Unlocking the Inner Sources of Passion and Fulfillment (5 page)

Side view of female anatomy

Pelvic view of female anatomy

The clitoris is rich with sensitive nerve endings. It is by far the most sensitive tissue of a woman’s sex organs. About 70% of women achieve orgasm from clitoral stimulation.

The vagina is the next most sensitive. But the sensitivity of it varies within, some areas being more sensitive than others. Only about 30% of women achieve orgasm from vaginal stimulation alone.

The bladder has a small sphincter muscle where it connects to the urethra, which tightens up when the person is aroused. Just like you can’t urinate when you have a raging boner, a woman can’t urinate when she is aroused. This point is important when we discuss female ejaculation.

We are going to discuss male anatomy here because we will later make comparisons of it with female anatomy, for reasons that will become clear later.

Side view of male anatomy

At the time of arousal, the Cowper’s gland secretes a lubricant into the urethra to facilitate the passing of ejaculate. Sperm passes from the testicles to the prostate gland via the Vas Deferens (not shown.) Ejaculate is produced by the Seminal Vesicle and passed into the Prostate gland. A sphincter muscle at the base of the bladder blocks the passage of urine into the urethra.

At the time of ejaculation, the Prostate Gland pumps the ejaculate, including the sperm, down the urethra and out the tip of the penis.

Men typically have one type of orgasm, the penile orgasm. It corresponds to a female clitoral orgasm. There are other types of male orgasms, but that is left for a different program.

Typically for a man, orgasm and ejaculation are one and the same. But in actuality, they are two separate things. On one hand, some men ejaculate before they even have an orgasm. And on the other hand, stage hypnotists have for a long time been giving their male and female volunteers instant orgasms on command right there on stage. No sexual stimulation build-up required. No ejaculation as a result.

Most men typically have one ejaculatory orgasm, and then go into a refractory stage. This is because at the time of ejaculation, a chemical called prolactin is secreted by the pituitary glands. This chemical causes loss of erection, loss of interest in further sexual activity, and drowsiness.

Prolactin is secreted as a result of ejaculation, not orgasm. It’s not because energy is lost in the ejaculate, it’s because of that damn prolactin that is secreted at the time of ejaculation.

There is a small minority of men who do not secrete prolactin at the time of ejaculation. They do not go into a refractory stage, and thus have multiple ejaculations in one night, each being about half the volume as the previous. I have met some of these guys in the swinger community and watched them in action. They are machines.

Women actually secrete prolactin at the time of female ejaculation as well, but the hormone does not cause any refractory symptoms in a woman. This is why women are capable of many orgasms in one night.

In early fetal development, from about 5 to 7 weeks, both male and female genitalia are identical. They begin the same, but then develop differently.

View of 7 week fetus external genitalia Not drawn to scale

In the female genitalia, the phallus, what appears to be a small penis, stops developing and becomes the clitoris. In the male genitalia, it continues to grow to become the penis. (This explains why women have a clitoris, which has been a mystery to most people.)

In the female genitalia, the labioscrotal becomes the labia. In the male genitalia, it becomes the scrotum.

The urogenital sinus develops into the vagina in females, but closes up completely and does not develop in males.

The gonads (not shown) develop into the ovaries in females. In males they develop into the testicles and descend into the scrotum.

Females develop a uterus (not shown.) The uterus in males does not develop. It remains microscopically small. (Yes guys, you actually have a uterus.)

Males develop a prostate. Females actually have one too, it is called the paraurethral Skene glands. It also happens to be the G-spot.

The corresponding tissue between the two genders:

Female Male

clitoris penis

ovaries testicles

labia scrotum

vagina (never developed)

Skene glands prostate

uterus (never developed)

What is the purpose of the female orgasm? Simple. When women are naturally wired to become excited and then highly gratified by sex, it is much more likely that they will be active and avid participants in the preservation of the species. The physical purpose of the female orgasm is to cause muscle contractions to pass sperm through the cervix to enter the uterus.

Now that was easy. The hard thing to understand is why many modern day women don’t have orgasms.

30% of women have never had an orgasm. What percentage of men do you think have never had an orgasm?

70% of women cannot orgasm in intercourse. What percentage of men do you think can’t orgasm in intercourse?

How grateful do you think a woman will be when you give her her first orgasm? Or her first orgasm in intercourse? Most grateful!

How can you tell if a woman is having an orgasm? For most women, it is very obvious. They sound and act a lot like you do when you come.

But some women are very quiet when they have an orgasm. They are not expressive for any one of a number of reasons.

And many women outright fake an orgasm with her man during intercourse. This is to avoid making him feel inadequate, but often times it is just to get the sex over with because she is bored and it is starting to hurt.

Never ask a woman if she has had an orgasm. NEVER. It is your job to know without asking.

The true test to know if a woman has had an orgasm, is to place the tip of your pinky finger in her anus. If she actually has an orgasm:

There are many types of female orgasms. The two most popular are the clitoral orgasm and the vaginal orgasm.

The clitoral orgasm can be achieved by rubbing her clitoris with your finger, or by licking her clitoris with your tongue.

The vaginal orgasm can be achieved by intercourse, or by using your finger or a dildo to rub the inside of her vagina.

For women who can have a clitoral orgasm but not a vaginal orgasm, they will see to it that their clitoris gets stimulated somehow. It allows them to have an orgasm during intercourse, but requires clitoral stimulation and results in a clitoral orgasm.

But all physically and mentally healthy women are capable of having both a clitoral orgasm and a vaginal orgasm, either separately or at the same time.

Do not let a woman’s previous lack of orgasms limit your determination to give her massive multiple clitoral and vaginal orgasms.

For women who do have orgasms, most of them had their first clitoral orgasm when they were little girls about age 6. Sometimes it was caused accidentally, such as from sliding down a pole or banister. Sometimes it was from the shower when the water hit her just right. Usually it was from just experimenting with herself.

Most women use their finger or a vibrator when they masturbate. They usually have a favorite way to do it that they have become very accustomed to.

You can masturbate her in the same way. It will always feel better when you do it than when she does it. At least if you do it right. Be secure enough in yourself to ask for feedback. Ask if you should go a little slower, or a little faster, a little higher, or a little lower. Watch her carefully to gauge her.

But the one thing that women just love is getting oral sex, when her man goes down on her. Cunnilingus.

For proper cunnilingus, stick out and stiffen your upper lip. This supports the clitoris from above. Then stick out and stiffen your lower lip. This supports the clitoris from below. And then lick the clitoris up and down with your tongue.

This supports the clitoris from above and below, and provides more stimulation, and thus a more pleasurable and memorable experience for her.

After you lick her to the point where she is very aroused, then you make your lips into an “O” shape, and you suck her clit into your lips. Then hum while sucking her clit in and out of your lips. Drives 'em wild!

This is a method of stimulating the clitoris by basically grabbing it between the tips of your forefinger and thumb. You hold the entire length of the clitoris between your thumb and forefinger and slide it up towards the patch and down towards the vagina.

Hold her labia open with the thumb and forefinger of your left hand, and then place the thumb and forefinger of your right hand on either side of her clit and hold as much of it between your fingers as you can gather.

Use half inch strokes in a direction up towards her patch and down towards her vagina. This will feel incredible for her and give her a powerful clitoral orgasm.