The Guide to Getting It On (46 page)

Positions for Penis Sucking

A highly effective position for doing oral sex is to place yourself between your partner’s legs, facing his body. This gives your tongue direct access to the most sensitive parts of his penis and scrotum, and the angle minimizes the tendency of the head of the penis to bang against your molars. It’s a comfortable position for most women, and it lets a man watch you giving him head, which some men find to be reassuring and a turn-on. Another variation is to sit, kneel or crouch in front of your partner while he is standing or sitting.

Some couples like the woman to straddle the guy’s chest. She faces southward as she would if the couple were doing 69. This can be particularly nice for the guy if staring at his sweetheart’s crotch and rear end provides an extra turn-on. But it places her mouth in a poor position to give his penis maximum stimulation. It puts her tongue in contact with the back side of the penis, which isn’t as sensitive as the front.

In the positions mentioned so far, the guy lies still, and the woman provides the up-and-down motion. Another way of doing a blowjob is where the woman keeps her head still, and the man moves his penis in and out of her mouth. The fancy term for this that nobody but priests ever use is “irrumation,” which is Latin for “altar boy, hold still!”

The position the woman sometimes takes in irrumation or “face-fucking” is on her back with her head propped up on a pillow. The man sits astride her upper body and gently thrusts his penis in her mouth. The woman lets the guy do some of the work and she has good access to his testicles and rear end, or she can easily masturbate while she’s blowing him. The couple can also alternate penis thrusting with French kissing. On the other hand, some women become bored or feel claustrophobic giving a blowjob with the guy on top, or they fear that the man might be rough or thrust too deep. Putting your hand around the shaft of his penis while he thrusts will greatly decrease any chance that he might thrust too deep.

A final position that some couples enjoy is where they lie side by side, with the woman’s mouth in front of the man’s genitals. She can lay her head on a pillow.

Deep-Throat Myth

You wouldn’t stick an entire popsicle down your throat, so why try it with a guy’s dick? Truly great blowjobs have nothing to do with deep-throating a man. Deep-throating is more of a novelty than something that makes a penis feel great. If your man insists that you deep-throat him, go to the market and buy a vegetable that’s the same size as his erect penis. Hand it to him and say, “Okay, let’s see you shove this thing down your throat!”

Also, don’t confuse a penis with a clitoris and think that every square centimeter is packed with thousands of nerve endings. As was said in the porn film
How to Perform Fellatio:
“The most sensitive part of the penis is the top part, so stop wasting your time on the bottom,” and the male actor who uttered this profound statement had a penis with a great deal of bottom part.

The average penis has certain parts that are sensitive and other parts that are mostly for show. For some guys, especially those who are uncircumcised, the head might be really sensitive. Find out how he likes you to suck or lick the head. Also, there is a sensitive nickel-sized area just below the head on the side of the penis that’s away from his body when he has an erection. It’s called the frenulum. Some guys can be brought to orgasm from stimulating this area alone. The seam of the penis that runs from the scrotum to the head usually responds to tender kisses, as does the entire scrotum.

If you still insist on deep-throating your partner, it might help if you position your body so you are either on top of the man in a 69-type position or are lying on your back with your head over the edge of the bed. These positions will help to straighten the pathway down your throat. They are better for deep-throating but not nearly as good for regular blowjobs.

Blow-Job Basics

Several tips and techniques follow for giving a really good blowjob.

Slobber:
People who are neat freaks often try to swallow all of their own drool when giving blowjobs. Such people have been known to nearly drown. Smart women let gravity carry their saliva down a lover’s penis. They can also use it as a lubricant for pumping the bottom part of the penis with one hand while doing the upper part by mouth. Don’t hesitate to toss a towel under the man’s rear or to wedge one beneath his testicles; that way there won’t be a big wet spot or stain on the mattress, couch or seat of the Greyhound Bus.

If It’s Still Soft:
Some women enjoy sucking on a soft penis and feeling it grow inside their mouth. Just because it’s soft, don’t think for a moment that each kiss, lick and suck doesn’t feel exquisite. One of the few times when a man can be totally passive and feel no need to perform sexually is while he is receiving a blowjob. Don’t assume it’s a negative sign if it takes a while to get hard or if it doesn’t get hard at all. A man can still have a lovely time with his soft penis when it is in your mouth.

Lubrication for Licking:
When you first lick a man’s genitals, coat your lips and tongue with extra saliva. This will make it feel better. Honest. If you suffer from the dreaded pre-blow-job dry mouth, try sucking on a mint beforehand to help kickstart your salivary glands. The mint might also help take the edge off the taste when the wad hits your buds. And never hesitate to keep a glass of water nearby.

Teeth:
Some women wrap their lips over their teeth when giving a blowjob, given how the mere hint of teeth on the penis scares the tar out of some men. However, a set of sexy choppers can sometimes feel erotic, assuming the girl’s not in a pit-bull mood. Some women make a ring around the penis with their thumb and forefinger. They then push their lips against their fingers which are making a gasket around the shaft of the penis. Experiment and see what you come up with.

Little Kisses & Flickering Tongues:
Never hesitate to lavish your man’s genitals or any other part of his body with little flicks of the tongue or sweet little kisses. The kisses not only feel nice, but allow you to rest your jaw without having to yell “Intermission!” It usually works better if the area you are flicking your tongue over is already lubricated with saliva or massage oil, so get it good and wet first.

Twisting Your Head:
Twisting your head when going up and down the penis (in a corkscrew pattern) provides the penis with a higher level of stimulation, especially when focused on the upper half of it.

Twisting-Corkscrew Action (for the experienced):
While on the upstroke, wait until you are halfway up the shaft and put the tip of your tongue under the ridge of the penis head. Not only does your tongue press against the sensitive frenulum while your head is twisting, but the tip of your tongue adds extra stimulation to the sensitive ridge below the glans.

A Shirley Temple:
You can lick the penis with the pointed end of your tongue, or you can soften your tongue and give it a long flat lick that covers more real estate. The latter is called a “Shirley Temple” because it’s similar to the way a person licks a big lollipop.

Partners Who Aren’t Circumcised #1:
Without retracting his foreskin, stick the tip of your tongue inside his foreskin and run it in a circle around the head of his penis. You can hold the foreskin up with your fingertips as your tongue does circles between it and the glans.

Partners Who Aren’t Circumcised #2:
By varying the level of vacuum in your mouth, see if you can make the foreskin come up and down as you bob your head.

Partners Who Aren’t Circumcised #3:
A most excellent conversation to have with a boy about his foreskin is at what point he wants you to retract it (pull the extra yardage down the shaft so the head is bare).

The Long Lick:
Mother Nature left a seam on the penis that runs from just below the head to halfway down the scrotum. Never hesitate to take a long, wet lick from beneath your partner’s testicles all the way to the tip of his penis, along the length of the seam.

Making the Foreskin Taut:
This applies as much to men who are circumcised as for those who aren’t: using your hand to pull the skin taut over the shaft of the penis can sometimes enhance the pleasure of a blowjob. It might also encourage the man to come sooner if that is what you want. Wrap your thumb and forefinger around the shaft of the penis an inch or so above the base. Then pull it down to the base. This makes the skin tighter on the penis and usually increases the sensitivity in the upper part of the penis. If he isn’tcircumcised, you may need to start higher up the shaft before pulling the foreskin down.

Pumping the Shaft:
While your lips are focusing on the upper part of the penis, there’s no reason why you can’t be pumping the bottom part of the shaft with your hand or fingers. Let your saliva flow down the shaft, lubricating both it and your hand, and start pumping. Some women synchronize the shaft pumping with their head bobbing, so their hand follows just beneath their lips at all times.

The Vacuum (Hoover Fellatis):
Some men will like it if you draw a light vacuum with your mouth. One way to draw a vacuum is to take as much of the penis in your mouth as feels comfortable, make a seal around the shaft with your lips and suck some of the air out of your mouth. Then, as you pull your head back, a vacuum is created.

Na-Na-Na-Nipples:
Some guys have nipples that are highly sensitive. Caressing them with your finger while doing oral sex might add to the man’s pleasure. The best way to find out is to experiment and seek feedback.

Inner Thighs and Other Places:
The inner thighs of both men and women can be extremely sensitive. There’s no reason why you can’t alternate a blowjob with licking and sucking on your man’s inner thighs, or caress them with a free hand.

Fingers in His Mouth:
When you are blowing him, you might try sticking your fingers in his mouth. Some guys will find this to be very erotic.

Perineum (between the Testicles and Rear End):
There is an area behind the testicles called the perineum that is often overlooked but has the potential for good feelings. Licking this area can light some men up. A gentle finger massage down here can also add a little extra to oral sex.

The Blow Hole:
You know the little slit in the head of the penis where the semen comes out? It might be fun to explore it with the tip of your tongue.

Rear End:
Some men find that a finger on or up the anus when receiving a blowjob can be enough to make the cannon fire. Some men claim that the most intense orgasms they have ever had occurred when a woman was giving them oral sex while putting a little pressure on their prostate. Other men hate this sort of thing. Also, a small vibrator up the rear might catch some men’s attention, and some couples enjoy rimming (oral-anal contact).

Visual Assist:
There are plenty of men who enjoy watching a woman give them head. Some women might be offended by the notion, thinking that this has something to do with submission. The chances are that the man is way too appreciative to be thinking about gender-power issues when you are giving him a blowjob. In her video on how to give blowjobs, porn star Nina Hartley comments, “It took me a long time to be able to do a blowjob in the light and not get embarrassed.” She apparently got over it.

Oral Intermission:
If your mouth gets tired, do him by hand for a while, or run your hair over his genitals. Or if you feel like playing with yourself, let him watch you do that. Some women say that they give their best blowjobs when they are just as turned on as their partners. Don’t be afraid to let him know about it if you are. It may help speed things up.

Tap & Hum:
It might enhance the feeling of a blowjob if you occasionally hum or tap the shaft of the penis when the head and frenulum are in your mouth.

Hot, Cold, Etc.
Don’t hesitate to suck on ice cubes to make your mouth cold, or drink hot liquids to make it extra-warm before and during oral sex.

Going Down after Intercourse:
Some women enjoy giving blowjobs after intercourse. They find it erotic to suck on a penis after it has been inside of them.