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Authors: Peg Streep
Extrinsic motivation,
45
Eyewitness accounts,
128
Â
and coping, action-vs. state-oriented,
98
and parent-child relationship,
92â93
Failure, followed by renewed effort,
2â3
Faulty memory,
128
Faux quit,
39â40
.
See also
Quitting, unsuccessful styles of
Fitzgerald, F. Scott,
183
Flexibility,
33â34
,
193
.
See also
Inflexibility
Flow,
160â164
,
191â192
,
195â196
and autotelic experience,
161â162
definition of,
160
and extrinsic and intrinsic goals,
161â162
factors necessary for,
162â163
and happiness,
160
and the self,
196
See also
Coherence, search for
Flow
(Csikszentmihalyi),
195
Fockenberg, David A.,
103
Focus, and attention to detail,
130
Focused distraction,
54
affective forecasting,
66
Framing.
See
Goal framing/reframing
“From Weighing to Willing” (Gollwitzer),
204
Frost, Robert,
181
Frustration,
59
“Further Examining the American Dream” (Kasser and Ryan),
154
Future and present, balance of, and mental contrasting,
164â165
,
187
Â
Gambling, and near win, and the brain,
14
Gender
and emotions,
119â120
and rumination,
119â120
“Getting A Grip on Your Feelings” (Koole and Jostmann),
101
Gilbert, Daniel,
64
,
65â66
,
69â70
,
73
,
110
,
143
,
182
,
186
,
207
Gilovic, Thomas,
180â182
“Give up completely,” ability to,
193
Goal disengagement
and affective disengagement,
58â61
and approach-avoidance theory,
85â92
and attachment theory,
86â92
and behavioral disengagement,
61â64
and cognitive disengagement,
53â58
conflicting goals without, harmful effects of,
49â51
definition of,
5
and inability to disengage, unhealthy side effects of,
5
levels of,
53
and motivational disengagement (“getting back on the horse” or “putting your ducks in a row”),
61
and self-regulation,
96â97
strategies,
190â192
See also
Artful quitting
;
Disengagement
;
Goals
;
Quitting
Goal framing/reframing,
132â133
,
135â136
,
204
and approach and avoidance goals,
94
and goal mapping,
158
and regret,
182
and self-definition,
198â199
See also
Goals
Goal mapping
and approach and avoidance goals,
158
and conflict or congruence,
156â158
and extrinsic or intrinsic goals,
153â156
and flow,
160â164
and goal reframing,
158
and goals, deepening understanding of,
158â160
importance of,
151â152
and listing and organizing,
152â153
and mental contrasting,
164â167
,
167â168
and prioritizing,
158â160
See also
Goals
Goal pursuit
and automaticity,
27â30
and motivation,
168â169
stages of,
202
See also
Goals
Goal reengagement,
193
and abstract thinking,
199â200
and blocked path,
199
and goals, achievement of,
202
and optimism,
200â201
and quitting,
212â213
and the self,
196â200
See also
Goals
Goal setting,
131â140
and conflicting goals,
131
,
137â140
conscious,
124
consequences of,
59
and goal framing,
132â133
,
135â136
and “goals gone wild,”
131
and “high bar” goals,
131â132
,
133â140
and performance goals,
135
and single-mindedness,
136â137
See also
Goals
Goal(s)
abstract goals,
46
achievement goals,
46
,
88â89
,
153
achievement of, and automaticity,
205
achievement of, and implementation intention,
203â206
achievement of, and mind-set,
202â203
achievement of, and planning,
202
achievement of, and reengagement,
202
and attainability, factors that determine,
164
and automaticity,
145
career, work, and relationship,
152â153
and coherence and meaning, search for,
194â196
concrete goals,
46
deepening understanding of, and goal mapping,
158â160
definition of,
45
and discernment,
213
disengagement (
See
Goal disengagement
)
exercise,
79
framing/reframing (
see
Goal framing/reframing
)
and happiness, and the self,
194
and identity,
140â143
,
144â145
importance of,
45
kinds of,
45â48
life goals,
152
mapping (
see
Goal mapping
)
mastery goals,
46
and moods,
147â150
multiple,
134
nonconscious,
148â149
observations about,
4â5
performance goals,
135
pursuit of (
see
Goal pursuit
)
reengagement (
see
Goal reengagement
)
and the self, and happiness,
194
and self-talk study,
168â169
setting (
see
Goal setting
)
short-term, mid-term, and long-term,
46
and “Will I,” “I will” experiment,
168â169
writing down (
see
Goal mapping
)
See also
Approach goals
;
Avoidance goals
;
Conflicting goals
;
Extrinsic goals
;
Intrinsic goals
;
“High bar” goals
“Goals gone wild,”
131
Gollwitzer, Peter M.,
202â203
,
204â205
,
206
Gorilla experiment,
127â129
,
130
The Great Gatsby
(Fitzgerald),
183
Â
Happiness
and conflicting goals,
156
and extrinsic goals,
154â155
factors that affect,
206â209
and flow,
160
and goals, and the self,
194
and happiness set point,
206
,
207
,
209
and intentional activity,
206
,
207â209
and life circumstances,
206â209
Happiness, predicting future,
64â70
and above-average effect,
65â66
,
67
and bias blind spot,
65
and complicated vs. uncomplicated events, reaction to,
68
four aspects of,
66
and hypothetical situations, reaction to,
67â69
and impact bias,
69â70
and psychological immune system,
69â70
and uniqueness,
65â66
See also
Expectation
Happiness set point,
206
,
207
,
209
Harvard Business Review,
21
Harvard Law School,
81
Health,
5
and conflicting goals,
49â51
and stress,
118
“High bar” goals,
131â132
,
133â140
and intrinsic motivation,
134
and learning goals,
132
and lying and cheating,
132
,
134
and multiple goals,
134
and pinto story,
133â134
and risk taking,
134
and time limit,
134
See also
Goals
High-demand/threatening situation,
98
Hypothetical situations, reaction to,
67â69
Â
Iacocca, Lee,
133â134
and transition, cost of,
144â145
See also
the Self
Implemental mind-set,
202â203
,
205
Implementation intention,
203â206
and automaticity,
206
See also
Planning
Impulsivity, vs. self-control experiment,
113â115
Inadequacy,
59
Individual difference,
66
Indulging,
74â75
,
164â165
,
166â167
.
See also
Mental contrasting
Inflexibility,
31â32
.
See also
Flexibility
Insecure attachment,
87
,
88â89
,
90â91
,
173
and self-regulation,
100
See also
Attachment theory
Intellectual growth,
112â113
Intentional activity,
206
,
207â209
Intentional blindness,
128â129
,
130
Intermittent reinforcement,
17â19
Into Thin Air
(Krakauer),
134
Intrinsic goals,
105â107
,
194
,
213
and conflicting goals,
157
definition of,
45â46
and flow,
161â162
and goal mapping,
153â156
See also
Extrinsic goals
;
Goals
Intrinsic motivation,
45
and “high bar” goals,
134
Intrusive thoughts,
146â147
and anxious attachment,
90
and cognitive disengagement,
53â55
,
57â58
See also
Thought and emotion, regulation of
Intuitive affect regulation,
99
Invisible gorilla experiment,
127â129
,
130
Ironic monitoring process,
30
,
54
,
146
Â
Jackson, Benita,
120
Jobs, Steve,
3
Â
Kahneman, Daniel,
21
,
24
,
179â181
Kasser, Tim,
154
King, Laura,
49â50
King, Stephen,
3
Klinger, Eric,
59
Koole, Sander L.,
103
Krakauer, Jon,
134
Kuhl, Julius,
100
Â
LaFrance, Marianne,
67â68
Learning curve, and quitting,
122â124
Learning goals,
132
,
135
,
153
.
See also
Goals
Lench, Heather C.,
91
Levin, Daniel T.,
130
Levine, Linda, J.,
91
Life circumstances,
206â209
Life goals (personal strivings),
152
.
See also
Goals
Life Orientation Test,
201
Life stage, and quitting,
82â83
Lin, Daniel,
65
Linville, Patricia,
196â199
Lottery winners,
71â72
Lovallo, Dan,
21