Unlocking the Inner Sources of Passion and Fulfillment (6 page)

On later occasions, move your thumb up while moving your forefinger down, and then the thumb down and the forefinger up. It is kind of like rotating the clit. This may feel even better for her.

Then the next time you are with her, get her clit really excited and press your thumb and forefinger down hard in order to grab as much of her clit as possible. When she is really excited, her clit can actually take being handled more aggressively. Then pull the clit up in a direction away from her body and then down towards her body. She will instantly love this. It will feel as if she has a cock and it is getting jacked off. Of course, this will send her ballistic and give her a spectacular clitoral orgasm.

I learned this from a sexuality research group in San Francisco called “The Welcomed Consensus.” You can find them at welcomed.com.

I viewed a video from them called “Deliberate Orgasm.” The guy in the video showed how you must directly touch the naked tip of the clitoris at its one o'clock position (as looking AT the clit) with the tip of your index finger. If you don’t understand that, you can just rub the very tip of the clit and you will pretty much get the same results.

In the video he demonstrated on a woman. He rubbed her for about 10 minutes. All the time she was orgasmic, but she never “came.” I would not recommend that. I have a variation to that below.

Have your woman lie on her back. Apply Astroglide lubricant to your hands and to her clitoris. Astroglide is a name brand lubricant. It can be found in most any drug store. You must avoid micro scratches.

You sit to her left side and place your left arm under her left leg. Put your left fingers under her ass and press your left thumb on her perineum (between her vagina and her anus.) This makes her feel secure and anchors the clitoris.

Then place the palm of your right hand on her pubic hair. Place the tip of your right index finger to the tip of her clitoris. If you prefer, you may use the tip of your middle finger. While the tip of your index finger barely touches the tip of her clit, you rub. The rubbing is to be done with the tip of the index finger pointing straight at the clit. The strokes are about one half inch and at a frequency of about 2 strokes per second.

Continue this stimulation. Remember, the tip of your finger should just barely touch the tip of her clit. This will feel so incredible for her.

Now here’s what you do to make it really powerful. You tell her to relax. You continue the stimulation while continually telling her to relax and just feel the pleasure.

She will be in continuous total ecstasy.

You can be sure that this is different than anything she has ever experienced before.

Even when she gets really close and wants to come, tell her not to. Lighten up on the stimulation if you have to. Tell her to relax and tell her to continue to enjoy the pleasure that you are giving her body. She will be begging you to let her come.

Then, after an appropriate amount of time, tell her the following:

You: “I love giving you pleasure. And in a moment, I am going to give you an orgasm. Do you want to have an orgasm?”

Her: “Oh God Yes!”

You: “How badly do you want to come?”

Her: “Oh God! So Bad!”

You: “When I say the words ‘Come Now’ you will instantly have an orgasm.”

Then you make the stroking firmer to give it more stimulation, and then you say to her in a commanding voice: “Come Now!”

She will have an explosive orgasm. While she is coming, further plant the command for her to come. This associates your voice, telling her to come, with her orgasm.

Here’s the key point: To her, from her perspective, it will appear as

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This demonstrates to her that her sexuality is brought to life when

she surrenders herself to you! It benefits her for her to follow your commands, and to do as you say.

This also commands respect. She takes what you say much more seriously now. And as a result, she has more respect for you!

Remember, it’s not that you make her come, it’s that you have a lot to say about WHEN she comes.

Do you see how this is all so very powerful? It is effective sexual techniques enhanced by effective mental techniques.

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Have your woman lie on her back with her legs open and knees bent. Sit next to her waist facing her feet. Use your thumb and forefinger of your left hand to hold open and apart her labia. Then use your ring finger and middle finger of your right hand, with the tips of the two fingers a little more than an inch apart, and lightly press the pads of your fingers against her skin under her labia. Slide your right hand up and down on either side of the opening of the vagina. This will put pressure on the skin over the body of the clitoris. It is best when used with Astroglide lubricant.

This stimulation will give her an orgasm that will feel like a blend of both a clitoral and vaginal orgasm.

Interestingly, a few women masturbate like this.

Certainly no man has ever done this to her before. And she will be quite surprised, and pleased, to feel it.

The area between the clitoris and the vagina, which includes the opening of the urethra, is called the U spot.

Many women find stimulation of the opening of the urethra to be irritating. But some women absolutely love it.

With one woman that I was dating, we were lying next to each other and talking and touching after making love. I was touching her pussy and enjoying how wet she was. I slid her wetness up towards her clitoris. I started lightly rubbing my finger up and down between her vagina and her clitoris, without going as far up as to actually touch her clitoris. Interestingly, she responded very nicely to this.

I continued. She said, "David, you make me feel so wonderful!" Then she had another orgasm.

Begin by spreading her vaginal lubrication up over her urethra, almost to her clitoris. Use lots of lubrication. Feel free to use Astroglide.

With lots of lubrication, to make it very slippery, and to avoid scratches, lightly rub up and down, just touching the opening of the vagina on the way down, and just touching the bottom of the clitoris on the way up. Use light pressure.

The U spot can be used for extended orgasms, because it does not touch the tip of the clitoris which becomes too sensitive after an orgasm.

The vaginal orgasm is the female orgasm caused by stimulation of the vagina. Women describe it as “deeper” and “more fulfilling” than the clitoral orgasm.

While 70% of women have had a clitoral orgasm, only 30% of all women have ever had a vaginal orgasm.

Most women have used only clitoral stimulation when they masturbate. In fact, through years of masturbating only their clitoris, most women have become dependent on their clitoris to have an orgasm.

And then when she is with a man, and they have intercourse, she doesn’t have an orgasm.

Why most women never have a vaginal orgasm could be due to any number of reasons, but for many women, it is because she just doesn’t believe that she is one of “the fortunate ones.”

That is what we call a self limiting belief.

It has been said by many people that a woman needs clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm. That is not true. A woman can have an orgasm from vaginal stimulation alone, with no touching of the clitoris. A woman can have an orgasm from anal stimulation alone. A woman can even go to a stage hypnosis show and be given an instant orgasm on command with no stimulation whatsoever. There is absolutely nothing that is keeping a woman from having a vaginal orgasm except her own self limiting beliefs.

with only vaginal stimulation.

Now let’s discuss forms of vaginal stimulation. . . .

In 1880, Dr. Skene wrote of paraurethral glands (on either side) of the female urethra.

In 1944, Dr. Grafenberg and Dr. Dickinson wrote about an erogenous zone in the tissue located between 1) the front wall of the vagina and 2) where the urethra meets the bladder.

In 1950, Dr. Grafenberg wrote that this area enlarges with sexual stimulation and swells during orgasm.

In 1982, R.N. Whipple and Dr. Perry proposed that the G spot is the Skene glands, or basically, the female equivalent of the male prostate.

The G spot is about 1 ½” to 2 ½” inches inside the vagina along the front wall.