The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus (14 page)

This was obviously the response he was looking for, and Dan quickly sat on the padded bench running the length of the room. He moved Sasha so that she was cradled on his lap. Slowly, but firmly, he continued to rub her pussy through the Levi’s. He paid attention to every touch he administered, obviously on a mission. She helped, letting him know exactly what she wanted, pushing up with her hips to meet his stroking fingertips as he responded to each move. Focused on bringing her pleasure, he worked harder, firmer, then slid one finger between two buttons in the fly to touch her naked skin.

The feel of his hand on her was electrifying. Just his finger on the space above her pubic hair. Yes, of course, he’d touched her there before. But this was different somehow. Being fingered like this with her clothes still on made Sasha feel the urgency in what they were doing . He pushed down, searching , and his fingertip plunged into the wetness that had already seeped through her nether lips. Withdrawing his hand, he licked his finger clean, then resumed his pussy massage through her jeans.

Closing her eyes, Sasha stifled a moan. Christ, it felt amazing. If he touched her clit with his middle finger, pressed it right up against the seam of her Levi’s, she could come. Dan guessed this, and he sat her on one hand and did exactly what she wanted. Tapping against her clit, harder as she got closer to climax, he stroked her cunt until she was almost there. Almost—

“Take them off.”

Sasha opened her eyes, stunned, at that point of almost coming that had made her brain slow down in direct correlation to the rate that her heartbeat had sped up.

“Just to your knees. Now.”

The urgency had her fumbling. She stood, a wreck, and tried to unbutton the jeans, but her fingers were useless. Dan did the job, pulling hard and popping them open, then sliding the tight jeans down her lean thighs. He went on his knees in front of her, pressing his lips against her white panties, breathing her scent in through that sliver of cotton. Then these were pulled down, too, and he pushed her up against the cold glass of the dressing room mirror and licked at her pussy with his eager, ready tongue.

Sasha gripped onto Dan’s shoulder, breathless, as he made those crazy spirals around her clit. She’d been on the brink from the decadent pussy massage, and now Dan was replicating those actions with his tongue. Around and around the tip went. Teasing and tricking, bumping up against her clit and then leaving it alone to throb desperately, urgently. He kissed her inner thighs for a moment, to give her a chance to miss him. Then, back at the game, he nudged her clit, pushing, before finally ringing her pulsing gem with his lips and sucking. Just sucking.

Oh, yeah, Sasha thought, too tongue-tied to say the words out loud. Oh, yeah. Captured by the jeans and held upright by Dan’s hands around her waist, she let her body relax into the climax. Sliding into it. Drifting into it. Helpless to stop herself. But then, she didn’t want to stop. Did she?

When she opened her eyes, Dan was still helping—helping her take off her jeans and folding them into a neat square. “We’ll get these,” he said. “Because if you did-n’t guess from my response, I like them.”

Then he was turning her, hands flat against the mirror, his body behind her, letting her feel the promise of his cock pressed against her ass. Letting her know with a single look at her eyes in the mirror exactly what was going to happen next—

CHAPTER 8

As You Like It

I like going down on my girlfriend while she’s standing up. It’s the most comfortable position we’ve found so far. She tousles my hair and talks dirty to me while I do it, pushing my head into her pussy when she wants more.

Positions

When giving and receiving cunnilingus, the wonderful feelings are transmitted in virtually every conceivable angle—though some are admittedly easier on the neck and back than others. When considering the positioning of your two sweaty bodies, you want to factor in that you may spend a good deal of time in this position, and ask yourself, Will it be comfortable after five minutes? Ten? Fifteen? And ask your lick-ee if she will be able to relax and get into the groove of things. She may look incredible in that Yoga position, but can she come with her heels behind her neck? Probably not—but following are several excellent, tried and true positions for cunnilingus.

The Classic Position

In the classic position, she lies on her back with her legs spread, and you are on your stomach. This position is a classic for many reasons: it provides the best access to her entire genital area and allows her to lie back and completely relax and enjoy. This position allows you to easily incorporate penetration, analingus, pressure points, or any other tricks you have in store. It can get a little tiresome on your neck, but you can alleviate the strain by changing positions, using the variations, or placing a pillow under her buttocks and propping yourself up on your elbows. Following are some variations on this classic position:

• Have her raise one leg, whether it’s bent to her chest or over your shoulder.

• Place both of her legs over your shoulders.

• Have her lie down with her knees to her chest.

• Put her feet on your shoulders.

• Keep her legs flat—a great position for women who like to flex their thighs when they orgasm.

• Place pillows under her buttocks, to raise her legs, behind her back, or under your chest for your comfort.

• Try licking her from a right angle when she’s on her back. You get to lick her clit side-to-side, and she can squeeze her legs together.

• Wrap your arms under her thighs, and toward you over her hips. Pull open or massage her labia from this position.

• Grasp and lift her buttocks, supporting her hips in your hands.

He goes nuts when I sit on his face, but I can’t relax that way. I can always orgasm when I’m flat on my back, though; I’m the most comfortable that way and can concentrate.

“Sitting on Your Face”

She doesn’t actually sit on your face (unless you’re into being smothered) but kneels on either side of your head and squats onto your mouth. She can really control the action this way and can face either direction: her buttocks on your chest or the reverse, which gives her access to your genitals.

The 69 Position

There are a couple of options for the 69 position, a favorite: her on top, where she’s on hands and knees over you; you on top (same thing reversed); or both of you on your sides, which may be the most comfortable of the three. Experiment with this one to see what you both like—in fact, you should experiment with all of these positions, over and over…

The Sideways Position

When she lies on her side, you can use her thigh as a pillow from either side: lying on your left side (nose to mons) or lying on your right side (chin to mons). Very pregnant women will find this position quite comfortable.

The Doggie-Style Position

Doggie-style isn’t just for fucking. Licking her from behind while she’s on her hands and knees gives you great access and feels really good, too.

Illustration 11. Doggie-Style

The Seated Position

She can sit on the edge of the bed while you kneel on the floor with pillows under your knees. In a chair she can scoot up to the edge, or put her legs over the armrests. In fact, she can sit on the edge of anything: bed, chair, table, kitchen counter, patio furniture, swimming pool…let your imagination run wild (and always err on the side of caution in public areas).

The Kneeling Position

Kneeling when she’s standing feels pretty hot—it’s the quintessential oral sex position but is tough on the knees and provides limited access. It’s a great way to begin, but you might want to then move on to another, more comfortable and accessible position.

Cunnilingus Positions for Injured or Disabled People

Taylor is a radical artist: from her wheelchair she paints giant abstracts that are riots of violent color. She likes to lay big canvases out on her studio floor, leave the chair, and with her powerful arms, pull herself around her big paintings, leaving wet handprints on the floor, the canvas, the chair. Taylor’s eyes lit up like blue diamonds when I asked her for comments on cunnilingus.

Being her friend, I know how she came to be in the chair—a motorcycle accident that has her off booze for the rest of her life. Taylor’s spine was mostly replaced with a thin metal rod; the structure of her body was crushed. But not her sex life. She can’t move her legs, but she can feel her pussy. And she loves oral sex. Her boyfriend relishes going down on her, and they do it with abandon—he just loops her legs over his biceps, and off they go.

Taylor says everyone is “temporarily abled,” and she’s right. Our bodies—our humble homes—break down, get injured, fall ill, or just creak and ache. And by the same token, we age; into the sunset we will all eventually ride. None of this affects our will to engage in oral amour, but it can affect how we go about it.

If we are injured or disabled, props, bolsters, and pillows become our best friends. Performing cunnilingus requires putting strain and stress on the muscles that support the neck, head, tongue and jaw, and they may become sore or cramp after just a few minutes of stimulation. People with neck injuries should choose positions that support the head: sideways 69 with a pillow under your head, the woman on top, using her thigh as a pillow, or sitting backward in a high-backed chair while she’s on the kitchen counter. Folks with back injuries already know how pillows provide relief under their knees, and pillows can also go between the knees of whoever’s hurting and lying sideways. Let comfort in nonsexual situations be your guide. You may even end up with her butt sky-high on as many pillows as your chest and stomach are propped on, but if it feels good, who minds? Also, for back pain, make use of furniture such as low stools, which can be used bedside—or kitchen-table-side.

Women with disabilities will have varying capacities for receiving oral stimulation, but this depends on the type of disability and, sometimes, how far it has progressed. Needless to say, you should never consider a disabled woman asexual. Disabilities fit into various categories: mobility, communication, deafness, vision impairment, or other diagnosed conditions such as multiple sclerosis, diabetes, or attention deficit disorder (ADD).

A woman with multiple sclerosis might find genital stimulation pleasurable but may have difficulty experiencing orgasm due to partial numbness of her genitals. In some cases, women with MS may experience pain during stimulation—this is when communication is essential, especially since the effects of MS on her sexuality can change over time, making some things feel wonderful for a few weeks, then unpleasant for a while. According to
Masters and Johnson on Sex and Human Loving,
by Virginia Johnson et al., because of nerve damage about a third of women with diabetes will no longer be able to achieve orgasm by the time they have had the disease for four to six years. Oral sex may still feel delightful; be sure to check in with her about varying your level of stimulation. ADD sufferers will find that their mind is simply racing when they want to be relaxing and enjoying cunnilingus—their brain is traveling at warp speed when they just want to sustain a fantasy, or focus on orgasm. Treatment for ADD can help, but because many of the prescribed pharmaceuticals inhibit orgasm, you should stress the importance of sexual functioning to your doctor before the prescription is written.

For paraplegic and quadriplegic women, sexual function may be impaired but can be increased over time: practice, practice, practice! After a spinal cord injury, the spinal center for sexual function is generally intact; it’s the communication from brain to spinal center that’s usually disrupted. Unless some sensation in the area of her genitals remains, the usual sensation of orgasm is lost, but she may experience phantom orgasm elsewhere in her body. A playful, communicative partner goes a long way.