying in bed and move to this position in no time flat, as opposed to having to rearrange the pillows and our bodies to get into a sitting position. If you’re feeling lazy, this position can help you remember that what you’re doing is fun and not work.

Figure 21.

side-by-

side position

(what’s

depicted is for

a right-handed

pleasure giver)

Figure 22.
Position of hands in side-by-side position

Y Fun or Work? Z

Speaking of fun versus work, anytime you are pleasuring someone you don’t want it to feel like hard work, no matter what kind of stroke you are using. When you are learning your craft you may at first have some difficulty getting the hood pulled back with the thumb of your stroking hand, or trying to stay on her spot, or doing some of the other techniques we describe. This may feel like work, and you are in training, so it is training work. Still, if it becomes too painful or too hard, do something different, like pulling back her hood with your other hand, or find an easier stroke. Once you get the techniques down pat giving pleasure must be only about pleasure. If it feels like hard work at any time then you must take a break. It is also time for a break when any part of your body, whether your stroking hand or your leg or your back, is cramping or hurting or distracting you in any way. Switch to a different position, or oth- erwise adjust things by moving a pillow or the like. If your hand is cramping it may be a sign that your partner is tensing her body. Again, taking a break and talking about relaxing can go a long way toward making things better.

Y The Surround Stroke Z

I like this stroke a lot (see Figure 23 on the next page). It is best done in the perpendicular sitting position. Place the index and middle fingers of your

Figure 23.

surround stroke

nonstroking (nondominant) hand inside the woman’s vagina, finger pads fac- ing up. This gives you access to the region on the front side of the vaginal wall typically called the G-spot. The thumb of this hand is then free to circle up to her mons area, where it can pull back on the hood to expose the clitoris. Then the fingers of your stroking (dominant) hand can play with her clitoris in whatever way you want to without the thumb having to simultaneously re- tract the hood. The fingers of your nonstroking hand can massage the G-spot or other pleasurable areas in her vagina if you insert them deeply, or they can play with her labia if you barely insert them. Most of your attention will still be directed to her clitoris, but the second hand is making things easier by allow- ing you to massage the clitoral roots (located on the G-spot) from inside. This stroke is best done after your partner has been pleasured for some time, as you don’t want to insert any fingers into her vagina until she is ready for it. And the clitoris will be easier to stroke in this position after it has engorged.

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We havejustdescribedhowtopleasureallkindsofwomen, fromnonorgasmic to extremely orgasmic. Most fall somewhere in between. Almost all women,

even very orgasmic ones, want to have better orgasms. And many men want to give their lovers this gift. By reading and rereading this chapter and practic- ing what you have read, you will be on the right path to reaching those goals.

The next chapter offers details about how to peak both women and men of all kinds of orgasmic capacity. With your partner’s newfound ability to feel in- stantly, she or he will find a renewed appreciation for being peaked. Each new peak brings a chance to refeel that first stroke in its entirety.

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the Pleasure of Peaking

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hroughout this book we have mentioned peaking, which involves deliberately reducing the level of pleasurable or orgasmic intensity so that one can

peakandhopefullygotoahigherlevelwith the next stroke or series of strokes. Some of you may already be fairly ad- ept at peaking yourself and/or your partner. Because it is probably the most important ingredient in extending or- gasmic pleasure (the “E” in EMO), we thought it proper to fully address how, when, and why to peak your partner. We’ve also included a section on peaking yourself.

Peaking is probably the last skill at which our students become fully proficient, but anyone can start using the